Stress is pretty much my main one, if too much is going on in my life to be able to focus on the pleasure I just can't get off.
Poll: What Are Your Instant Orgasm Killlers? - from Em and Lo
08/26/2010
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Being rushed ruins it for me too!
Originally posted by
P'Gell
Being rushed. When I know we have to get out of bed at a certain time, especially in the morning, I can't orgasm. The feeling, "OMG, I need to hurry, he has to leave for work in 20 minutes." kills the orgasm for me nearly every time.
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Being rushed. When I know we have to get out of bed at a certain time, especially in the morning, I can't orgasm. The feeling, "OMG, I need to hurry, he has to leave for work in 20 minutes." kills the orgasm for me nearly every time.
Kids using our bathroom, which is right next to and connected to our bedroom (there's a door from the hallway, so they can use it.) When someone is on the toilet, they are, like, only a few feet from my head, with only a thin wall and a thin door between us. WHO could enjoy sex in that situation? I have got to the point, where I'll tell the little one, "Daddy and I need some privacy. If you need to use the Potty after we go to bed, please use the downstairs bathroom." If she remembers, it's OK. Once she fell asleep on the toilet downstairs, and I didn't find her until several hours after we were done. I felt awful. She was fine, though. less
Kids using our bathroom, which is right next to and connected to our bedroom (there's a door from the hallway, so they can use it.) When someone is on the toilet, they are, like, only a few feet from my head, with only a thin wall and a thin door between us. WHO could enjoy sex in that situation? I have got to the point, where I'll tell the little one, "Daddy and I need some privacy. If you need to use the Potty after we go to bed, please use the downstairs bathroom." If she remembers, it's OK. Once she fell asleep on the toilet downstairs, and I didn't find her until several hours after we were done. I felt awful. She was fine, though. less
08/26/2010
I LOVE it when he tells me to cum - and I even liked it when he told me NOT to, said I wasn't allowed to cum until he told me to. LOL I let him get away with stuff that I would have eviscerated other men for.
The baby crying is probably the biggest thing that will stop me dead in my tracks. There is no sex at that point, kitchen is closed, the well has run dry, Mommy-brain has kicked in.
The baby crying is probably the biggest thing that will stop me dead in my tracks. There is no sex at that point, kitchen is closed, the well has run dry, Mommy-brain has kicked in.
08/26/2010
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I was having trouble achieving orgasm with PIV sex when we first started out, so the boyfriend tried to be encouraging by saying things like "that's right... cum!" While I appreciated the sentiment, it was just never that effective.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
Him, right in the middle of some good fucking, suddenly blurting 'Are you going to come for me?' Ugh, now I have to perform??
Other major turn off: vomit. Just aggghhhh. No thank you.
08/26/2010
For me it is my cellphone. Since I am "on call" for a substantial number of hours, I have to be reachable. I have to check if its work and if not "try" to continue. Not always successful...
08/26/2010
Well that would have to be when my brother starts knocking on the door asking what we're doing. Doesn't help that my brother is younger than I am. Or that he was imitating my noises.
10/17/2010
I'd have to say the kids interrupting is the number one thing. However, my mother recently was injured and moved in with us til she's able to take care of herself and yeah...having mom in the next bedroom puts a damper on things especially when she gets up and walks around while I'm trying to get mine - blah. Hubby usually laughs about it and that just makes it worse.
10/17/2010
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Unless were permanatly interrupted with say a house guest, we usually can get right back on track with a little time and play
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
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11/11/2010
I'm an RA in a dorm, and if there's a knock at the door I just lose it completely.
11/11/2010
Her dog staring at me is kind of creepy haha
12/08/2010
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An irritated sigh from my partner or my partner not involved in the process (irritated, asleep, distracted by television >.<)
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
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Imagine you’re on the uphill path to physical bliss, whether traveling alone or with a partner…you’re almost at the edge of that climactic cliff! We just asked our EMandLO.com readers the following, and want to know how EdenFantasys members compare: What it would take to trip you up, to send you falling backwards down the hill, never to see that potential orgasm again (at least not in this session)? A phone call, a phone call from your mother, a pet staring at you, hearing your kids in the other room, your partner suddenly attempting dirty talk…and failing, an uncontrollable thought about some life stress, the doorbell, an ill-timed toot….? We want specifics! Not only the hypothetical (what you imagine would be a definite deal breaker), but also anything that has actually stalled your O-engine in the past.
