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Contributor: BlueFeather21 BlueFeather21
My wife would really like to start trying anal sex, but we are having a few issues.

We started off very slow, with light touching down there for her, then eventually rim jobs. Now she really enjoys to be lightly fingered down there. We use plenty of lube, but if I go more than inch or so inside her she says she begins to feel like she needs to have a BM.

Are there any tips to overcome this feeling? Is she simply not relaxed enough, or do we just need to work up to deeper penetration slowly?

How can we work through this?
07/24/2014
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Contributor: dv8 dv8
The feeling's normal so don't worry about overcoming it. If her bowels are empty, you shouldn't have any problems.
07/24/2014
Contributor: BlueFeather21 BlueFeather21
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Originally posted by dv8
The feeling's normal so don't worry about overcoming it. If her bowels are empty, you shouldn't have any problems.
We are not worried about an accident or anything like, she just doesn't like the feeling. Does that feeling go away with practice?
07/25/2014
Contributor: dv8 dv8
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Originally posted by BlueFeather21
We are not worried about an accident or anything like, she just doesn't like the feeling. Does that feeling go away with practice?
Like I wrote, the feeling's normal: You're applying pressure to her rectum and thrusting in and out of it; the sensation's going to resemble the feeling of having a BM.

Maybe practice with some fingerfucking or use small dildos.
07/25/2014
Contributor: BlueFeather21 BlueFeather21
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Originally posted by dv8
Like I wrote, the feeling's normal: You're applying pressure to her rectum and thrusting in and out of it; the sensation's going to resemble the feeling of having a BM.

Maybe practice with some fingerfucking or use small dildos.
Thanks. After practicing enough regularly using fingers and small dildos will that feeling start to go away as she becomes more used to it?
07/27/2014
Contributor: dv8 dv8
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Originally posted by BlueFeather21
Thanks. After practicing enough regularly using fingers and small dildos will that feeling start to go away as she becomes more used to it?
You keep missing my point: having something come out of your ass feels like having a BM. That shouldn't be a surprise. If you're having anal sex, the sensation isn't something you try to make go away.

If your wife learns to tolerate it or even like it, that's a different matter. If she doesn't like it, she doesn't like it.

Why don't you finger your own ass or use a small dildo so you understand what's going on?
07/28/2014
Contributor: irishlove irishlove
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Originally posted by BlueFeather21
My wife would really like to start trying anal sex, but we are having a few issues.

We started off very slow, with light touching down there for her, then eventually rim jobs. Now she really enjoys to be lightly fingered down there. We use ... more
Try using plugs. We recently had anal for the first time. I have two different plug sizes. I really got into using them while he eats me out. Just remember that the anus is a muscle. You have to relax it BUT there is a second muscle barrier you have to relax once you get past the first. I was tired of not feeling comfortable so I got super drunk the other day when we tried it for the first time. Now that the first experience is over, I think it'll be easier.
12/03/2014
Contributor: bluepeg bluepeg
I can't totally speak for my wife but she said the same thing our first few tries about it feeling like she had to have a BM. I think she has relaxed and became more comfortable with it since then. I know the couple times she had some wine beforehand she was a wild woman. Analese might be worth a try also. Or get an anal trainer kit with graduated size plugs. Just my .02 cents
12/03/2014