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How old were you when you first tried anal sex - updated

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Contributor: AussieSarah AussieSarah
------I have copied this form my previous thread to include more detailed age ranges on request, so that we can get a better idea of when everyone first tried anal sex. ------

The title pretty much says it all.

I'm curious to know at what age everybody had their first anal sex experience.

I think to make it easy to compare ill say it has to be the first full penetration by either a penis or a penis sized toy. Not just starting to play around with your ass.

Also feel free to mention how you found your first time and whether you still enjoy doing it semi regularly
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
16 or 17
73  (35%)
18
32  (15%)
19
25  (12%)
20
19  (9%)
21
13  (6%)
22
7  (3%)
23
9  (4%)
24
4  (2%)
25
3  (1%)
26
1  (0%)
27-28
3  (1%)
39-32
5  (2%)
33-337
5  (2%)
38-44
10  (5%)
45+
1  (0%)
Total votes: 210
Poll is closed
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
My first time was with a toy that my girl friend had. After using it on her while doing some oral she flipped me over and started giving me some oral, her fingers slipped to my ass and I told her to put it in. She was more than eager,and after her second finger was thrusting in me I wanted more. She jokingly picked up the dildo and said "how about this". I was in such ecstasy I said yes. Well that put me over the top, she went back to the blow job and I think she got two strokes with her lips and I blew.
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05/13/2010
Contributor: ToyingCouple ToyingCouple
15 isn't available!! Being terrified of becoming pregnant made me make the choice at that time.....
05/13/2010
Contributor: AussieSarah AussieSarah
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyingCouple
15 isn't available!! Being terrified of becoming pregnant made me make the choice at that time.....
yea i didn't want to go too low because some peoplemight think it was too young and talk about legality and all that sort of stuff.

Im interested to know more aout your situation. did you have anal before vaginal? How did you find it the first time and did you take it slow and enjoy it or rush it and it was painful?
05/13/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Glad the suggestion was taken.
05/13/2010
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
I didn't experience anal the first time of my own will. Anal rape is not fun I was 16 and I'll never forget it.
05/13/2010
Contributor: MuffysPinguLove MuffysPinguLove
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
I didn't experience anal the first time of my own will. Anal rape is not fun I was 16 and I'll never forget it.
I'm so sorry to hear about your first experience with anal sex! I think it's commendable that you have such a positive outlook towards sex considering what you went through
05/13/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
I am still waiting to experience it..Have a feeling I may experience pegging from one of my girlfriends before I find a guy who is interested in going up the rear..
05/13/2010
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by MuffysPinguLove
I'm so sorry to hear about your first experience with anal sex! I think it's commendable that you have such a positive outlook towards sex considering what you went through
Pff, I love sex. The asshole that did what he did? Eh, he has to live with it. I've moved on
05/14/2010
Contributor: Domineight Domineight
I was 15, so I just picked the youngest option. I definitely did it every once in a raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa aaaaaaaaaaaare while though until I was 19.
05/14/2010
Contributor: ToyingCouple ToyingCouple
Quote:
Originally posted by AussieSarah
yea i didn't want to go too low because some peoplemight think it was too young and talk about legality and all that sort of stuff.

Im interested to know more aout your situation. did you have anal before vaginal? How did you find it the ... more
Sarah, it was a very good experience for me... and I'm sure him. Anal was my first sex and I guess I've always had a soft spot for it. (see the number of butt toys we've reviewed
Despite both being young and inexperienced it was wonderful. He went slow and we did have lube and condoms (pretty responsible for 15 huh?) My current man is just as excellent and takes his time with lots of play and tenderness. Probably because he knows 'what goes around comes around!'
05/14/2010
Contributor: Dame Saphir Dame Saphir
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
I didn't experience anal the first time of my own will. Anal rape is not fun I was 16 and I'll never forget it.
I'm sorry to hear about that, and I understand it as well. My first time was when I was 17 and when I finally consented to letting my {ex}boyfriend try it, he took that as he was allowed to do it whenever he wanted, even though my first experience with it was not pleasurable. Therefore he made every experience after the first miserable as well by forcing his way in.
05/30/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
I didn't experience anal the first time of my own will. Anal rape is not fun I was 16 and I'll never forget it.
I had the same thing happen actually except I was 18. It ruined it for me. It took a long time to be able to do it because of my own wants. Took a lot of patience on my partners part.
05/30/2010
Contributor: Dirty Girl X Dirty Girl X
Quote:
Originally posted by AussieSarah
------I have copied this form my previous thread to include more detailed age ranges on request, so that we can get a better idea of when everyone first tried anal sex. ------

The title pretty much says it all.