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12/08/2010
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ROFL I ALWAYS have to laugh when Arch will look at me AFTER cumming inside me and ask if I had taken my BC...I'm like too late now if I didn't! We just laugh but it is sort of a serious question since he and I are apparently VERY fertile together.
Originally posted by
PolyGirl
Yeah, absolutely hate the "cum for me" nonsense. Excuse me, but I'm cumming for ME and stop rushing me already. I had another one once who started questioning the birth control AFTER we were already doing it... sheesh....
12/08/2010
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OH YES! When I'm trying really hard and My Mister sighs because I haven't cum yet and "it's late and I'm tired." Well, why did you even START?!?!?! UGH!
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
An irritated sigh from my partner or my partner not involved in the process (irritated, asleep, distracted by television >.<)
The "Cum for me," or "good girl" (and we're not role playing)... yeah.. ew. or "oooh, do you like it? huh?" *G.A.G.* If I wanted to listen to porno talk, I'd have watched a porno.
12/08/2010
For all you pet having people, this happened to a friend, NOT us (as we are a pet-free household).
So, they had a kitten. Door open and the cat is in the room. He's going at her pretty hard. Cat sees things swinging in the air. Cat was not declawed. Cat declawed VERY soon after.
Enough said.
So, they had a kitten. Door open and the cat is in the room. He's going at her pretty hard. Cat sees things swinging in the air. Cat was not declawed. Cat declawed VERY soon after.
Enough said.
12/08/2010
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Should have seen our kitten in the early morning when my ex-husband was still asleep in bed and she saw something move under the blanket. Not like she was damaging anything he was using.
Originally posted by
BBW Talks Toys
For all you pet having people, this happened to a friend, NOT us (as we are a pet-free household).
So, they had a kitten. Door open and the cat is in the room. He's going at her pretty hard. Cat sees things swinging in the air. Cat was ... more
So, they had a kitten. Door open and the cat is in the room. He's going at her pretty hard. Cat sees things swinging in the air. Cat was ... more
For all you pet having people, this happened to a friend, NOT us (as we are a pet-free household).
So, they had a kitten. Door open and the cat is in the room. He's going at her pretty hard. Cat sees things swinging in the air. Cat was not declawed. Cat declawed VERY soon after.
Enough said. less
So, they had a kitten. Door open and the cat is in the room. He's going at her pretty hard. Cat sees things swinging in the air. Cat was not declawed. Cat declawed VERY soon after.
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Not declawed, and he still got her in the divorce.
(Sorry for being off-topic, carry on.)
12/08/2010
When my kitty tries to snuggle on my chest while I'm playing. She's so cute and innocent and that kills it for me.
12/08/2010
When our kid's door opens, I can hear it and things come screeching to a halt. Quickly.
Like a lot of you, the time crunch is a mood killer.
Above all, though, boredom. Repetition, or 'what works' once or twice to put me in my happy place quickly becomes tiresome. If we don't change it up frequently I feel like he's going through the motions to get me off (check), get off himself (check), and get it over with. I would much rather have a varied, surprising romp and not finish rather than the A+B+C=orgasm method. I guess the thought process means a lot to me. ~ Arms
Like a lot of you, the time crunch is a mood killer.
Above all, though, boredom. Repetition, or 'what works' once or twice to put me in my happy place quickly becomes tiresome. If we don't change it up frequently I feel like he's going through the motions to get me off (check), get off himself (check), and get it over with. I would much rather have a varied, surprising romp and not finish rather than the A+B+C=orgasm method. I guess the thought process means a lot to me. ~ Arms
12/08/2010
The race against the clock and pain are my orgasm killers. I love morning nook, but it is really all about him (and I am all good with that) on a weekday and he needs to be out the door in 20 minutes; however on the weekend when the teenager is sleeping 'til noon or any other time of the week I am all good.
I love my nipple clamps, but don't try to rip them off in the middle of an orgasm and please, please don't smack my ass as hard as you can once I start to come.
I love my nipple clamps, but don't try to rip them off in the middle of an orgasm and please, please don't smack my ass as hard as you can once I start to come.
12/08/2010
Being sad, feeling rushed, my partner seeming tired or disinterested, random headaches or needing to pee...there are quite a few things, I guess. The worst are feeling rushed or like my partner doesn't give a crap about my orgasm. It makes me sad and pisses me off at the same time. Doesn't happen often, but when it does, bleh.
12/08/2010
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god yes, why do they think that's awesome.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
Him, right in the middle of some good fucking, suddenly blurting 'Are you going to come for me?' Ugh, now I have to perform??
