I'm guessing we use the doggie or standing doggie position more than 1/2 the time.

When we are in the missionary position she puts my hips on a Liberator Wedge. This raises my hips enough for her to thrust from her knees.

Although I haven't experienced any pain, I see your point, there is definitely a chance of have uncomfortable or even painful pressure on the balls.

Although using the Wedge eliminates the possibility of her lying on me - it gives her maximum leverage for thrusting. It also gives her a nice view of the penetration - for a girl who was reluctant to try pegging - she's taken to enjoying herself! less

I'm sure if you got hit or even tapped on your genitals it will hurt. If she squeezes or strokes your manhood with too much pressure, ditto.

Of course depending on how soiled the harness get is how to clean it. Leather or nonporus materials can usually be wiped. Water based lube and bodily fluids come off easily. Oil base you may need those " Clorox " type. If you have a cloth type pantie harness, check the cleaning label.

I recommend a high quality harness like edenfantasys lux rider or the SpareParts Joque. less

I'm sure if you got hit or even tapped on your genitals it will hurt. If she squeezes or strokes your manhood with too much pressure, ditto.

Of course depending on how soiled the harness get is how to clean it. Leather or nonporus materials can usually be wiped. Water based lube and bodily fluids come off easily. Oil base you may need those " Clorox " type. If you have a cloth type pantie harness, check the cleaning label.

I recommend a high quality harness like edenfantasys lux rider or the SpareParts Joque. less

I wa considering SpareParts Joque, in addition to a strapless dildo, but I'm concernedabout money.

Say, I order Joque, but when it arrives it's not comfortable for my girlfriend. And we can't just have her put it on and take it off, she has to check it in action.
So I don't think I can get a refund for a harness we use, wash and send back.

How do you deal with that? Buy 5-10 expensive harnesses until you find the one that's the best? less

Joque, if you research is favored by many women. It's soft , comfortable material, machine washable when necessary, easy to get on/ off and adjust. It accominates large and small dildos. That and the Eden lux rider have gotten plenty of use over the last 4-5 years.

Of course I don't know the size of your gf. Check the sizing before purchasing.
As for strapless dildos, most honest review here and everywhere says the same. Hard for giver to keep it in. Receivers end not that comfortable compared to good quality dildos.
Our expensive Fun Factory Share collects dust. I would only recommend that for spooning maybe.
With Eden's Mega, Caesar, Vixen Creations Outlaw in the house the Share is not needed.

Add some Bad Dragons to the mix and the Share becomes a once a while less

Well, yeah, I was doing research, but that's why I'm asking
How do you deal with an expensive harness?
say it arrives, my gf tries it and doesn't like it. What then? I leave it to collect dust and buy more until we find a fit?

About strapless - I got the idea it could be used with Joque harness, so it doesn't slip out. What is the meaning of "Receivers end not that comfortable compared to good quality dildos" - is there a way to determine a comfortable receiver's end? less

For some. when they have a passion for something , willing to spend the moola. Whether it be sports, sex or a pastime. So they spring for the Joque. Most harnesses can fit sizes from 4-16,18. The products pages should specify. Of course those will have the excess straps hanging around.

Maybe google homemade harness for dildos. One can actually use a robe tie to secure it. It's used for oversized dils. Or purchase the lowest price one that looks decent. The one we received with the vibrating dil is good enough to use.

There's no guarantee she will like using one. She might not like the idea of pegging and nothing to do with the harness. Mine didn't like the act until the 2 nd or third time. There's also content on the internet about how to suggest starting.

As for comfortable for receiver, I met the Fun Factory Share is not as soft and flexible as others. You may have to read reviews carefully or contact them and ask specifically. Take your time when making purchases.

Btw, one of our dildo reviews was on a very soft beginners one. Great price too. Just go to our review section. We must have reviewed more than a half dz. As a matter of fact our next review will be on a big one. less