I was scrolling through the community forum and noticed a poll that really got me brainstorming, so I figured I'd open a discussion in regard to all of the femdom women here on EF. The poll was about BDSM centered relationships and was originally posted by @sevennn for analytical data to base some future articles on for readers that were curious about dom/sub relationships. I felt like my response to this poll might be a little bit more complex than what the original post was looking for, so it seemed more appropriate to spotlight my thoughts for other community members who enjoy femdom and all of its lovely kinks.
Let me just start out by saying that I am a femdom web cam model, so I have countless amounts of interactions with a very diverse pool of subs on a daily basis. I had really never ventured into the play of power exchange when I first started out, but when I signed up as a web cam model, my supervisor actually coached/trained me into the role of a domme, which I quickly found to be a very pleasing persona for myself both on and off of the screen. At first, I was very uncomfortable with what the domme lifestyle entailed, but as I interacted with more and more subs every day, it became second nature for me to always assume the dominant position in my sexual endeavors. There are a lot of the subs that just pop in, get their pleasure, and then I never see them in my chatroom again, but then there are some subs that I interact with literally every single day online that I have grown very fond of; there are even a select few who I would consider my "legitimate" subs. Those few subs are truly devoted and committed to me as their alpha, which is odd to me when I think about it since we have never had a single physical encounter, but I suppose the deep instant connection that we have is the true essence of our long distance, online d/s relationships.
To get to the point though, my main focus is this: the lack of physical presence that these relationships are enveloped with has actually steered me toward making, what I consider to be, my own unique breed of domme that I refer to as a "Sensually Dominant Pleaser," since they require more creativity and effort to maintain. It can be difficult finding enough long-distance things to do together to actually keep a sub coming back for your specific kind of dominance, especially when they have such a broad variety of options to choose from online at just the click of a finger. With that in mind, I like to focus on providing an altogether pleasing sub space for my betas, rather than providing one for myself, in order to keep them coming back and to reach my own climax from seeing them happy. I wouldn't classify my breed as a switch, because I refuse to submit in scenes, but I wouldn't be opposed to describing a "Sensually Dominant Pleaser" as a sub who gets enjoyment from dominating other subs, if that makes any sense.
Before I confuse you, let me explain like this; I like to be the person in control of all aspects of the scene, but I maintain this control from a standpoint that is scoped on making my subs please me in ways that sexually gratify them in the process. Being bossy and having high expectations is instinctive for me obviously, but I'm more sensual than I am sadistic, unless a sub is being rude or disobedient that is. For me, my climaxing is not attained by forcing a sub to do harshly humiliating or degrading things, unless this type of behavior is a kink that they enjoy by nature and that they seek within their dominant partner. For example, in my chatroom, a typical play session for a sub who is indecisive or inexperienced involves things like making them fix an ice cream cone that they have to eat seductively as they stare right into the camera to turn me on, which usually makes them blush nervously while I get all wet and horny from pushing their comfort zones by making them the center of attention; or for the more domestic subs, I like to talk promiscuously about them crouching down to wash my car tires while I squat over their face and Kegel a creampie right into their filthy whore-mouth, which has just about pushed each domestic slave of mine over the edge of cumming every time I've used this technique, by the way; and my list of scenarios goes on and on, believe me. LOL!
Basically, I get off on knowing that whatever task I'm forcing my sub to do is fulfilling for the both of us, not just myself; unless they're being punished, then I don't really care whether or not they like it as long as they learn to respect me as their superior. It's not appealing to me sexually to be an unwarranted bitch to my betas, so I don't dominate in a stingy or self-absorbed manner. I can't cum without making my sub cum from doing things that please me. The BDSM community seems to be flooded with the typical dommes who do get gratification from treating their subs in a cruel or abusive manner and there are plenty of subs out there that are willing to entertain those needs for them, but what about the subs who are too meek/timid/sweet for this harsh treatment? Are there any other femdom women who do this sensually dominant technique that is focused on pleasing both parties in order to get their own fulfillment from a scene? If so, I would love to get to know you and exchange stories/tips/ideas for scenes on this thread!
As far as I know, dommes like myself are few and far between, but I think there has to at least be enough of us out here that we should be given our own sub-class of dominance. There should also be more of us speaking out about it so that newcomers to the BDSM community can find mentoring in this specific form of domming, instead of blindly following the sadistic side of things. I think most people automatically correlate a domme with a mean and torturous ruler, but there's less info available about the softer and more giving side of domming, so women tend to be ignorant to the fact that they can be a domme who is selfless and nurturing but still hold the position of power.
