My husband had a vasectomy 19 years ago. I had a hysterectomy and miscarriage 7 years ago. So lately, the last few months, our sex life has basically gone down the toilet. So my husband comes up with the idea of doing a 30-day challenge. The rules were every 4 days we would have sex. In between those four days, we would do something intimate, whether it was oral, masturbate in front of each other, watch porn, etc. We've learned so much from each other from the emotional side, the sexual side, and the physical. We've known each other 5 years, and we got to have the most intimate conversations that we've ever thought we would ever have with each other. So if you ever need some help in that area, try the 30-day challenge; it works. Just make sure you're supporting each other during the whole time because you do get frustrated with each other at first. About day 15, day 17, things get better. less