I heard if you take a finger and just barely stick it in and gentle massage the the muscles of the anus that it would be easier to have anal has anyone done this before using a toy or have penetration from your partner?
Anal relaxing
07/14/2012
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Yes this is a good starting point - in fact working up to 2 fingers is a pretty good idea as well. Go slow and use plenty of lube.
If you have plans for something more ambitious like anal intercourse - you should consider some toys like butt plugs that have a nice taper. The smooth profile and taper will help relax and dilate the anus for something larger - like your partner.
If you have plans for something more ambitious like anal intercourse - you should consider some toys like butt plugs that have a nice taper. The smooth profile and taper will help relax and dilate the anus for something larger - like your partner.
07/14/2012
Agreed with above. You're essentially just practicing dilation before the real deal. WIth that said, a bigger piece, IMO, is the psychological component. By massaging, you're getting used to a new way of sexual expression with a delicate part of your body. Once comfortable, insertion is much easier and requires less warmup, generally, with toys that aren't huge. People's bodies are different though and some can take more than others, no matter how much you love anal play.
07/14/2012
thanks I have my anal beads i just heard of this lately wondered if it worked
07/16/2012
I found this book to be helpful:
link
It's pretty thorough and covers everything from just starting out exploring on your own to having anal sex.
link
It's pretty thorough and covers everything from just starting out exploring on your own to having anal sex.
07/17/2012
Teasing or massaging the tip of a lubed up finger just at the entrance of the anus is good foreplay for further anal play. First the gentle massaging does help to relax things and second it also helps, for me at least, to get one in the mood and horny for anal play.
07/17/2012
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Thanks so much for giving me that link I will be sure to look it over
Originally posted by
MissMori
I found this book to be helpful:
link
It's pretty thorough and covers everything from just starting out exploring on your own to having anal sex.
link
It's pretty thorough and covers everything from just starting out exploring on your own to having anal sex.
07/17/2012
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Thanks so much
Originally posted by
Why Not?
Teasing or massaging the tip of a lubed up finger just at the entrance of the anus is good foreplay for further anal play. First the gentle massaging does help to relax things and second it also helps, for me at least, to get one in the mood and
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Teasing or massaging the tip of a lubed up finger just at the entrance of the anus is good foreplay for further anal play. First the gentle massaging does help to relax things and second it also helps, for me at least, to get one in the mood and horny for anal play.
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07/17/2012
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YES, YES, YES. Any gentle lovin' is a great way to start.
Originally posted by
LostinLife
I heard if you take a finger and just barely stick it in and gentle massage the the muscles of the anus that it would be easier to have anal has anyone done this before using a toy or have penetration from your partner?
07/19/2012
I think we are going to try this with some good numbing lube
07/23/2012
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dont its bad idea. you cant tell if your doing any damage
Originally posted by
LostinLife
I think we are going to try this with some good numbing lube
07/23/2012
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i 2nd that
Originally posted by
Bignuf
YES, YES, YES. Any gentle lovin' is a great way to start.
07/23/2012
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ill have to read that
Originally posted by
MissMori
I found this book to be helpful:
link
It's pretty thorough and covers everything from just starting out exploring on your own to having anal sex.
link
It's pretty thorough and covers everything from just starting out exploring on your own to having anal sex.
07/23/2012
A vibrator on the outside can really get you in the mood for penetration. A tongue and/or finger works good too as others have said.
07/24/2012
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ok that makes sense glad you brought that point up
Originally posted by
AbbyLover
dont its bad idea. you cant tell if your doing any damage
07/24/2012
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going to have to try this
Originally posted by
Trysexual
A vibrator on the outside can really get you in the mood for penetration. A tongue and/or finger works good too as others have said.
07/24/2012
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Yep! This is the way to go....gentle movement and pressure...and then maybe a smaller toy....work your way up....it's all about the warm up!
Originally posted by
LostinLife
I heard if you take a finger and just barely stick it in and gentle massage the the muscles of the anus that it would be easier to have anal has anyone done this before using a toy or have penetration from your partner?
07/24/2012
Don't underestimate the trust issue, either. You have to trust whoever is playing with your butt completely in order to relax. When you change the partner you need to back off a bit and start again.
07/27/2012
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VERY good point! I usually have no issues around anal, but I found out that if I'm not entirely comfortable with my partner or if external stress is getting to me I can't enjoy it and sometimes can't relax as much as I need to.
Originally posted by
ScottA
Don't underestimate the trust issue, either. You have to trust whoever is playing with your butt completely in order to relax. When you change the partner you need to back off a bit and start again.
