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Ladies help, how do I jump start my wife's sex drive again?

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Contributor: Husband and Wife Husband and Wife
Please help ladies, my wife and I used to have sex like 5 times a week, now that she is 30 it's barely 5 times a month!!
09/17/2013
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I have to honestly say when I first opened this post I thought "how arrogant"...a woman in her 30's should be experiencing a jump in her sex drive not a decrease. So there are any number of things happening here: hormonal imbalances, issues in your marriage, she's tired/stressed/overwor ked and the worst case scenario is that she's not attracted to you anymore.

If you want to help her, talk to her. Find out what's going on in her mind and go from there.
09/17/2013
Contributor: Sincerely yours, N Sincerely yours, N
You should talk to her about it, see what she likes and doesn't like, maybe spice up your love life, but really just talk to her about it. Be supportive and understanding; a lot of things change in a woman's life after 30.
09/17/2013
Contributor: Husband and Wife Husband and Wife
Thank you both!! I will be talking to her tonight
09/17/2013
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Husband and Wife
Thank you both!! I will be talking to her tonight
Just approach it as a "what can I do to make it better for you", instead of the typical "I'm not getting what I want and this is upsetting me" train. Should go over much more smoothly that way.
09/17/2013
Contributor: Bubba29 Bubba29
i am not a lady, i am a husband who has gone through this. i think as men, we have to continue to work to be the most attractive man we can while also being a great lover. she will up her game as you up yours.

also, foreplay should last all day. give her a long, deep kiss when you get home. make her feel sexy throughout the day (texts, emails, and phone calls). sex has to be on her mind more often than when you request it just before bed. get to know her cycle. ovulation is usually 12-16 days after the first day of her period. be aggressive around that time. she should be more receptive. you may have to work harder at it around days 20-28 as she will be less receptive and less orgasmic.
09/17/2013
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Um, reading your recent posts, I'm royally confused. You get caught by your neighbor as you're being pegged by your wife and yet you want to jump start her sex drive? Does not compute...
09/19/2013
Contributor: Bubba29 Bubba29
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Originally posted by Ansley
Um, reading your recent posts, I'm royally confused. You get caught by your neighbor as you're being pegged by your wife and yet you want to jump start her sex drive? Does not compute...
thx for putting this together. that pegging post was the most unusual thing i've ever read.

want to jump start things with your wife, lay off the drugs.
09/19/2013
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Sorry to hear of this. Take this lightly if you are earnest. Maybe you should spend more time with her doing some things she enjoys and less time on this website. Seems like you or the 2 of you have been on here a lot lately.

Again, take this with a grain of salt. I'm currently not working and spend my day outdoors or doing chores. Only come here for change of pace and spice up my day.

Also look at what you have, not what you don't have.
09/19/2013