My first sexual experience, besides oral, was as a teen, when my then boyfriend wanted to have sex, but didn't want to worry about birth control. Anal it was. He was skilled, experienced and patient, making my "first time" pretty awesome. My hubby, likewise, dated a girl who was totally into anal (and saving her vagina for her husband, so she said). In any case, he was "well schooled" when years later we became a couple. Thus, for us, there was zero waiting. It was always part of our sex life. I am sorry you obviously had a bad experience ("didn't want to try again afterwards for a long time"). I hope that has turned around for you. Anal is such an intimate, bonding, trust based and extremely sensual and highly erotic activity, with intense feelings (good ones, if done right), for both parties. I cannot imagine our love life without it!