My wife and I have no shame about masturbation, nor do we consider it to be a threat to our marriage. Nevertheless, neither of us enjoys solo love very much. What we have together is amazing, but it would be a neat change if she and I could both discover a much deeper masturbatory sex life. I'm hoping that people here can point me toward good resources, whether they're books or internet sites. I will ask that if you suggest something that includes explicit photography, you at least warn me about it. My wife and I prefer to exclude porn and erotica including real people from our marriage wherever possible.

What we're looking for is more a list of great techniques, breathing exercises, and mood setters that will help us tune out of reality and into our own bodies in new and exciting ways. We don't need a book about overcoming personal shame, or accepting our bodies as clean. In particular I'm having trouble finding information written for a male audience. It seems that sexologists assume men just want to beat off to porn, and so they focus all of their attention on women's needs.

Any suggestions? We'd appreciate it.