Any tips on pegging?

Contributor: rbruning rbruning
My boyfriend is really interested in this, any tips?
06/09/2012
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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06/09/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Work up to it. Start with finger play or handheld toy play, and make sure you figure out what type of stimulation works best.

When and if you're both ready go shopping together for a harness and dildo. Look for one that's about 1.25-1.5" in diameter minimum and at least 5.5" long so it doesn't pop out or get too floppy.

Check the forums and various other web resources, but don't get porn for ideas.
06/09/2012
Contributor: Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
start small!! lol see how he likes it and then maybe go bigger if he thinks he can
06/09/2012
Contributor: Loriandhubby Loriandhubby
Echoing what everyone eles has said.

I would also like to add, when considering a harness look for one that you feel will allow you to be stimulated also. This really adds to the experiance. I have the bare as you dare and a leather one. the bare as you dare is my favorite by far. Simple because of the middle strap.

When actually trying, we started with him proped up in doggie positon on a few pillows. It was much easier. Also, a curved dildo should always be pointed twords his navel.

the only other thing I can think of that would have helped us to know when starting out is make sure to reapply lube after a bit. this seems to help my Hubby feel more relaxed. Also, although I wanted to, Hubby said going slow and easy rather than thrusting at first felt a lot better.

I hope this helps. Have a blast! Pegging really can be a quite enjoyable experiance for you both.
06/09/2012
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Communication. Warm up. LUBE. Take it slow!
06/09/2012
Contributor: Ryan221 Ryan221
ow, not for me
06/10/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by rbruning
My boyfriend is really interested in this, any tips?
1. FINGERS FIRST. Make sure he enjoys having your finger in there. It helps YOU to learn his curves and anatomy too. CLIP YOUR FINGERNAIL SHORT or OFF on that finger (he will look at that short nail and always LOVE you for it...by the way), and then use LUBE, more LUBE and then EXTRA lube.

2. Pick out a HARNESS together. GO SLENDER and SOFT with your first choice of dildo's. ASK HIM if he wants it to LOOK REAL (my hubby does NOT) or look fantasy (we BOTH like NON REAL colorful toys).

3. GO SLOW and LISTEN. He controls how fast, how deep..etc. SAME AS IF HE WERE IN YOUR TUSH.

4. Remember, unlike a penis, a dildo does NOT get tired or CUM and get soft, so at some point, HE has to say "enough" and make it be time to stop.

5. After pegging him, I always have him enjoy my tail end. It keeps it real and also makes it a mutual experience. Works for us! We both love it, anyway.

6. I am the odd woman who does not, and never did, enjoy DOGGY STYLE ANAL (love it for vaginal....just not anal, it HURTS me). SO...while I LOVE anal, I only do it on my back (legs up high, butt on pillow), or laying on my left side with my right leg bent high. Thus, I put him that way too...and he says it IS more comfortable then doggy style. I happen to love licking him back there, as part of oral sex, so I sometimes tell him to get on all fours and put his tush in the air, but that is only to lick and maybe finger him. Just not for pegging.

7. If I didn't mention it....LUBE, LUBE, and MORE LUBE. Then use some extra LUBE!!!!!

Have fun.
06/10/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Doggie or bent over the edge of the bed/furniture makes it easy to see the anus and get your dildo inserted, but I'll echo Mrs. Bignuf's comment that classical doggie just isn't that comfortable for me. If you want something similar you might try it without being bent over as much. If not you can always insert and get warmed up in doggy and then move to something else.

When you go to insert it sometimes helps if you stop playing with the penis. For some people, playing with the penis causes the anus to contract. Once you're in and he's a little warmed up you can go ahead with the handjob.

Definitely turn the curve towards the prostate - that and use long strokes when he's ready for thrusting (keep it in place for a while at first, then use some short strokes to get everything lined up inside).

Know that he probably won't stay hard the whole time. If his penis goes soft this isn't something bad.
06/10/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by ScottA
Doggie or bent over the edge of the bed/furniture makes it easy to see the anus and get your dildo inserted, but I'll echo Mrs. Bignuf's comment that classical doggie just isn't that comfortable for me. If you want something similar you ... more
VERY good advice. Interestingly, this is the one activity that my hubbys penis can be rock hard while I am doing it, or limp as can be. Never can figure what I am doing different. After a while, however, if he is limp, I might leave the dildo in him, take the harness off, and then give him a wonderful BJ. That always perks him right up and POW, he has an amazing orgasm. Immediately taking him, then, into MY tush is the ONLY time he has EVER cum twice..and stayed hard after an ejaculation.
06/11/2012
Contributor: rbruning rbruning
gosh, y'all thanks for all the advice.
06/16/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Bignuf
VERY good advice. Interestingly, this is the one activity that my hubbys penis can be rock hard while I am doing it, or limp as can be. Never can figure what I am doing different. After a while, however, if he is limp, I might leave the dildo in him, ... more
As I said, don't worry about it. Look at everything else to see if he's liking it.

I have no idea why, but the penis is not a good indicator of pleasure for pegging, and if you stop to try and make sure he's hard it just breaks up the fun (and it can get in the way of a "handsfree" orgasm if he can get them).

While it's not strictly accurate, I hear once "don't pay attention to the penis because his pleasure and attention are elsewhere".
06/17/2012