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Beating the heat: How to keep good sex alive when it's a million degrees out?

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Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
So it's already REALLY hot and if you live in an urban area (concrete jungle, baby!) or down south (how do you people do it?) suddenly EVERY thing seems 10x harder due to the heat. You put off peeing because it means moving, which means exerting energy, which means sweating. Cuddling up and doin' it for hours in a snow storm was romantic, but now when your partner sidles up for a kiss you shriek like they just burned you with a hot poker and demand they "GET THE FUCK OFF!!!! ARE YOU CRAZY?!?!" Then you stick your head in the freezer and cry out of sexual frustration and heat exhaustion.

So how are you all handling it? Is it taking its toll on your sex life? I have to be honest, the hot weather always seems to decrease the awesomeness of mine. How do you get by?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Tracing your partner's genitals with ice pops - nevermind the yeast infections and pest invasions! Maybe the roaches wanna threesome a la Kafka?
Engage in unexplored dolphin fetish sex - in the (veryveryvery cold) shower. Practice "eek eek click" sounds and spouting water out of your mouth at partner.
ToyGurl , Sammi , Naughty Student , Owl Identified , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , emiliaa , [Red] , Pixie5 , FemmeFlo
9  (19%)
Masturbate alone in air conditioning, fall asleep, vow to find time for sex during the next rainstorm.
PassionQT , DeliciousSurprise , padmeamidala , namelesschaos , Dusk , Istanbull , Ghost , ily , ghalik
9  (19%)
Other (PLEASE explain - I am suffering here!)
KaraSutra , indiglo , newfoundlust , ss143 , babyrock , Jobthingy , MaryExy , DCorrelle , LennaKieran , oohlookasquirrel , SuperSarah116 , js250 , daniel and frances , CAKES , The Curious Couple , Gunsmoke , MN58 , Caprieclipse , Ava5 , daveysgirl , bayosgirl , potstickers , Bignuf , eroticmutt , LavenderSkies , Harpina is gone , PropertyOfPotter , RomanticGoth , Nkev , StephieBoo02
30  (62%)
Total votes: 48
Poll is closed
06/01/2011
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Contributor: KaraSutra KaraSutra
Ice cubes, cool glass/metal products, Touche Ice(link) and turning a fan on you when you do it. Gotta admit, having your hair blowin while you're doing it is pretty awesome.
06/01/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
It does make it harder, because we both get worn out a lot quicker when it's hot, and it's hard to feel sexy when you're gross and sweaty from just doing something small. A few things we'll do that do help some are: wait till the heat of the day is over, take a cool shower, drink lots of fluids, and don't have sex under the covers.
06/01/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
So it's already REALLY hot and if you live in an urban area (concrete jungle, baby!) or down south (how do you people do it?) suddenly EVERY thing seems 10x harder due to the heat. You put off peeing because it means moving, which means exerting ... more
We live in the deep south. We are both native southerners so it is something we are used to. However, we use AC, cold drinks (why do you think frozen margaritas are so popular in the south?, seriously lots of hydration, ceiling fans. And, while this may seem counterintuitive, take a hot shower, I mean really hot, then turn it to cold and feel the chill. Alternatively, as we did last night, hit the hot tub with cold drinks, then get out after a while. Man, the room felt positively great, even though it had felt hot 30 minutes earlier.
06/01/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We're lucky enough to live in So CA the ceiling fan gets a workout in the summer and the AC in Aug & Sept - otherwise we love the cool feel of glass and metal toys in the summer.

We love a bit of sweaty sex followed by a romp in the shower and an encore if we're up to it.
06/01/2011
Contributor: ss143 ss143
Cold drinks air conditioning fans cool shower sex is fun. We don't let it bother us we are usually hot and sweaty afterwards so it makes no difference to us
06/01/2011
Contributor: babyrock babyrock
I like to fool around in the shower.
06/01/2011
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
A/C on (if you dont have one a good fan will help) and often it ends up to be cool shower sex.

(your poll results are killing me btw)
06/01/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by Jobthingy
A/C on (if you dont have one a good fan will help) and often it ends up to be cool shower sex.