I'm curious to know ... more
I'm glad to see that 16-17 is the majority! I know so many people that have NEVER tried it and there I was losing my (anal) virginity at 16! Like someone else said, though, it was a RARE event until I got into my 20s.
06/04/2010
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
The first time my partner tried using a strapon with me (at my insistence) was when I was about 20 years old. I got a Feeldoe in the hopes that it would provide plenty of pleasure to her as well (she liked it, but wasn't blown away by the feeling). I really enjoyed it, we probably could have used more lube, but it was a real trip in terms of the mental aspect of the whole thing. Unfortunately my partner is not huge on strapon play so it doesn't happen all that frequently these days but I still love it whenever we do get the chance. She on the other hand really doesn't enjoy much anal penetration. I can use a finger or two on her and have rarely used a butt plug with her as well, but that's been about it.
06/04/2010
Contributor: FAM4LIFE FAM4LIFE
I was very young when I began experimenting anally during masturbation. I think I worked up to a (small) shampoo bottle in my early teens. I too had anal sex before vaginal not only out of fear of pregnancy but also because I simply love anal! I was 15 then and I still enjoy anal very regularly to this day. Just last year my partner (same partner, in fact) decided he too wanted to try anal. We both went into it not expecting much but were blown away by how much we both enjoyed it. He was 26 then.
06/05/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
We were late bloomers to this. With the exception of the occasional drunken "Ooops I missed." (sure) we didn't get into it until I well over 30 and he was even older. I remember the first time I saw anal in an adult video in a raunchy hotel room, it was Seka and two dudes and I couldn't believe what one dude was doing. "OMG, he..he... he.... he put it in her butt!" I was very young and very inexperienced. This was a LONG time ago (feathered hair and bell bottoms were in style) and I had never even HEARD of anal sex before that. We didn't try it ourselves until many years later.

Now, I wonder why we didn't.
06/22/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
There's a horrible story here actually. We were young and stupid kids (18, apologies to those who are 19, not all of you are stupid though I'm sure at some point you'll look back and agree that you were at the time) at the time and didn't have any lube. He went off in search of something else in his parents' home that would work and returned with the most vile stuff ever. Peppermint massage lotion. He applied and very briefly attempted entry, not getting horribly far supposedly. My poor bum was freezing for about 3 seconds and then the fire started. He fared no better in all of this either, as I am sure you can imagine. Shortly after that he purchased some lube, though I'm not sure we ever really got very far.

Now I occasionally do it and enjoy it.
06/23/2010
Contributor: AU AU
I don't remember the first time, I feel kind of sad that I don't. I was probably 18 or 19. I didn't give up my virginity until I was 18, and vaginal sex alone was fun enough for a while. Though I had experienced fingers and small toys before, for various reasons, the first few times weren't very pleasant at all. But after those unhappy attempts, I've come to like anal play and sex a lot.
07/26/2010
Contributor: Kinky Skier Kinky Skier
wow, the poll resutlts are surprising, i didn't try it till in my twenties
08/05/2010
Contributor: AussieSarah AussieSarah
Quote:
Originally posted by Kinky Skier
wow, the poll resutlts are surprising, i didn't try it till in my twenties
I agree, i would have thought anal would have been something that people try after there fairly experienced and got a few years of intercourse under their belt. But by the looks of it a lot of people just jump straight into it and quite a young age.
Good on them i suppose, just means they have been getting more butt pleasure over the years than others
08/08/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
The poll does count a full-sized toy, so it's likely that many voters are counting solo exploration (I certainly was).
08/08/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
I think I was 20, it was with my ex, and it was NOT fun at all, but now with my hubby he has taught me how to do it and it is soooo much better and I actually really LOVE it! I guess you need the right partner!
08/08/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
But... what.. about... below sixteen?
10/23/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Trashley
But... what.. about... below sixteen?
Probably not up there because of social reasons. Put it in the comments.
10/23/2010
Contributor: Inside out Inside out
I was 14, maybe 15 when I tried on myself
10/25/2010
Contributor: tits only tits only
I was 16 when I tried with my first boyfriend.
10/27/2010
Contributor: guy4guyz420 guy4guyz420
Quote:
Originally posted by AussieSarah
------I have copied this form my previous thread to include more detailed age ranges on request, so that we can get a better idea of when everyone first tried anal sex. ------

The title pretty much says it all.

I'm curious to know ... more
I was 11 when I had my first anal experience.
11/10/2010
Contributor: missyross missyross
My first time was a very awkward and painful experience, as my ex husband had come in drunk and was irratated from begging for it for so long that he decided he was not taking no for an answer, no lube, nothing, just woke me up with a pop. I hated anal after that for years, then I met my current husband who took the time to do things right and show me that with some TLC and the right moves and LUBRICANT that it could be in some cases much more pleasurable than I had ever imagined. I doubt that if we ever seperate I will be able to go that route with anyone else. Because I feel like its just a love and trust that we have with each other that has caused me to do many things that I did not like doing with my ex because I was forced into in and did not enjoy it, my husband took the time to make it pleasurable for me, and in the process turned me into a freak....LOL
11/11/2010