Do you have Orgasm Issues?

Contributor: Sweet-n-Playful Sweet-n-Playful
So I just finished reading and reviewing a book called "The Elusive Orgasm", which is a self-help guide for women who have issues reaching orgasm. So I was wondering, just how many ladies out there have experienced problems with this?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I have never had an orgasm
ArcaneBlast , karenm , rainingapricots , Britt93 , Deeder , JennSenn
6
I can orgasm alone, but not with a partner
unfulfilled , Sinfully , Fiona , edeneve , MsGoosie , redhotsinglemama , emiliaa , Geogeo , kipkipface , Hummingbird , IvyFayette , falalena , Trixxxy , Genderfree , dks210 , lilyflower
16
I can only orgasm if I drink first
falalena
1
I have off days, but I usually have no problem
married with children , solitudinarian , leanright69 , Thumper Logic , travelnurse , Supervixen , Gunsmoke , pirata , Ivanna , Pink Lily , WhoopieDoo , - Kira - , Charry , Synthete , Isola , Septimus , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , LuluWilliams , emiliaa , bayosgirl , Rossie , charmedtomeetyou , Mrs.Tee , llellsee , CaliGirl , null , XxFallenAngelxX , novanilla , leilani , nosrslylol , Trysexual , mpfm , tovehunter , Bethy Cassatt , Xerobound , breakfastonpluto , Meido , P'Gell , LikeSunshineDust , Vanille , nikki0668 , TheirPet , IvyFayette , Hoshigetsu , Kitka , EdenUser , LavenderSkies , SMichelle , joiedejouets , LadyJiyae , DigitalSweety , Missy27
52
I used to orgasm easily, but lately it's been hard
bettle590 , liljeepr , tortilla , anonymous1298304 , captainsgirl , noway
6
I never have any issues orgasming
sXeVegan90 , travelnurse , Cat E. , Girly Juice , Stagger13 , GirlOnGirl , TrenchcoatHunters , Bignuf , lainebug , shorejen9 , Marie Hanna , Pandwhora , brevado , Violet October , woodsdragon
15
Total votes: 96 (92 voters)
Poll is closed
11/09/2012
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Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
I don't have any issues myself.
11/10/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
when she relaxes, she orgasms easily.
11/10/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
I had problems when I first starting having sex, but now on most days I am able to.
11/10/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
I would say I have issues because I cannot reach orgasm every time I would like. I do orgasm most times with PIV sex, but I have never had a g-spot orgasm. I can no longer orgasm during masturbation without a toy. But I want to note that this is why I got toys. The inability to reach orgasm was the catalyst for toy purchases, not the result of toy use. I have also gotten several kegal enhancing products and that helps improve orgasms too.
11/10/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I have issues, and it's the reason I came here in the first place. I can't orgasm with a partner at all no matter how much I want to and we try. The only way I can get off at all is clitorally and I just was able to do that within the year. (I was 30 when I achieved my 1st clitoral orgasm) I have never had a vaginal or g-spot orgasm.
11/10/2012
Contributor: Thumper Logic Thumper Logic
Usually I'm able to, but some days it just doesn't happen...
11/10/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I have issues sometimes, but toys help a lot.
11/10/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I can orgasm when I'm alone but sometimes have difficulty doing so with a partner. It just depends.
11/10/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
As we get older - both my wife and have occasional issues. Toys usually solve the problem - but not always.
11/10/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
I'm very happy to say that I have no trouble in that area. *smiles*
11/12/2012
Contributor: Ivanna Ivanna
I have off days, but I usually have no problem
11/12/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
I can orgasm just fine but not w/ a partner that's so, so.
11/13/2012
Contributor: Girly Juice Girly Juice
I can always orgasm, as long as I haven't already orgasmed earlier that same day, though I have an occasional day where I have to break out a super strong vibrator to make it happen.
11/14/2012
Contributor: Pink Lily Pink Lily
I usually can orgasm, but sometimes it just isn't happening. Sometimes when I'm trying something new I (obviously) have some trouble so I just revert back to my old standby techniques.
11/15/2012
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I never have issues when I'm alone. If I'm with a partner it's easier if I'm comfortable with the person.