(your poll results are killing me btw)
Thanks. So far cool shower sex OR a cool shower right after seems to be what we're doing.
06/01/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by newfoundlust
We live in the deep south. We are both native southerners so it is something we are used to. However, we use AC, cold drinks (why do you think frozen margaritas are so popular in the south?, seriously lots of hydration, ceiling fans. And, while ... more
Now THAT is an idea I hadn't thought of. Coming back to the room after running errands or something, I always feel like it's so cool. Very good idea, I'm making a note of it! The other problem for me is that the heat just saps my energy as well. Even when I can stand the heat, I need a boost of caffeine most evenings to be able to do anything more than a quickie.
06/01/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
You gotta love a somewhat cold shower in the summer, makes for nice sex even if there's a struggle. Just use an oil based lube and you're good to go! Buying a nice fan could also help
06/01/2011
Contributor: LennaKieran LennaKieran
Welcome ice to your sex life, and point a fan at the bed.
06/01/2011
Contributor: oohlookasquirrel oohlookasquirrel
Step 1: Hop in the shower for a minute to make sure nobody is sweaty. Step 2: Get a couple glasses of ice water, and point a fan at your bed. Step 3: Have hot, sweaty sex on your fresh sheet. Embrace the sweat. If you or your partner is super stinky right after a shower, somebody needs to drink more water and see a doctor about that. Step 4: Get back in the shower and rinse off the sweat.

Repeat as necessary. Breaks for an energy boost (AKA ice cream) are encouraged at any point in the process.

If you are truly tired and want to get off together without showering, get on opposite sides of the bed and watch each other masturbate. You can even have a race if you're in a hurry. Sex toys are encouraged.
06/01/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by oohlookasquirrel
Step 1: Hop in the shower for a minute to make sure nobody is sweaty. Step 2: Get a couple glasses of ice water, and point a fan at your bed. Step 3: Have hot, sweaty sex on your fresh sheet. Embrace the sweat. If you or your partner is super ... more
Haha such a cute response. I actually really support the idea of a sugar rush before, during or after to keep energy up - I think I will be trying this soon. Not to mention, ice cream? Cold andddd delicious
06/01/2011
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Air conditioner on full-blast, honey. It's the only way to do it in the South. (But I somehow keep ending up with guys who prefer it warmer than I do!)
06/01/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
So it's already REALLY hot and if you live in an urban area (concrete jungle, baby!) or down south (how do you people do it?) suddenly EVERY thing seems 10x harder due to the heat. You put off peeing because it means moving, which means exerting ... more
Put toys in the freezer, take a cold bath or shower and use ice cubes as stimulants.
Oh, do not forget the fans!!! In front of the AC.

Doggy-style but standing in front of fridge with door open.

In a cool to cold bath or shower.
06/01/2011
Contributor: daniel and frances daniel and frances
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
So it's already REALLY hot and if you live in an urban area (concrete jungle, baby!) or down south (how do you people do it?) suddenly EVERY thing seems 10x harder due to the heat. You put off peeing because it means moving, which means exerting ... more
Air conditioning or no sex.
06/01/2011
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Ah, I can just imagine playing dolphin in the shower - sounds much better than Kafka a trois

Once I can actually shut the heater off, then I might have to opt for having sex in the basement, which is usually reasonably cool.
06/01/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Oh I love it when my partner is all sweaty and slippery!
06/01/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
DOLPHIN SEX ALL THE WAY!!!!!

Seriously though, we get it on when it is cooler. We have done it in the pool and spa a few times. Doing it in a lake would be cool too.

We try to do it with the AC or we'll head towards the coolest room of where ever we are (best place is usually the basement.

We don't get it on if it's super humid, cause our skin is all sticky. But summer sex is hot, and sweaty. It's awesome. I feel like I'm working out even more although am barely moving
06/01/2011
Contributor: CAKES CAKES
Put a glass or steel toy in the freezer for a few minutes. It would be like the popsicles without unpleasant side effects.
06/01/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
We love pulling our steel toys in the freezer when it gets hot outside!
06/01/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Hilarious poll. xD I suggest A/C and maybe some cooled-down-toys like people said.
06/14/2011
Contributor: MN58 MN58
Well its currently 108 degrees outside and well the AC is always on so we never really have to keep it alive lol
06/15/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Central air. It's a nifty little invention.
06/15/2011
Contributor: [Red] [Red]
Rock the dolphin sex.
06/15/2011
Contributor: Caprieclipse Caprieclipse
besides the ac, there is ice cubes, cold showers with out the dolphin noises lol!
07/13/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
We've set the central air at a comfy 78 degrees, so summer heat is not an issue when it comes to love-making.

I don't want to brag about it, but the outdoor temperature is a breezy 68 degrees right now! Guess that's one good thing living in the Northwest!
07/13/2011
Contributor: newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
We've set the central air at a comfy 78 degrees, so summer heat is not an issue when it comes to love-making.

I don't want to brag about it, but the outdoor temperature is a breezy 68 degrees right now! Guess that's one good ... more
Dear Lord that sounds nice. We are hitting high 90's with basically 100% humidity down here in the deep south.
07/13/2011
Contributor: Ava5 Ava5
play in the shower
08/04/2011