I KNOW that there are a million arguments about why DESENSITIZING lube is bad and dangerous, and how if you cannot feel pain, you don't know when to stop..etc. That is not the question today.
In fact, my question is based on the fact that when I just looked at the multitude of lubes marketed for anal sex, on this site and a couple others, a LOT of them say "mildly desensitizing", so apparently a LOT of that kind of lube IS being sold and probably used.
THUS, the question is...how many of us really are using DESENSITIZING lube? I don't want anyone to not answer for fear of being "chewed" by others.
We are VERY "anal sex" experienced and YES, sometimes we DO use lube with some Benzocaine in it. We happen to like that specific lube and it has NEVER "numbed" me to the point where I could not feel things, or would miss something going wrong. After over three decades of "doing regular anal play" I think I have some clue about what works for me, safely.
Thus, the honest question....do YOU use anal lube with any "desensitizing" agent? Do you use that type lube ALWAYS when doing anal or just "sometimes"? Do you ONLY do anal if you use a desensitizer? If you use it only sometimes, is there a difference in the quality of the lovemaking with and without it?
What is YOUR experience?
In fact, my question is based on the fact that when I just looked at the multitude of lubes marketed for anal sex, on this site and a couple others, a LOT of them say "mildly desensitizing", so apparently a LOT of that kind of lube IS being sold and probably used.
THUS, the question is...how many of us really are using DESENSITIZING lube? I don't want anyone to not answer for fear of being "chewed" by others.
We are VERY "anal sex" experienced and YES, sometimes we DO use lube with some Benzocaine in it. We happen to like that specific lube and it has NEVER "numbed" me to the point where I could not feel things, or would miss something going wrong. After over three decades of "doing regular anal play" I think I have some clue about what works for me, safely.
Thus, the honest question....do YOU use anal lube with any "desensitizing" agent? Do you use that type lube ALWAYS when doing anal or just "sometimes"? Do you ONLY do anal if you use a desensitizer? If you use it only sometimes, is there a difference in the quality of the lovemaking with and without it?
What is YOUR experience?