11/15/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Sweet-n-Playful
So I just finished reading and reviewing a book called "The Elusive Orgasm", which is a self-help guide for women who have issues reaching orgasm. So I was wondering, just how many ladies out there have experienced problems with this?
Luckily never had any issues.
11/16/2012
Contributor: linnlinn linnlinn
I hate those off days
12/01/2012
Contributor: Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
I usually don't have issues.
12/01/2012
Contributor: ArcaneBlast ArcaneBlast
I've never had one ever. No clue what I'm doing wrong either. Oh well
12/05/2012
Contributor: Septimus Septimus
I have issues once in a while, but I know that it's not a big deal. I can relax and just enjoy what I'm doing even if I know I'm not going to be able to come. The important part is to remember that if it feels good, just go with it.
Another great book about orgasms is I Love Female Orgasm. I wrote a review recently, and I really loved the book!
12/05/2012
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
Always need some 'help'...which is a bit of downer, but only if you over-think it.
12/16/2012
Contributor: Sweet-n-Playful Sweet-n-Playful
Quote:
Originally posted by Septimus
I have issues once in a while, but I know that it's not a big deal. I can relax and just enjoy what I'm doing even if I know I'm not going to be able to come. The important part is to remember that if it feels good, just go with ... more
I did see that book listed as well Glad you had good results with it!
12/21/2012
Contributor: Sweet-n-Playful Sweet-n-Playful
Quote:
Originally posted by chicmichiw
Always need some 'help'...which is a bit of downer, but only if you over-think it.
Yep, me too. If its during intercourse, I need a vibrator to climax. I can climax during oral though.
12/21/2012
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I love the 'only if I drink first' option. xD Reminds me of certain characters I play at timesss.
But it's more like, for me, I occasionally have trouble (with or without a partner) but it's usually ok. MUCH more issues with partners, though, I can almost always masturbate successfully.
12/21/2012
Contributor: TrenchcoatHunters TrenchcoatHunters
Quote:
Originally posted by Sweet-n-Playful
So I just finished reading and reviewing a book called "The Elusive Orgasm", which is a self-help guide for women who have issues reaching orgasm. So I was wondering, just how many ladies out there have experienced problems with this?
Have not had a problem with it
12/22/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by Sweet-n-Playful
So I just finished reading and reviewing a book called "The Elusive Orgasm", which is a self-help guide for women who have issues reaching orgasm. So I was wondering, just how many ladies out there have experienced problems with this?
im interested that others can only orgasm alone too!
12/22/2012
Contributor: Sweet-n-Playful Sweet-n-Playful
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
I love the 'only if I drink first' option. xD Reminds me of certain characters I play at timesss.
But it's more like, for me, I occasionally have trouble (with or without a partner) but it's usually ok. MUCH more issues with ... more
Ha! I actually got the idea for that option out of the book. It was one of the types discussed
12/22/2012
Contributor: charmedtomeetyou charmedtomeetyou
I read that book too, and I found it really interesting.

I orgasm easily and multiple times. I don't like all this buzzy clit stimulation that seems to be popular with lots of ladies. Those orgasms feel awkward and shallow to me...with none of the depth of sensation that the ones I usually have give me. I orgasm internally from oral, manual or vaginal stimulation with toys or a penis.....and I can ride the wave of orgasms to have lots and lots. The book was fascinating to me, because I know my own body, and I know that what works for me might not work for others....but we're complicated creatures, you know? How much is mental and how much is physical?

It was a cool read.
12/26/2012
Contributor: Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
Quote:
Originally posted by Sweet-n-Playful
So I just finished reading and reviewing a book called "The Elusive Orgasm", which is a self-help guide for women who have issues reaching orgasm. So I was wondering, just how many ladies out there have experienced problems with this?
When i was younger i did. Now that im older and know my body alot better I dont, but i still have my off days, as everybody does.
12/26/2012