The New Intimacy

Regardless of if YOU indulge in anal sex, do you consider it a "KINK" or a "NORMAL Vanilla" sexual activity?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Anal sex, like oral sex goes back thousands of years. Look at ancient drawings from the far east or even the "picture menu" from brothels in Pompeii. There is NOTHING new under the sun.

However, as of just a few years ago, ORAL sex was still considered a "taboo" kink. Now it is considered real Vanilla sex..and in some cases, not even "full sex"!!!

Now, the question of ANAL. Some people do it to "keep their virginity" and also say "it is not FULL sex", and others seem to use it as a regular "vanilla" activity (like US).

SO...what do YOU think? Is ANAL SEX still a "kink" or is it "normal, vanilla" sex in 2012?
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Anal sex has become "just another average sex act".
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Anal sex is still a fringe "kink"
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Total votes: 74 (72 voters)
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09/13/2012
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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09/13/2012
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
No consensual sexual activity is abnormal and there's no such thing as normal anyway.
09/13/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
I think it is part of normal consensual sex, if you want to do it, do it! Hey being gay used to be in the psych manual DMS4 as a deviancy and now it's a choice!!
09/13/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
For me, anal sex is still a kink, I only want it when I'm feeling naughty.
09/13/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I could be wrong - but anal sex way too common to be real kink. That's not to say everyone does it or likes it - it's common and in my mind uncommon and kink go together.
09/14/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
I don't do it but I don't think it is considered vanilla.
09/14/2012
Contributor: Upyourreviews Upyourreviews
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Anal sex, like oral sex goes back thousands of years. Look at ancient drawings from the far east or even the "picture menu" from brothels in Pompeii. There is NOTHING new under the sun.

However, as of just a few years ago, ORAL sex ... more
I'm not into anal, but regardless I think it depends on the person. All forms of kinky play are only kinky depending on the person. Some people think being on top is kinky for a woman, lol.
09/14/2012
Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
I wouldn't consider it 'vanilla' because one person could view it as kinky and another could consider it normal.
09/14/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
vanilla
09/14/2012
Contributor: Eve12 Eve12
i think it's pretty normal, but still one of those things that is considered at least semi-kinky by many..

i know ive had a lot of people act quite shocked that i actually have done/do this xD
09/14/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Anal sex, like oral sex goes back thousands of years. Look at ancient drawings from the far east or even the "picture menu" from brothels in Pompeii. There is NOTHING new under the sun.

However, as of just a few years ago, ORAL sex ... more
First I want to know who decides what is "vanilla" and what is "taboo" and secondly, I want to know who made the decision that this so called "vanilla" sex was not good sex? It baffles me. Sexual activity has become a trend, and personally, I just do what I like in bed, despite what everyone else is following. I don't do anal sex and I personally think these crappy labels are bad for people who are just opening up to spicing up their marriage. We're told that vanilla is boring. So, if oral sex and PIV sex is considered boring, why the hell do I love it so much? I'm certainly not bored if I'm moaning and coming.

Also, if we're supposed to be getting "harder" and harder to become UN-VANILLA and even anal sex is considered vanilla these days, what ever shall we do now? I mean, we're running out of orifices here.

I simply do whatever turns me on and that always depends. Hey, it works! And guess what? We don't even have butt sex, still happy, so we must be doing something right.
09/14/2012
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Anal sex, like oral sex goes back thousands of years. Look at ancient drawings from the far east or even the "picture menu" from brothels in Pompeii. There is NOTHING new under the sun.

However, as of just a few years ago, ORAL sex ... more
I have been with my husband for 10 years now. I was 16 and he was 23. so I give him as many options as I can he was my first Anal giver LOL. but I love it a lot
09/14/2012
Contributor: Jgates09 Jgates09
I think that Anal Sex is just another option on how you want to have sex. Some people like it only when they are really horny but I think that it is just going to start getting vanilla.
09/14/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Anal is pretty standard I think. I mean, it isn't completely standard, but most people I know have at least tried it including a lot of the straight men I know.
09/15/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
I think anal sex is a standard, normal and healthy human sexual expression. I think what makes it a "kink" is how society has made it seem. Just like oral sex (totally normal and goes back to probably the beginning of human sexuality), it's just another thing that people do or think about doing. I mean, think about it; there's this other hole very close to the "usual" hole--of course our brains think, "I wonder if it would feel good if I put it in there/if I put something in there."

Not to mention all the nerve endings down there that are intertwined with the other nerve endings that feel good. But because it's not PIV sex, the kind of sex that you have to reproduce, it's been looked at as some sort of deviancy from the norm. It's not. That's not to say that some people really don't like it, or that they're abnormal for not liking it; everything in the world of sex, even the most normal stuff, has people who don't care for it. Personal preferences are normal, too.
09/15/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Because it takes more prep and time, we don't do it as often and so I say it's kinkier only because it's not "normal".
09/15/2012
Contributor: AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
Other. I think anal is midway between an average sex act and kink - a lot more common than people not having anal think it is but not nearly as common as oral.
09/15/2012
Contributor: Khanner Khanner
I'd say it's "vanilla" because you can do it without intentionally using it to create a power imbalance.
09/15/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
I think it's a kink.
09/15/2012
Contributor: aluminummm aluminummm
Anal sex is just another form of sex, not a kink. To say otherwise erases the experiences of a lot of queer people.
09/15/2012
Contributor: damnbul12 damnbul12
Anal sex has become "just another average sex act".
09/15/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I think it's just another form of sex.
09/15/2012
Contributor: John E W John E W
Ahh to me anal sex would be both a kink and normal. Depending if your more into it or not!
09/16/2012
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
For me, anal sex is still a kink, I only want it when I'm feeling naughty.
Gotta agree with Rossie
09/16/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I think it's pretty much in the mainstream these days (except for very religious people I guess) but it's kinky for US because we don't do it very often.
09/17/2012
Contributor: All His All His
I think its along the lines of vanilla sex. However not everyone does it and it can be involved in kink sex. It all depends on the people and situation
09/17/2012
Contributor: PepperPot PepperPot
I guess it depends on who you ask... I don't personally think of it as kinky, even though it's not a usual part of our routine.
09/17/2012
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Listen, I think anal is just on this side of the kink line. It's the kinkiest thing many vanilla folks do.
09/21/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I think it really falls somewhere in the middle between the two. It's not crazy to hear of someone having anal sex, but it's not something that everyone is comfortable with.
09/21/2012