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Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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My Year in Sex
Rachel gives us a very honest and candid look at her year in sex for 2010...

What do you learn in 2010?
How did you grow?
What do you regret doing?
What do you regret not doing?
Of which moments are you most proud?

Basically share with us your personal Best and Worst of 2010!
12/29/2010
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Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
I should read things more thoroughly.

BEST: Using realistic dildos and vaginas to enact threesome fantasies.

WORST: Arguing over which toy to get first!

The only thing I really regret is letting my fears due to past resentments influence the pleasure we were allowed to experience. They put a cap or a limit on how far I would go which is perfectly ridiculous considering how safe and solid my relationship is.
12/29/2010
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
I should read things more thoroughly.

BEST: Using realistic dildos and vaginas to enact threesome fantasies.

WORST: Arguing over which toy to get first!

The only thing I really regret is letting my fears due to past resentments ... more
*** "The only thing I really regret is letting my fears due to past resentments influence the pleasure we were allowed to experience. They put a cap or a limit on how far I would go which is perfectly ridiculous considering how safe and solid my relationship is." ***

What Pussy Galore said!

I am so grateful that 2010 will be the last year I carry around those old resentments and fears. By finally letting go of that old CRAP, I have gone farther and experienced more pleasure than I ever thought was possible.

I am most proud of myself for finally being able to be completely open and honest with my husband about the things that held me back sexually, having anal sex and loving it, facing my fear of large dicks, and experimenting with BDSM.
12/29/2010
Contributor: fghjkl fghjkl
I learned that I need to love myself first and formost. I'm the type of person who gives and gives and gives but doesn't really ask for anything in return. It's how I was raised and I do it with everything. It's great for everyday generosity, but not so great in a relationship. It really does make you feel like shit and unloved when it happens in a relationship. Knowing all these things, I still couldn't stop myself. My boyfriend isn't a mean guy or anything of the sorts... He's just been very spoiled by his mom and now he thinks the world owes him or something. Anyways... If you love yourself, it's easier for others to love you as well.

I'm super sorry that this turned into a bit of a rant!

* No one can make you feel inferior without your consent - Eleanor Roosevelt
12/29/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
2010 has been a very long year for me, and I've had a lot of new experiences. I'd say that I've grown a lot, as a responsible adult, a partner, and in my job. I became involved in our local BDSM community, applied to graduate school, finished my major requirements and started couples counseling with my partner. All in all, I don't think I have any regrets. I've been trying hard not to regret anything I do, because everything has helped me grow to who I am in this moment.

I think I'm most proud of overcoming my fears of seeking therapy, as well as the steps I've taken to get past the abuse of my last relationship. I'm also very excited to have found a career path I want, and to finish the last of my chemistry requirements at school.
12/30/2010
Contributor: null null
I learned that breaking it off with my longterm boyfriend was one of the best things I could have done.
I learned that my new SO really is perfect for me at this time in my life.
I learned that I like girls a lot more than I thought I did.
I learned that, despite what my parents have always told me, I've actually made some good decisions in life.

I realized that I really am happy, for the first time in a long time.
12/30/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I learned that I was worth more than I kept telling myself I was and stopped accepting the way my SO would put me down. He doesn't call me names or tell me am stupid but indirectly his words take on a very derogatory meaning.

I learned to stand up for myself, but also to stop standing up so much for the ones I love. I need to let them make their mistakes, they won't learn with my help but through experience, even if that means hitting rock bottom sadly...I'll be there waiting, full of compassion.
12/30/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I learned that I can accomplish things when I put my mind to it and that I need to stop being so negative about myself.

I also learned that I do not need to have a partner to be sexually satisfied, thanks to Eden.
12/30/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
* That I need to slow down when typing. My brains gets too far ahead and the fingers end up typing all sorts of weird crap...lol.

* I'm ultra addicted to toys since joining Eden.

* That 90% of the time I CAN actually control my emotions if I really want to!

* I should have more respect for myself and like my Master tells me - I can't expect others to love me if I can't love myself first.
12/30/2010
Contributor: Zaftig Zaftig
~ learned that being sexy is an attitude not a look
~ learned that my brain is the biggest sexual organ not my girl parts ( had a hysterectomy this year and I'm only 36 )
~ learned that when I am the happiest is when I am myself in bed and out of bed
~ learned to voice my fears and not be afraid of what people will think

I'm looking forward to 2011. I will not set any goals as I end up being mad at myself if it doesn't go as planned. I'm excited to be part of the Eden community and hope to make some new friends
12/30/2010
Contributor: darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I feel I have only really learned a little about myself. I know I am capable of losing weight and that it is not too much effort, which is what I used to think. I have also learned that my school is not worth even half of the money I give them. I've had "professors" teaching me about computers and stuff that really don't even know much about them other than that they cost a lot of money.
01/01/2011
Contributor: Not here Not here
2010 was quite an interesting year, and I'm very glad it's over. I've learned a lot of new things this year..

* People change their attitudes when money is involved.
* Simplicity isn't a bad thing
* Instincts are generally right and should be trusted.

I also had my first girl-girl experience this year which was very enjoyable

This year has a lot of potential and I intend for it to be a good year!!!
01/02/2011
Contributor: xgreatlovex xgreatlovex
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Rachel gives us a very honest and candid look at her year in sex for 2010...

What do you learn in 2010?
How did you grow?
What do you regret doing?
What do you regret not doing?
Of which moments are you most ... more
my best was getting the guts to have go through with an adult tonsillectomy. that was also the worst.
01/07/2011
Contributor: Curious2 Curious2
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Rachel gives us a very honest and candid look at her year in sex for 2010...

What do you learn in 2010?
How did you grow?
What do you regret doing?
What do you regret not doing?
Of which moments are you most ... more
this year i felt more comfortable exploring my body and my boyfriends body =)
01/07/2011
Contributor: BluePixi BluePixi
I learned that I have allergies and sometimes it IS needed and helpful to get a second opinion from webMD, I also learned how to reduce the symptoms of my allergies and started immunotherapy.

I am more independent now than I was at the beginning of 2010, I learned to have a little more trust and to look after myself better. I learned to stand up for myself and not just complain when something bad happens. I am learning to let go of grudges, that holding on to them only hurts me and makes me a bitter person.

I have been on my first date and had my first kiss in the last year...
I decided there was no shame in learning to please myself and I need to know myself better before I try to get to know anyone else.
01/08/2011
Contributor: xgreatlovex xgreatlovex
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Rachel gives us a very honest and candid look at her year in sex for 2010...

What do you learn in 2010?
How did you grow?
What do you regret doing?
What do you regret not doing?
Of which moments are you most ... more
i think i lost most of the year im so just looking forward to 2011.
01/12/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
Quote:
Originally posted by fghjkl
I learned that I need to love myself first and formost. I'm the type of person who gives and gives and gives but doesn't really ask for anything in return. It's how I was raised and I do it with everything. It's great for everyday ... more
this is so true of me also. i am a giver and sometimes feel used, but it is my nature to be a giver so i keep on giving. it truly is better to give than recieve
01/19/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
i learned that i am still very sexually charged after years of no sex at all, i am suddenly feeling sexy and alive ! i'm going for it this time in a big way. is this what menopause feels like cause i'm horny 24/7 now.
01/19/2011