The New Intimacy

Is it more important to feel loved, or pleasured?

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Contributor: arilikewoah arilikewoah
A common question.
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Loved
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Pleasured
both
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27
Total votes: 71 (65 voters)
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01/24/2013
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Contributor: js250 js250
When you feel loved--the pleasure follows. If it is only pleasured, it is comparable to fast food--you are full and it was gratifying, but does not last.
01/24/2013
Contributor: Aishiteru Aishiteru
Loved.
01/24/2013
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
I honestly think they go hand in hand. It's hard not to answer loved, but at some point life without pleasure will start to wear you down, causing problems.
01/24/2013
Contributor: froggygal91 froggygal91
Most definitely loved
01/24/2013
Contributor: Cowgirl-Cutie Cowgirl-Cutie
To feel loved is definitely more important but I tend to agree that if you do feel loved then the pleasure will follow.
01/24/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
Love!
01/24/2013
Contributor: CuddleWhore CuddleWhore
Pleasure is important, but love wins out.
01/25/2013
Contributor: Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
Loved is much better.
01/25/2013
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
Feeling loved IS a pleasure.
01/25/2013
Contributor: ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
Love
02/03/2013
Contributor: Ayumi Ayumi
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
When you feel loved--the pleasure follows. If it is only pleasured, it is comparable to fast food--you are full and it was gratifying, but does not last.
I totally agree with this sentiment.
02/03/2013
Contributor: mlmac mlmac
I would've said both, but being loved is far more important. Being pleasured is something that just comes along with being loved.
02/03/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by WhoopieDoo
Feeling loved IS a pleasure.
Touché!
02/03/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
I honestly think they go hand in hand. It's hard not to answer loved, but at some point life without pleasure will start to wear you down, causing problems.
I agree. I answered both because you can be loved, but not pleasured & it will wear you down and at that point, you look for pleasure in other things or worse, other people.
02/03/2013
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
I honestly think they go hand in hand. It's hard not to answer loved, but at some point life without pleasure will start to wear you down, causing problems.
I agree completely!
02/03/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
I would take a very passionate romantic love with no sexual pleasure over the opposite any day.
02/03/2013
Contributor: LoganAshlee. LoganAshlee.
Loved
02/28/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Love is by far more important. But when you really connect and love someone, pleasure follows, as well as the desire to please the one you love.
02/28/2013
Contributor: table38792 table38792
Both are important but I'd go with loved if forced to choose between the two.
02/28/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
right now I'll take all the pleasure I can get from him!
02/28/2013
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
For me, love and pleasure goes hand-in-hand.
02/28/2013
Contributor: SkinnyDip SkinnyDip
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
When you feel loved--the pleasure follows. If it is only pleasured, it is comparable to fast food--you are full and it was gratifying, but does not last.
Exactly.
02/28/2013
Contributor: hotinpink hotinpink
Quote:
Originally posted by arilikewoah
A common question.
Both.
02/28/2013
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by arilikewoah
A common question.
both
02/28/2013
Contributor: LexiKitten LexiKitten
Both. But loved more than pleasured.
02/28/2013
Contributor: sexytileena / absolutely love sex sexytileena / absolutely love sex
Loved
03/15/2013
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
Quote:
Originally posted by arilikewoah
A common question.
I picked love, but both would be nice too!
03/16/2013
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
It has to be both for me.
03/16/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
Loved, for sure. I know this'll sound callous, but I can pleasure myself as well as anyone else possibly could!

I can love myself, too (and do), but someone who loves you has your back 24/7 and that's a wonderful thing.
03/16/2013