Have you tried oils/gels that specify a tingling warm sensation? and has a peppermint or cinnamon ingredient to it? I really enjoy the warm sensation and helps make it more sensitive. I have a really hard time achieving an orgasm naturally. My tried and true is a clit SUCKER, works every damn time. Unfortunately its machine made and not partner driven but can use it to have fun together. It's been extremely rare to orgasm just from oral or finger but clit sucker for sure enables me to have one each time we are intimate. Prior to discovering it there were many encounters I just had to live without. Not anymore!!!