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#BillofRights - 7th Amendment - You Have the Right to Be Yourself

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Contributor: Ansley Ansley


Whether we’re loud and flamboyant or moody and mysterious, those attributes are beneficial to society in many ways. I mean, let's face it, we can't all be Mary Poppins and Dudley Doright...that would be so boring. Don't you think?



You are who you are. Your experiences shaped you, gave you a unique outlook on life and its problems. Why not embrace those things and celebrate the differences in our personalities? Why not celebrate our unique qualities?

What about you separates you from the crowd? Do you think it has helped or harmed the goals you've set for yourself in life? If this aspect of your personality seems to be a hindrance are you doing anything to change it?
11/13/2012
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I definitely have my faults, but I think there are a lot of really good qualities that I possess and I try to focus on those and minimize the damage should I say something incredibly stupid or make a wrong move. Not everyone appreciates my sense of humor or my outlook on life, and that's okay. It has to be okay, I can't change who I am.

I can modify some basic aspects, but to change my core personality? I think that's impossible. I don't want to change who I am, with all of my faults and missteps I think I really like where life is going these days and it can only get better from here! Dwelling on imperfections only serves to hold me back!
11/13/2012
Contributor: Bill220 Bill220
I honestly don't know if I love myself. I've never really thought about it.

I think that I'm pretty average but have been told that I have a good sense of humor, that I'm a good dad and a good friend.

One thing that I have taken a step back from is the all out pursuit of money. I've come to find that there is a lot more to life than a flashy car and a big bank account.
11/13/2012
Contributor: vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
I don't feel entirely comfortable with myself, but I wouldn't say it's my basic personality or identity... I just pick at little faults of mine and I feel like they're bigger than I know they are objectively. I love myself as a whole, it's just hard to remember sometimes.

It helps to think of myself from someone else's perspective.
11/14/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I definitely don't love myself. I'm a perfectionist, so unfortunately every time I look at myself (both inside and out) all I see are often flaws.
11/14/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Bill220
I honestly don't know if I love myself. I've never really thought about it.

I think that I'm pretty average but have been told that I have a good sense of humor, that I'm a good dad and a good friend.

One thing that ... more
Money...really does often cause more problems than it solves. It's nice to be told you're a good parent, I would imagine. There are so many examples of people who should be parents running around, good homes produce good citizens. Definitely something to be proud of in life!
11/14/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by vanillaSpice
I don't feel entirely comfortable with myself, but I wouldn't say it's my basic personality or identity... I just pick at little faults of mine and I feel like they're bigger than I know they are objectively. I love myself as a whole, ... more
True, self-esteem is a roller coaster and the things going on at the time can often directly impact how hard we are on ourselves. Everyone is flawed and everyone has baggage, it's what we do with it that matters.

What do you think is a really good quality about yourself or what have you been complimented on in the past?
11/14/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
I definitely don't love myself. I'm a perfectionist, so unfortunately every time I look at myself (both inside and out) all I see are often flaws.
Have you ever been complimented on those perceived flaws? For instance, I cry really easily when something touches my soul and I've always been embarrassed about it because I felt it made me look weak in front of others and being small and female, that was the last thing I needed. My husband told me it was the most adorable thing he had ever seen and since then I just kind of let it happen and don't try to hide it anymore.

Surely, there are many many great and wonderful things about you that others would appreciate if you let them see those qualities.
11/14/2012
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
I don't love myself either I try very hard and I just can't all I see are horrible things when I look at myself I try to think positive but doesn't do much so ashamed lately hard to look people in the eye now I just look away or down it is sad but it is the truth
11/14/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by BrittaniMaree
I don't love myself either I try very hard and I just can't all I see are horrible things when I look at myself I try to think positive but doesn't do much so ashamed lately hard to look people in the eye now I just look away or down it ... more
Everyone makes mistakes, it's what we do with them that matters. Really. At the end of the day, if someone can't see past the mistakes you've made or are going to make in life then they have no business being in your life in the first place. We all have or will make bad decisions; aside from murdering someone (and other violent crimes) there is nothing you can do or say that you can't recover from. It's scary to have to admit these things, but once it's done it's such a weight off your shoulders that you'll start seeing your obstacles in life less as obstacles and more of a challenge. Challenge yourself to overcome whatever it is you feel you should be ashamed of, you'll feel so much better once you take the tiniest step toward fixing it.

I think in life, we all need one or two really significant successful moments in our lives to propel us forward and if you aren't finding success in the things you're doing then it's time to change those things. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result each time.
11/14/2012
Contributor: Jo22 Jo22
I've always had body image issues (I know most of us do), I've always been very self concious of people lookig at me-especially in the bedroom which completely ruins my ability to enjoy sex. I've gotten alot of tattoos in my life- I love them, it's addicting, but the really strange thing is I know I get stared at alot, and I enjoy it now. It's hard to explain, but I feel like my tattoos are like a secuity blanket-I am so much more comfortable in my own skin now. It's the opposite of what i would have thought.
11/14/2012
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
I love who I am. I might change some things if I had the chance, but I don't need those things changed to still be contented with my current state of being.
11/15/2012
Contributor: cassondra1987 cassondra1987
11/15/2012
Contributor: Sunny Meadows Sunny Meadows
I have been writing the out of the box series. I have been working on myself. I have to say it is a wonderful journey. I have found that I have change the inside and the way I feel about the out side has just followed. I have a lot more work. But I love it and would not change a thing I am better for what I have gone through. Love the journey!
11/16/2012
Contributor: Catullus Catullus
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Originally posted by Ansley


Whether we’re loud and flamboyant or moody and mysterious, those attributes are beneficial to society in many ways. I mean, let's face it, we can't all be Mary Poppins and Dudley Doright...that would be so boring. Don't you ... more
A teacher's assistant kind of planted the idea that a big part of maturity is being yourself. I decided I would keep my nails painted during the week after that!
11/16/2012
Contributor: meitman meitman
I love who I am. I'm far from perfect, but this is me. I have a family who loves me and they are my world. I've got faith and morals and the rest doesn't really matter to me in the end. Life is far too short for me to waste time worrying about the small things I can't change anyways.
11/18/2012