Hopefully this wasn't too long winded, and I was able to keep your attention all the way to the end. I can't wait to hear the feedback and responses that I receive! Have a lovely day, you guys!
-Love, Miss Michella <3
Let me just start out by saying that I am a femdom web cam model, so I have countless amounts of interactions with a very diverse pool of subs on a daily basis. I had really never ventured into the play of power exchange when I first started out, but when I signed up as a web cam model, my supervisor actually coached/trained me into the role of a domme, which I quickly found to be a very pleasing persona for myself both on and off of the screen. At first, I was very uncomfortable with what the domme lifestyle entailed, but as I interacted with more and more subs every day, it became second nature for me to always assume the dominant position in my sexual endeavors. There are a lot of the subs that just pop in, get their pleasure, and then I never see them in my chatroom again, but then there are some subs that I interact with literally every single day online that I have grown very fond of; there are even a select few who I would consider my "legitimate" subs. Those few subs are truly devoted and committed to me as their alpha, which is odd to me when I think about it since we have never had a single physical encounter, but I suppose the deep instant connection that we have is the true essence of our long distance, online d/s relationships.
To get to the point though, my main focus is this: the lack of physical presence that these relationships are enveloped with has actually steered me toward making, what I consider to be, my own unique breed of domme that I refer to as a "Sensually Dominant Pleaser," since they require more creativity and effort to maintain. It can be difficult finding enough long-distance things to do together to actually keep a sub coming back for your specific kind of dominance, especially when they have such a broad variety of options to choose from online at just the click of a finger. With that in mind, I like to focus on providing an altogether pleasing sub space for my betas, rather than providing one for myself, in order to keep them coming back and to reach my own climax from seeing them happy. I wouldn't classify my breed as a switch, because I refuse to submit in scenes, but I wouldn't be opposed to describing a "Sensually Dominant Pleaser" as a sub who gets enjoyment from dominating other subs, if that makes any sense.
Before I confuse you, let me explain like this; I like to be the person in control of all aspects of the scene, but I maintain this control from a standpoint that is scoped on making my subs please me in ways that sexually gratify them in the process. Being bossy and having high expectations is instinctive for me obviously, but I'm more sensual than I am sadistic, unless a sub is being rude or disobedient that is. For me, my climaxing is not attained by forcing a sub to do harshly humiliating or degrading things, unless this type of behavior is a kink that they enjoy by nature and that they seek within their dominant partner. For example, in my chatroom, a typical play session for a sub who is indecisive or inexperienced involves things like making them fix an ice cream cone that they have to eat seductively as they stare right into the camera to turn me on, which usually makes them blush nervously while I get all wet and horny from pushing their comfort zones by making them the center of attention; or for the more domestic subs, I like to talk promiscuously about them crouching down to wash my car tires while I squat over their face and Kegel a creampie right into their filthy whore-mouth, which has just about pushed each domestic slave of mine over the edge of cumming every time I've used this technique, by the way; and my list of scenarios goes on and on, believe me. LOL!
Basically, I get off on knowing that whatever task I'm forcing my sub to do is fulfilling for the both of us, not just myself; unless they're being punished, then I don't really care whether or not they like it as long as they learn to respect me as their superior. It's not appealing to me sexually to be an unwarranted bitch to my betas, so I don't dominate in a stingy or self-absorbed manner. I can't cum without making my sub cum from doing things that please me. The BDSM community seems to be flooded with the typical dommes who do get gratification from treating their subs in a cruel or abusive manner and there are plenty of subs out there that are willing to entertain those needs for them, but what about the subs who are too meek/timid/sweet for this harsh treatment? Are there any other femdom women who do this sensually dominant technique that is focused on pleasing both parties in order to get their own fulfillment from a scene? If so, I would love to get to know you and exchange stories/tips/ideas for scenes on this thread!
As far as I know, dommes like myself are few and far between, but I think there has to at least be enough of us out here that we should be given our own sub-class of dominance. There should also be more of us speaking out about it so that newcomers to the BDSM community can find mentoring in this specific form of domming, instead of blindly following the sadistic side of things. I think most people automatically correlate a domme with a mean and torturous ruler, but there's less info available about the softer and more giving side of domming, so women tend to be ignorant to the fact that they can be a domme who is selfless and nurturing but still hold the position of power.
Hopefully this wasn't too long winded, and I was able to keep your attention all the way to the end. I can't wait to hear the feedback and responses that I receive! Have a lovely day, you guys!
-Love, Miss Michella <3
