I have achieved orgasm many, many times before, but only from toys. I've never had one during sex. I've determined that the toys that are most effective are rabbits and other dual stimulators, preferably with rumbly vibrations instead of buzzy ones. This led me to believe that if I found a rumbly vibrator for external stimulation, I could use this during sex to achieve orgasm, but no luck so far. Even when I search for ones that are pretty similar to the clitoral attachment on rabbits.

I've found that when using a small vibrator for clitoral stimulation during sex that it does feel good, but before long that good feeling kind of fades away in a way that doesn't happen with a rabbit unless I've been going a LONG time and haven't orgasmed yet. So now, sitting here thinking about it, I can't help but wonder if it's some sort of mental block. There's no question that your brain can be your best friend or your worst enemy in the bedroom. Perhaps I have issues with control. Maybe my brain is afraid of putting my pleasure in someone else's hands, of being completely vulnerable. Does anyone have any insight? Any suggestions? less