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Contributor: Borderline Borderline
I recently received anal sex from my boyfriend for the first time. It felt really good and he got going but a couple of times his penis popped out of my butt...and into my vagina. It was just accidental poking at that, but it still worried me.

I've always been taught never to go anal to vaginal, always wipe front to back, disinfect toys, etc. But it happened in the heat of the moment so we just kept going.

Is there anything I can do in a situation like that? I know that it shouldn't have happened but it was an accident and I can't change it. I clean the best i can before anal but still worry I might get an infection.

If i did, would it be a UTI or yeast infection?

Thanks for reading.
08/17/2010
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08/17/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I think we've all had this happen from time to time. What I do is to wait until we are done, take a quick bath and don't worry about it too much. Don't get up and run away the second it happens, I find this tends to make everyone more nervous and doesn't change the outcome.

There is a slight risk of a UTI or vaginal infection, but if it was just a small slip, chances are your immune system will take care of it and you'll be fine.

I have to be honest, My Man and I have this happen more often than we'd like (the parts are close together, and pretty slick, things.....slide around a lot) and I'm usually fine.
08/17/2010
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I believe if you urinate right afterwards, the urine should be able to wash out your urinary tract, making a UTI less likely? And P'Gell's right about the immune system probably being strong enough to take care of one or two slips. Personally, though, I'd freak out. I'm not saying it's the best reaction out there to have, but I would totally run into the bathroom after we were done and use use a saltwater sitz bath or something. I don't know. I haven't thought this through properly
08/17/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
I wouldn't make a habit of the slips. I've gotten UTI's before from anal play.

I make sure I get what I need in the puss first, then finish him off in the ass.
08/17/2010
Contributor: PolyGirl PolyGirl
Yeah, try not to do this. Maybe cut down on the lube a little so it's not so slippery.

This is my understanding and my opinon: a UTI is not going to happen from vaginal contact, that's more likely from hands that stray (so keep fingers separate, too) and, though a vaginal infection may resemble a yeast infection, in this case, it's going to be bacterial, which means, if you do get it, don't waste time treating it with over the counter yeast infection medication. You'll need antibiotics so go to a doctor before it gets worse. Yes, a bath or shower after can help because any introduced bacteria has to have a little time to grow. You may be able to get rid of enough of it if you wash.
08/17/2010
Contributor: MnWolf MnWolf
I agree with everyone else on this one. I wouldn't make a habit out of the slipping thing, but as for the UTI'S... as long as you go to the bathroom and pee after like most women will do anyway, you shouldn't have to worry about that.
You could get a mix of bacteria from anus to vagina, and it could cause some problems but for the most part, the bacteria in the vagina will either kill or flush the intruders out.
I would say to tell you BF to take it easy, and control himself a bit more... I have been there and dont it too, but I find the closer together you are the less likely that the penis will slip or pop out. I guess its a guy thing that we think we have to pull all the way out and then ram it all the way home again. I have found the shorter the stroke, say 2 to 3 inches out and then in do the trick. Also one can really get a good pace going as well, but it becomes a mental thing then. Some men might not be able to do it right away.
08/29/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by MnWolf
I agree with everyone else on this one. I wouldn't make a habit out of the slipping thing, but as for the UTI'S... as long as you go to the bathroom and pee after like most women will do anyway, you shouldn't have to worry about that. ... more
My guess is that other than washing externally and urinating anything you try to do will probably only make your risk higher. In case anyone is thinking about it I would especially discourage douching - that's known to upset the natural protections.

Care, care, care - tell him you won't invite him around back to play unless he's careful.
08/29/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by ScottA
My guess is that other than washing externally and urinating anything you try to do will probably only make your risk higher. In case anyone is thinking about it I would especially discourage douching - that's known to upset the natural ... more
I agree, be careful...tell him beforehand, "no switching".
08/30/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I just thought of one more thing to help (as I sit here nursing myself with a UTI, probably because he forgot which finger he used for what, and it was more than just a second long slip. *sigh* Or it could just be because I have a crappy immune system and a long term damaged urinary tract. The damage has nothing to do with sex, I was born with issues in that area.)

We like to use a dildo or a phallic vibrator in my vagina when we have anal sex. Not only does it feel INCREDIBLE, but those "slips" are nearly impossible, because your vagina is filled and even if he slips out, it won't go there.
08/30/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I just thought of one more thing to help (as I sit here nursing myself with a UTI, probably because he forgot which finger he used for what, and it was more than just a second long slip. *sigh* Or it could just be because I have a crappy immune ... more
Great idea. I'd imagine that for most positions it would be held in by your bodies/movement as well.

I imagine that a strong vibe would make things much more fun for the guy, too.
08/30/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by ScottA
Great idea. I'd imagine that for most positions it would be held in by your bodies/movement as well.

I imagine that a strong vibe would make things much more fun for the guy, too.
Yeah, I usually leave it up to him, if he wants the vibe on or not. Then, he says it's up to me etc.

It has to be a compatible vibe or dildo, though. Years ago, we had a cheap, Cyberskin realistic vibe, that had a dial bottom, that had ridges on it, and he said it hurt him during DP.

We usually now use a Fun Factory phallic vibe, and the bottom is rounded so it works well.
08/30/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I get UTI's simply during vagainal sex and he slips out and his tip touches my anus and doesn't go in. I am really sensitive to it and anal slips scare the hell out of me and have never happenned to me (thank god).

I guess if you aren't too prone to UTI's and you urinate after sex your immune system should take care of it. I would probably take a bath and soak in it a while to help clean out the vagina of sorts.
08/30/2010