12/08/2010
Hearing people in the other room, or when my roommates come home. Then I just can't "get it up" anymore metaphorically speaking of course. Lol
12/08/2010
When I hurt her...I'm limp automatically. I don't ever want to cause her pain. Also, if I've done something and she says no...She's been raped and I would never want to bring back memories but I feel so guilty anyway because I wish I could have stopped it...and I go limp automatically when that happens.
12/12/2010
My dog doing a belly flop onto my bed (which he loves to do when he wants me to throw the tennis ball for him). It's an instant mood-killer. Or feeling like someone is watching me, opening my eyes, and seeing my cat staring at me from atop my dresser with a "WTF?" look on his face. I'd shut the door, but both of them are used to free run of the place and they scratch at the door if it's shut.
01/15/2011
Random sex injuries, even if they're not serious. If I whack my head on the wall or an elbow gets misplaced for some reason I start laughing so hard and it ruins the moment for me.
Also, one day I looked up and my pet snake (his tank it next to my bed) was watching us. It weirded me out a lot for some reason.
Also, one day I looked up and my pet snake (his tank it next to my bed) was watching us. It weirded me out a lot for some reason.
01/16/2011
Thank god my kids are grown, because that used to be an instant mood killer... when they woke up or cried. Now, it is usually one of two things: the phone ringing or a cramp. Leg cramps are the WORST!
01/16/2011
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Interuptions. Blah!
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
Imagine you’re on the uphill path to physical bliss, whether traveling alone or with a partner…you’re almost at the edge of that climactic cliff! We just asked our EMandLO.com readers the following, and want to know how EdenFantasys members compare:
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Imagine you’re on the uphill path to physical bliss, whether traveling alone or with a partner…you’re almost at the edge of that climactic cliff! We just asked our EMandLO.com readers the following, and want to know how EdenFantasys members compare: What it would take to trip you up, to send you falling backwards down the hill, never to see that potential orgasm again (at least not in this session)? A phone call, a phone call from your mother, a pet staring at you, hearing your kids in the other room, your partner suddenly attempting dirty talk…and failing, an uncontrollable thought about some life stress, the doorbell, an ill-timed toot….? We want specifics! Not only the hypothetical (what you imagine would be a definite deal breaker), but also anything that has actually stalled your O-engine in the past.
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10/17/2011
Dirty talk, especially being called a slut. I've had issues with depression all my adult life, and anything even close to shame/humiliation just makes me feel like a bad person who needs to go hide in a hole for a bit. I like being commanded and controlled, but anything that makes me feel devalued just kills everything.
10/18/2011
Being called "little girl" is a definite mood killer. It takes me from "Gonna cum" to nada in 5.2... And then there was this one time he decided to tell a joke about pregnancy mid-sex... That ended badly.
10/18/2011
We were talking about this last night, and I have very few instant and automatic orgasm killers. I can recover from almost anything without losing the mood. I can push through some pain - but any really intense pain (like from a kidney stone) would do it, OR being walked in on. I sometimes find it really hot to be asked to come, but other times it seems more like nagging or begging. And while I'm not into that, and it might make it a little harder for me to come, I can still manage to do so.
10/18/2011
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flashbacks to sexual trauma. and they happen often. completely kill it, oftentimes i dont even want him to kiss me after that. it just feels disgusting.
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
Imagine you’re on the uphill path to physical bliss, whether traveling alone or with a partner…you’re almost at the edge of that climactic cliff! We just asked our EMandLO.com readers the following, and want to know how EdenFantasys members compare:
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Imagine you’re on the uphill path to physical bliss, whether traveling alone or with a partner…you’re almost at the edge of that climactic cliff! We just asked our EMandLO.com readers the following, and want to know how EdenFantasys members compare: What it would take to trip you up, to send you falling backwards down the hill, never to see that potential orgasm again (at least not in this session)? A phone call, a phone call from your mother, a pet staring at you, hearing your kids in the other room, your partner suddenly attempting dirty talk…and failing, an uncontrollable thought about some life stress, the doorbell, an ill-timed toot….? We want specifics! Not only the hypothetical (what you imagine would be a definite deal breaker), but also anything that has actually stalled your O-engine in the past.
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also his dad and sister have a horrible tendency to call during sex. and i have a tendency to push mute on his phone. to which he gets all upset because his dad will get upset that he's rejected the call. so we have to stop fucking so he can call his dad and do cartalk til the weiner i'm still trying to work on slumps down back into a little pile of limp manmeat. so sad.
10/18/2011