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A good beginner idea..
We like to hold the other person's throat, not squeezing, just holding, it can be very erotic, light play.

Suggestions for good beginner toys
The hubby and I have begun ur journey together and are looking for suggestions on good beginner toys for us to start out with. ANy and all suggestions

Beginner harness for plus size male
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Toys for beginners who don't cum easily?
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Ella for beginners
Hey! I was just wondering if Ella would be something an absolute beginner could use, someone who's never gone looking for her g-spot before. She seems...

very slow, it is best to use a warm up toy like the small silk or a small butt plug. use lots of lube. good luck

External stimulation. Use lube and both commit to keeping it outside. Starting with external stim allows the person being stimulated to focus on the feelings without worrying about "what's going to happen next." Combine it with genital stimulation for an even better time.

Once you've done this for a while and anal play is pleasurable you can move on to penetration play with a finger or small toy. If you want to move on to "full" penis-anal sex or full size dildo play then go very slowly until the bottom is ready to take it. It may take over a month - don't rush.

Definitely start slow. Start with fingering with plenty of lube. Find a small toy to warm-up with/to if it suits your fancy. Communication is key!

Slow, and lots of lube first thing!

I like to use fingers to get ready for anal sex or a larger toy- just playing gently and adding another finger as it feels comfortable. Be very careful of ANY discomfort and be sure to be PATIENT and enjoy the process!

I'd suggest to try out with lubed fingers and very small toys for the start. There are plenty of beginners kits on this site which have good feedback from the community. However I'm a bit pickier on the materials and would advise to start with smaller dildos and plugs. For example:

The Love Pacifier beginner is a good one. The best thing is to let it in while having vaginal sex. That way the pleasure is maximized and the muscles relax. So she wouldn't feel discomfort during penetration. Take it really slow and let her have control.

The other one that is good for "penetration training" is the Small silk dildo.

Relax take your time and enjoy.

You've probably figured it out by now,but in the off chance you haven't, first - know that the person receiving should be calling the shots. Second, use lots of lube. Third,start small (I mean like a finger small) and progress in size and intensity slowly. Fourth, find a position that works for the recipient. If the recipient want to do it outside in the rain on a Thursday while bending over, then that is exactly the way it will be going down. Their comfort is paramount or number 1 or very important. To treat it any other way is disrespectful.

Thank you for all the advise! Any suggestion on beginner toys?

My girlfriend had no sexual experience when we first met... but was open to trying anal. With her both due to her size (she's 5') and inexperience I worked her slowly up to actual anal sex over about a month.

Started with a finger massaging the anus during sex a few times to start, then had a very non-intimidating anal exploration toys that came in three progressing sizes and had a very minimal circumference. These looped onto my finger that allowed us to use both during sex and on their own. I would always start back with the smallest toy and only work up to the next larger size we hadn't used after ample use of the previous size. All the while playing with her clit, massaging her breasts, or fingering her vagina if we weren't having sex while using the toy.

This small starter toy set of plugs was a good starting point, we also continued building up to use a larger set of trainer plugs (Small plug: 4.5” x 1.1”, Medium plug: 5” x 1.25”, Large plug: 6” x 1.5”). We've never used the large plug from this second set.

I also got a flexi felix set of anal beads for further anal play/warm up. I'd also sometimes warm her up with a butt massage that then got heavier towards massaging her anus leading up to using any toys/fingers for penetration too.

Using these toys, which allowed us to slowly progress in size both in width/insertion slowly over a month period lead to anal sex just being another progression and not a sudden intrusion. But like many others have said, lots of lube is important too. We use copious lube with the toys and my fingers as we warmed her up for penetration, and I also use a lube launcher to inject copious lube internally before I try to penetrate in addition to more on my penis too.

Hope that helps, but take it slow, use adequate lube, and make sure your partner feels safe and able to give feedback if going to fast or it's too much to fast.

Slow. Maybe a small plug and lots of lube. For a guy id also say relax and have her do whatever gets u up at attention. That kinda helps with the relaxing along with breathing and makes it easier for a toy to go inside

Start off slowly. Also, have her start small. Perhaps with a finger to see if she enjoys having something to in and out of her ass. Than you may want to try a small dildo to get her used to the motion.

Start slow. If you start by just thrusting in fast you can hurt your partner. I’d suggest getting a toy that’s kinda small to see if your partner likes it. When I did it with my Ex-GF I told her to tell me to stop if she felt uncomfortable at all. She was a virgin in every way. I pushed it in as slow as I could and she loved every second of it. I didn’t last very long though. I’ve never topped a guy, because I would rather receive than give.