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Will be having sex first time with a new partner - should I bring toys?

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Contributor: Dominica Dominica
Well, this is new to me. Usually, the topic of sex toys was brought up long before we talked about having sex with every new partner I had. It's different this time. I don't know their feelings toward the topic, but I got so used to my little gadgets I cannot come without them. Can I bring at least something? Something super non-intimidating, maybe a tiny bullet. Or a small plug? I don't know. I feel like they might be offended, but on the other hand, they are quite open-minded and I am almost sure they use sex toys themselves. I'm not a particular fan of talking, and I'm afraid it may ruin the spur of the moment. What do you think, guys?
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Contributor: CrazyMike CrazyMike
If I were you, I would. Something fun, even flirty - would work great I guess. Nothing oversized and too realistic although.
07/30/2018
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Dear Dominica, I would suggest talking first. After all, everything should be consensual, and you might think your partner is down to play with toys, but they might not be as comfortable with the issue. I think it would be cool and a very mindful gesture if you slip it in the conversation, without making it obvious, That way you'd still be able to surprise your SO, but at the same time you will show care and thoughtfulness.
07/31/2018
Contributor: Lituonan Lituonan
I will communicate with my partner, I am very willing to use sex tools. I will be very happy if she agrees.
08/04/2018
Contributor: NikitaMaxine NikitaMaxine
Be honest, discuss it ahead of time. If they don't use them, try to come to a compromise.
08/04/2018
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Big fat NO ! Wait till it's right. One can just toy solo until the right time. Toy before the hookup. He'll be thrilled to discover you're so wet and ready. Could be your secret. Or he'll think he did it. Build up his self esteem.
08/09/2018
Contributor: Stellar Stellar
In the matters of sex toys and sex, in general, surprises are usually not the best thing, especially at the beginning of a relationship. Even being driven by the best intentions, you might frighten or even traumatize a person you want to be intimate with. Even when you are in a long-term relationship and know each other quite well, you should NEVER act on any sexual fantasies if you never spoke to your partner about it. You will demonstrate respect by asking first. Good luck!
08/10/2018
Contributor: Dominica Dominica
Wow guys thank you so much for your feedback. Didn't expect so many answers. Luv ya

Although I'm a bit confused - the comments are mostly saying that I should talk about it first, but the votes are pro surprising my partner.
08/10/2018
Contributor: Dominica Dominica
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Originally posted by Dominica
Wow guys thank you so much for your feedback. Didn't expect so many answers. Luv ya

Although I'm a bit confused - the comments are mostly saying that I should talk about it first, but the votes are pro surprising my partner.
I think I'm gonna try to mention it before actually doing smth.
08/10/2018
Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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02/19/2019
Contributor: Wildwestbabe Wildwestbabe
No, I wouldn't suggest that just quite yet. Its to soon I think. I would give the am a chance to see how his skills are in bed. First
02/20/2019