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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
If you enjoy anal play, did you ever have a relationship with a partner who also enjoyed this or indulged your desire, whereas now you are with one who will not?

OR....were you previously with a partner who would not "play that way" when you wanted to, but NOW you are with a partner who will?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I have always had partners willing to do anal.
13
I have never had partners willing to do anal.
7
I had a partner willing to do anal, but my current partner does not do it.
3
I had parteners that would NOT do anal, but now I have a partner who will.
7
Other?
15
Total votes: 45 (42 voters)
Poll is closed
01/02/2012
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Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
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Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I voted in a way that doesn't *quite* fit my answer, because I've had several partners, and several varying levels of anal interest.

I'm a big fan of anal play myself, but some partners have been much more eager than others to share exploring it with me. So, some relationships it was an every-other-day thing, others it's on the order of a time or two per month (which is kind of the minimum before I get antsy). When I was younger and in open relationships, some guys never expressed an interest at all and I got my needs met with other guys, so I've had a few relationships where it never got brought up at all.

In a monogamous relationship, I won't agree to have a relationship unless there's some degree of sexual compatibility, and that includes at least a moderate interest in anal.
01/02/2012
Contributor: RosesThorns RosesThorns
I have had it back and forth over the years... one wont want to but the next will. *shrugs*
01/02/2012
Contributor: squire squire
Never really had a problem with this as it's one of my deal breakers. Interestingly enough, even when I was younger and in my teens, the girls I dated were more than happy to indulge and take it a bit further than I had expected, with nothing more than my moaning as a prompt. Guess I got lucky. I couldn't remain with someone who isn't interested in anal play to some degree.
01/02/2012
Contributor: Dreaus Dreaus
I have only ever been in relationships where the woman has had a "mild interest" and it has never progressed beyond that. Have tried on quite a few occasions to very slowly warm up to more but never has progressed past a finger.
01/02/2012
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I never even thought about trying anal until my current partner. Now I love it.
01/02/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
Anal is a rare occasion but it's not out of the question.
01/02/2012
Contributor: Subbi Subbi
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
I never even thought about trying anal until my current partner. Now I love it.
Same lol!
01/02/2012
Contributor: Girly Girl Girly Girl
i will but it just hurt me
01/02/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I've never met a woman interested in anal sex - at least none that would admit to it.
01/02/2012
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
I never even thought about trying anal until my current partner. Now I love it.
I am in the same boat.
01/02/2012
Contributor: EdenJP EdenJP
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
If you enjoy anal play, did you ever have a relationship with a partner who also enjoyed this or indulged your desire, whereas now you are with one who will not?

OR....were you previously with a partner who would not "play that way" ... more
Havent had a willing partner
01/02/2012
Contributor: prttynink prttynink
Some men have no problem asking, others do (are they shy or just not interested? idk). Some men are great at it, some miss the mark. Fortunately my current partner had no problem asking, and makes it so enjoyable that I have no problem agreeing every time.
01/03/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
I never even thought about trying anal until my current partner. Now I love it.
It is odd, I guess. Mr. and Mrs. Bignuf always had partners that were "into it".
01/12/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I've never met a woman interested in anal sex - at least none that would admit to it.
Well..besides ME, who is VERY "into it", we have FOURTEEN regular married couples in our dinner group (our free speech, Friday Night parties), and ALL fourteen woman are "into it" to one level or another. A couple are true anal fanatics (prefer it over ALL other activities, with their husbands).

Try dating nurses, doctors, lawyers, policewoman, teachers and librarians. Don't know why, but from our limited experience, ha, ha, that is where you find the woman who are high experimentation, anal lovers. All professions in our group, by the way.
01/12/2012
Contributor: Highmaintenancegirl916 Highmaintenancegirl916
A/1.
01/16/2012
Contributor: bsgs bsgs
I haven't ever been with someone who was into it, except for my wife now, but I've always been fascinated with it. My wife now is willing, but we're taking it slow so she will be able to enjoy it in the future and we can do it more and more.
01/17/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
If you enjoy anal play, did you ever have a relationship with a partner who also enjoyed this or indulged your desire, whereas now you are with one who will not?

OR....were you previously with a partner who would not "play that way" ... more
Had partners in the past who literally harrassed me about it to the point that it totally crossed the line. No means no. I'm not comfortable with anal and won't have someone keep on at me about any kind of sex. It's rude so thankfully my partner doesn't care to ever try it so I don't have to worry about being harrassed about it.
01/17/2012
Contributor: SaraU29 SaraU29
I didn't used to get into anal, until one of my past lovers coerced me into letting him "play around" his techniques of arousal before stimulation totally changed my mind.
01/17/2012
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I'm the partner that is usually not willing to do anal, but if my partner really, REALLY wanted to do it, I would indulge him. It wouldn't be a regular activity though.
01/17/2012
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
Actually, my very first partner and I tried, but it basically was a non starter. Never after that happened until my current partner was willing.
01/17/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
Only had one partner and he's into it
06/09/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by squire
Never really had a problem with this as it's one of my deal breakers. Interestingly enough, even when I was younger and in my teens, the girls I dated were more than happy to indulge and take it a bit further than I had expected, with nothing ... more
Amazingly, ALL my lovers were great at anal (Mrs. Bignuf speaking) and so I came to love it. Likewise, my dear hubby had some girls who taught him VERY well, the ways of tushy play. I am not sure either of us would have given this up as it was part of our love making from the start. It is like oral....to us it is VANILLA normal sex.
06/10/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by SaraU29
I didn't used to get into anal, until one of my past lovers coerced me into letting him "play around" his techniques of arousal before stimulation totally changed my mind.
I would love to hear what his techniques were that ended up being so good. Please share.
06/10/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Highmaintenancegirl916
A/1.
Okay...confused by this answer. A/1???? Other then STEAK SAUCE, what is A1?
06/10/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by UnknownGirl
I never even thought about trying anal until my current partner. Now I love it.
No question about it, the right lover can make it or break it for a girl.
06/10/2012
Contributor: AbbyLover AbbyLover
only had one anal partner
06/11/2012
Contributor: Why Not? Why Not?
I have had partners who would do anal, but none that do it as well as my husband does!
06/18/2012