My wife and I have both been turned off to anal sex throughout most of our lives but have recently begun to experiment with it. It's often amazing for me but not the best I've ever had. She tries to enjoy it and says she wants it to be good for me, but has never had an orgasm via anal and often needs me to finish quickly.

I love my wife desperately; I never want to do anything that hurts her or diminishes her to a sex object. Her pleasure is more important to me than my own is. I want to believe that with gentle and consistent practice, communication, and trust we can build this up into something that blows her mind—but I'm not sure if that's possible.

Ladies, have any of you who *love* anal sex today ever hated or disliked it? Was it possible for you to "grow into it," and if so what advice would you give my wife/us?

I want to believe that one day, just the thought of me in her ass will make my wife cream herself, but I'd rather give it up entirely than subject her to something she can't learn to enjoy or benefit from.

Thanks in advance. less