Hello everyone, am I the only one who has extreme difficulty achieving an orgasm even through clit stimulation? I have never been able to orgasm through clit stimulation (only through mental stimulation and VERY rarely). I have tried a wand, several air pulse vibrators, and a bullet vibe and nothing has worked for me. It may be because I do have a hard time relaxing, but when I do feel relaxed and grab a toy, most of the time I use it for nearly an hour, and still cannot achieve orgasm. I am very sexually frustrated and feel like my body needs that sexual release (I have not orgasmed in a very long time). I would greatly appreciate any advice or toy recommendations. Thank you
Orgasm advice
Nana1218
08/14/2021
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Nana1218
Hello everyone, am I the only one who has extreme difficulty achieving an orgasm even through clit stimulation? I have never been able to orgasm through clit stimulation (only through mental stimulation and VERY rarely). I have tried a wand, several
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Hello everyone, am I the only one who has extreme difficulty achieving an orgasm even through clit stimulation? I have never been able to orgasm through clit stimulation (only through mental stimulation and VERY rarely). I have tried a wand, several air pulse vibrators, and a bullet vibe and nothing has worked for me. It may be because I do have a hard time relaxing, but when I do feel relaxed and grab a toy, most of the time I use it for nearly an hour, and still cannot achieve orgasm. I am very sexually frustrated and feel like my body needs that sexual release (I have not orgasmed in a very long time). I would greatly appreciate any advice or toy recommendations. Thank you
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You're not alone in regards to having difficulty achieving an orgasm. I'm a male who has been trying to achieve a p-spot orgasm for several months. I have tried many p-spot and anal toys to assist, but so far no luck. After reading your post, it looks like we both have a problem with relaxing enough to let our bodies satisfy our sexual needs. I have read articles written by fellow EF community members that express the need for some people to be completely relaxed in order to orgasm. Easier said than done!
I recommend enjoying a nice hot bubble bath with a lavender scent. Lavender is a known relaxing scent that helps the body release stress. When you have reached the state of total relaxation, while still in the bath, begin using your fingers to excite your clit. The hot water will aid in the stimulation as well. Try not to concentrate on this activity, but close your eyes and tilt your head back and imagine that your partner is the one caressing your clit and outer rim of your vagina. As the sensations increase, begin to rub harder and slightly faster. Insert your index and middle fingers into your pussy and use your thumb to continue the clit stimulation. Slowly move your fingers in and out of your now soaking wet pussy (it's already wet from the water but you now have vaginal juices flowing to heighten the sensation).
At this point you should start to feel the beginnings of a climax. If there is any stress remaining, don't hesitate to become vocal. Sexual moaning and "dirty" talk not only releases pent up energy, but also adds verbal sexual stimulation. Achieving orgasm is closer than ever! You can continue using your fingers more rapidly or reach for your favorite waterproof vibrator and let the intense vibrations take you to the promised land! I hope this works for you.
Feel free to message or email me if you would like to share your experience and let me know if this process worked for you. -4ever18
08/19/2021
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You're 100% not alone. 40% of all women struggle with some type of sexual difficulty at some point in their life, so it's okay, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you at all. I'm personally anorgasmic, meaning I have never had an orgasm ever, because of likely my illness and medication but what's really helped me make strides in at least getting CLOSE is giving yourself all the time you need, relaxing, and really focusing on yourself and what you're feeling.
Originally posted by
Nana1218
Hello everyone, am I the only one who has extreme difficulty achieving an orgasm even through clit stimulation? I have never been able to orgasm through clit stimulation (only through mental stimulation and VERY rarely). I have tried a wand, several
...
more
Hello everyone, am I the only one who has extreme difficulty achieving an orgasm even through clit stimulation? I have never been able to orgasm through clit stimulation (only through mental stimulation and VERY rarely). I have tried a wand, several air pulse vibrators, and a bullet vibe and nothing has worked for me. It may be because I do have a hard time relaxing, but when I do feel relaxed and grab a toy, most of the time I use it for nearly an hour, and still cannot achieve orgasm. I am very sexually frustrated and feel like my body needs that sexual release (I have not orgasmed in a very long time). I would greatly appreciate any advice or toy recommendations. Thank you
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Do whatever you need to 'set the scene' if you will, light a candle, make sure you're bed or wherever you plan to pleasure yourself is nice and comfy, dim the lights; make it seem special in any way you want.
More importantly give yourself plenty of alone time so you don't have to rush anything, I'm talking 2-3 hours of just YOU time.
And once you're all settled in and know there's absolutely no pressure and no rush. Slowly begin introducing sensations to yourself in a way that isn't pressuring or stressful, I highly suggest doing some research on erogenous zones and exploring what you enjoy involving them. You can work up to bigger things as you go but foreplay, even with just yourself, can really help. As you move to more deeply pleasuring yourself, really think about how the sensation is making you feel. Focus on those feelings and those feelings alone because this is about YOU and you alone. This should really help you figuring out what sensations you like and dislike and being able to move on from there.
This is kind of optional advise that might also work but try masturbating more often. It sounds odd I know, but it's an extremely healthy activity for your body and mind and by exposing yourself to sensations repeatedly and regularly it could help you become more accustomed to them and make them much more enjoyable gradually ESPECIALLY coupled with the previous steps. Psychologically speaking you can start training your brain to associate the comfort you feel from the atmosphere you create for yourself with the sensations of masturbating, helping you enjoy the experience that much more
I really hope this helps some, remember you aren't alone!
11/23/2021
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