And I second the warning about anal numbing. The tissue there is very delicate, which can make it pleasurable, but it can also tear if you're not careful or can't tell what's going on.
The book I recommended talks about starting out with a "no pain" policy - If you want to enjoy any anal activities ignoring pain even if it's slight can give you negative associations. Even if it takes longer, it's better to work up to it and be able to enjoy everything as you go.
07/27/2012
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Thank you so much I have noticed to that is I am not relaxed there is no way he is getting anal
Originally posted by
MissMori
VERY good point! I usually have no issues around anal, but I found out that if I'm not entirely comfortable with my partner or if external stress is getting to me I can't enjoy it and sometimes can't relax as much as I need
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VERY good point! I usually have no issues around anal, but I found out that if I'm not entirely comfortable with my partner or if external stress is getting to me I can't enjoy it and sometimes can't relax as much as I need to.
And I second the warning about anal numbing. The tissue there is very delicate, which can make it pleasurable, but it can also tear if you're not careful or can't tell what's going on.
The book I recommended talks about starting out with a "no pain" policy - If you want to enjoy any anal activities ignoring pain even if it's slight can give you negative associations. Even if it takes longer, it's better to work up to it and be able to enjoy everything as you go. less
And I second the warning about anal numbing. The tissue there is very delicate, which can make it pleasurable, but it can also tear if you're not careful or can't tell what's going on.
The book I recommended talks about starting out with a "no pain" policy - If you want to enjoy any anal activities ignoring pain even if it's slight can give you negative associations. Even if it takes longer, it's better to work up to it and be able to enjoy everything as you go. less
07/27/2012
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what is the name of the book
Originally posted by
MissMori
VERY good point! I usually have no issues around anal, but I found out that if I'm not entirely comfortable with my partner or if external stress is getting to me I can't enjoy it and sometimes can't relax as much as I need
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more
VERY good point! I usually have no issues around anal, but I found out that if I'm not entirely comfortable with my partner or if external stress is getting to me I can't enjoy it and sometimes can't relax as much as I need to.
And I second the warning about anal numbing. The tissue there is very delicate, which can make it pleasurable, but it can also tear if you're not careful or can't tell what's going on.
The book I recommended talks about starting out with a "no pain" policy - If you want to enjoy any anal activities ignoring pain even if it's slight can give you negative associations. Even if it takes longer, it's better to work up to it and be able to enjoy everything as you go. less
And I second the warning about anal numbing. The tissue there is very delicate, which can make it pleasurable, but it can also tear if you're not careful or can't tell what's going on.
The book I recommended talks about starting out with a "no pain" policy - If you want to enjoy any anal activities ignoring pain even if it's slight can give you negative associations. Even if it takes longer, it's better to work up to it and be able to enjoy everything as you go. less
07/27/2012
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Oh, sorry, it's "Anal Pleasure and Health" by Jack Morin.
Originally posted by
LostinLife
what is the name of the book
It covers a lot, and back when I started I did it "for" partners, but I've worked my way to a point where I enjoy solo anal activities. Reading it helped, since I realized I wasn't enjoying it all that much.
Solo play helped even more - being able to use toys on yourself and see how it feels and how you react takes away the feeling that a partner might have expectations and the anxiety that you might not be able to meet them.
(and by "you" I mean "me" since that's all based on my personal experience.)
07/28/2012
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I've never had anal sex. My fiancee has. She has told me that a lot of anal prep was necessary before her partners could insert their penises into her butt. Her butt had to be relaxed and sufficiently dilated before they could insert their penises inside of her butt.
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
Yes this is a good starting point - in fact working up to 2 fingers is a pretty good idea as well. Go slow and use plenty of lube.
If you have plans for something more ambitious like anal intercourse - you should consider some toys like butt ... more
If you have plans for something more ambitious like anal intercourse - you should consider some toys like butt ... more
Yes this is a good starting point - in fact working up to 2 fingers is a pretty good idea as well. Go slow and use plenty of lube.
If you have plans for something more ambitious like anal intercourse - you should consider some toys like butt plugs that have a nice taper. The smooth profile and taper will help relax and dilate the anus for something larger - like your partner. less
If you have plans for something more ambitious like anal intercourse - you should consider some toys like butt plugs that have a nice taper. The smooth profile and taper will help relax and dilate the anus for something larger - like your partner. less
One of her former boyfriends introduced her to butt plugs. Prior to plugs, her partners vey carefully inserted their fingers to dilate her butt. According to her, butt plugs made anal sex much easier and enjoyable.
I honestly do not get the anal sex attraction. It has never interested me. I know that many men love it. My fiancee told me that partners who have had anal sex with her loved it.
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