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It's very hard for me to cum without clit play involved....

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Contributor: CaliGirl CaliGirl
It seems that I can only climax when I have my clit stimulated...Any suggestions on other things I can try to overcome that.
06/20/2012
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Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Buy vibrators/dildos that are specifically shaped to hit the G spot and learn to know how to hit the right spot, then you can try to recreate it with a partner.
06/20/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Yup, you can try to work on stimulating your G-spot which will allow you to orgasm in a different way. Really though, most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. So you're totally normal.
06/20/2012
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
It's totally normal to need clitoral stimulation in order to come. I'm the same way, you can play with my G-Spot all you like but if you actually want me to orgasm, I need a finger or a toy on my clit.
06/20/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
I am the same as Vanille. I buy the 4-5 vroom vibrators and hell...I don't need a man!!!
06/20/2012
Contributor: HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
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Originally posted by CaliGirl
It seems that I can only climax when I have my clit stimulated...Any suggestions on other things I can try to overcome that.
I agree with Geogeo. Remember though that women are the ones that can climax mentally. Studies have been done to prove the biggest erogenous zone on a woman is her brain. We rule!!
06/20/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
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Originally posted by CaliGirl
It seems that I can only climax when I have my clit stimulated...Any suggestions on other things I can try to overcome that.
i'm the same way. G-spot stimulation is great too - trying having a G-spot curved dildo like fun factory's curve inside you... easiest if worked by a partner. vigorous or slow movement stimulating the G-spot coupled with clitoral stimulation via vibrator help me come.




also, note there's nothing wrong with only coming with clitoral stimulation. as i said, i'm the exact same way. i will NOT come unless there's a vibe on my clit, going strong.

good luck!
06/20/2012
Contributor: Calla Calla
I can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation too. When I first started having sex I thought there was something wrong with me. Then I found out that most women are the same way. If that's what I need to orgasm, then that's what I need, and I don't worry about it.
06/21/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I think I've had one G-spot orgasm, using a vibe for over an hour, and nowadays I'm not 100% sure it happened because it was so low-key. My clit, though? Works every time.

Most women can only climax clitorally (or take a shit-ton of effort to do so vaginally), so don't worry, you're totally normal. You can try various things (a good G-spot toy, for example), but don't fret over it.
06/23/2012
Contributor: CaliGirl CaliGirl
Thanks I feel better now
06/24/2012
Contributor: LunaLuthor LunaLuthor
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Originally posted by CaliGirl
It seems that I can only climax when I have my clit stimulated...Any suggestions on other things I can try to overcome that.
try watching porn or reading stories until you can't take it, like really get to the brink then try penetration
07/08/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by CaliGirl
It seems that I can only climax when I have my clit stimulated...Any suggestions on other things I can try to overcome that.
Why would you need to "overcome" it? Clitoral stimulation is the way most women are able to orgasm.

Yes, some women can come from G Spot play, and some love it. But, not everyone is able to gain G Spot orgasms or (like in my case) G Spot Orgasms alone, without a clitoral orgasm along with it in a Blended Orgasm, are unsatisfying for them.

Other women ONLY have G Spot orgasms, and those work really well for them. Everyone is different and being capable of one type of orgasm over an other isn't "better" or more mature or anything like that. ALL orgasms originate from blood congestion in the clitoris, and the surrounding area. Even G Spot orgasms, the G Spot is kind of the "back" of the clit, as the clitoris extends into the vagina and "forks" around the vagina and behind the Urethral Sponge, that houses the "G Spot."

There's nothing wrong with working towards a G Spot orgasm, but don't think clitoral orgasms are inferior or you "have to" only have orgasms during intercourse. The majority of women NEED clitoral stimulation, direct or diffuse, to orgasm.

There's nothing wrong with you and if you are having orgasms, your response is normal.

Here's a diagram of what your clitoris looks like inside your body. The "glans" is the little bulb that you can see, the rest is inside and under tissue around your vagina and behind your G Spot. Behind the joining of the Crura (arms) of the clit is the G Spot (about where it says "excited girl.")



The ovaries in this diagram are a little misdrawn, but the clitoris and its scope are spot on.
07/08/2012