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Anal play lovers, time to "fess up". Do you use a lube with any numbing agent in it?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
We have read in a lot of comments here about how to "never use lube with a numbing agent" to avoid injury. I also see there are still lots of anal lubes out there with Benzocaine, Lidocaine or other "natural" numbing agents in them. So, how many of us regular anal players actually are using lubes with numbing agents?
(Kind of like Q-Tips....they warn you "never put them in your ears", but I saw a study that over 80% of regular buyers of Q-Tips admit to putting them in their ears)!!! Is this the same deal? Let's find out. I am even making this a "private" vote, so people can be honest and not chided by others!
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Contributor: dv8 dv8
I wouldn't use a numbing agent. Pain is an important indicator to stop playing.
01/27/2014
Contributor: Two Grand Two Grand
Never have never will.
01/27/2014
Contributor: smalltalkingbit smalltalkingbit
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Originally posted by dv8
I wouldn't use a numbing agent. Pain is an important indicator to stop playing.
I completely agree. A numbing agent would make it more difficult to tell when I'm adequately warmed up for safe anal play.
01/27/2014
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
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Originally posted by dv8
I wouldn't use a numbing agent. Pain is an important indicator to stop playing.
so, so true. if painful, not playful.
01/28/2014
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Numbing agents are dangerous - the solution is adequate warmup and plenty of 'traditional' lubes. Our favorite lube these days is coconut oil. It's fantastic! Inexpensive - 25x less that over-the-counter lubes. Has antibacterial properties - and melts at body temperature.

Since it's solid at room temperature - I can take a big dollop (remember its cheap) and slip it into her ass - where it immediately melts and provides great internal lubrication without the need for 'shooters'.

Clean up is a snap - even though its an oil - warm soap and water provides an easy clean up.
01/28/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by dv8
I wouldn't use a numbing agent. Pain is an important indicator to stop playing.
I agree with that statement, in principle. In reality, I know many people who use such lubes, I have myself, and they sure do sell a lot of different ones out there, so somebody is buying the stuff.
01/28/2014
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by edeneve
so, so true. if painful, not playful.
I agree, in that I am all about "all gain, no pain".
01/28/2014
Contributor: Fetisha Fetisha
I completely agree with pain being an important indicator to change something. It's particularly thin skin there and can tear easily, and being able to prevent it from getting to that point is important. I've had light tearing a few times, and if I had used a numbing agent, it might had been worse.

I've never used a pain reducer for that, we always just go slow, work our way up, and if we just can't get it to feel right that time for some reason, we stop and put it off for next time.
01/29/2014
Contributor: CE CE
Although I like to be 'Dom' in my long term sexual relationships, it is VERY important to me that my partners are enjoying what we're doing. So I have NEVER used a numbing agent, believing as the above posters that pain is an important signal that something isn't right. I'd rather my partner say something to stop what we're doing, than to continue and injure themselves. A little discomfort may be OK at the beginning, but if its real pain, then I haven't done enough as their lover to get them ready or in the mood.
01/29/2014
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
Nope, we've always gone with the just start slow, make sure everything is properly lubricated, stop if overwhelmingly painful.
01/30/2014
Contributor: SweetSaffron SweetSaffron
I would be too concerned about damaging myself to use a numbing agent. If it hurts too much, then it's not going to happen. As I've heard from other camgirls: Some days just aren't "butt days"
02/07/2014
Contributor: Yellow Dog Yellow Dog
Nope. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong.
02/22/2014
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Nearly forty years ago my GF and I tried it. She wanted to feel me butt fucking her and it numbed her hole as well as my cock. We decided that it just wasn't for us. It was later that I realized that it just wasn't the lack of pleasurable sensation that made it an undesirable product, but as several people already said, pain is the indicator that it's being done wrong.
09/01/2014
Contributor: SexScienceAndFood SexScienceAndFood
As other's have said, pain is an indication that something is wrong. Most of the time, it isn't an issue of not enough lube. Almost always, it's that little known detail that you have two sphincter muscles! The outer one, you are quite familiar with, and is easy to will it relaxed. Just inside, is another! This one is involuntary (mostly) and pushing past this when it doesn't relax enough, is an easy source of pain and discomfort.
09/01/2014
Contributor: Andykh Andykh
As most have said no pain no gain. A water based lube works just fine in most anal situations
12/30/2015
Contributor: magicmac magicmac
I didn't even know anal lubes with numbing agents existed. Me and my partner always used water based lubes (Well, except the first time. We used some crappy lube that had the consistency of cooking oil. Ugh.)
12/30/2015
Contributor: BlackOrchid BlackOrchid
We use regular water-based lubricant or coconut oil for anal. Tried silicone and it worked great but doesn't clean up nicely afterwards. Wouldn't want to try a numbing product, like RonLee said what about this stuff numbing the penis up as well? It just doesn't seem like it would work for anyone.
12/31/2015
Contributor: Inquisitor Inquisitor
I can say with confidence, no. We want to feel everything!
12/31/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
No, and the thought never crossed our minds. We do the start small and go bigger in stages. Water based lube so far. Read so much praise for coconut oil though.
12/31/2015
Contributor: Lisset Finnien Lisset Finnien
Never had the need to
10/04/2018
Contributor: SoloRebel SoloRebel
Nope.
10/04/2018
Contributor: Iluvgirth69 Iluvgirth69
Never. I love really girthy toys. I just use a ton of coconut oil.
10/05/2018
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Iluvgirth69
Never. I love really girthy toys. I just use a ton of coconut oil.
We're with you - my wife and I both love anal - and love to use copious amounts of coconut oil
10/05/2018