Number one reason for breaking up?

Contributor: SJ88 SJ88
def. cheating
02/09/2012
Contributor: Pinkie Pie Pinkie Pie
as said above, communication is really what becomes the issue. People stop talking and start fighting
02/25/2012
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
It depends on the relationship.
02/25/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Quote:
Originally posted by Amazing! :)
I don't think it's cheating. It's the inability to communicate and trust each other.

And like what the person above me said. It's the fact that both people(Maybe all people depending on your situation.) have to be willing to ... more
Great points! I think it really depends on the relationship.
02/25/2012
Contributor: curious kitten curious kitten
should of listed abuse, and cheating second.
02/27/2012
Contributor: Do emu Do emu
Feelings, woahoh feelings~
04/05/2012
Contributor: PinkParakeet PinkParakeet
Quote:
Originally posted by PiratePrincess
Communication is the real issue but its a problem when it manifests in cheating
agreed
04/16/2012
Contributor: Sangsara Sangsara
and drugs and alcohol
05/01/2012
Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
cheating
05/06/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Growing apart, lack of healthy communication and feelings of dislike or irritation for the other person instead of love. Most of my friends ended up drifting apart to the point of not even liking their partner.
05/06/2012
Contributor: panda555 panda555
I think lost love or mistaking lust for love plays allot of roles in break ups along with the lack of want to communicate feelings properly negative or positive.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Llahsram Llahsram
....I've never had a breakup
05/06/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by Pablo F Lleras
well i was just sitting there when i started to wander, why do people break up so often?, i listed some stuff but if i'm missing anything please explain. i'm sure i missed a lot so please add all you want
Thankfully I haven't had this problem, but CHEATING would be the number 1 thing that would make me walk out the door.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
you have to shop around to find someone you really want to be with for a long time. I don't think the number of break ups is odd or that breaking up should be seen as negative.

It is always sad when you lose something, but often there are better things out there.

I shouldn't be stuck with someone who isn't going to be right for me because of some ideal that break ups are bad...
05/06/2012
Contributor: beccawalton beccawalton
Not getting along if this is the case no sense in being in a bad mood all the time.
05/06/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
If your personalities are never in mesh, or if you disagree about essential life issues (finances, goals, children, jobs, religion) then it really doesn't matter if you have great sex or feel a certain spark of excitement together. There will just be too many issues and it's not worth it.
05/06/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
Dishonesty/lying.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
I think it's just personal differences in not getting along, but one of those issues could be an underlying dishonesty.
05/06/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
Quote:
Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Of the people we know there seems to be a trend that all comes down to a lack of honest communication or willingness to compromise (aka immaturity on one or both parts). Then there are the ones who got together for the wrong reasons to begin with, ... more
I agree with this entirely.
05/06/2012
Contributor: ginainohio ginainohio
cheating for sure cause after that there is no trust
05/27/2012
Contributor: CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
bad communication
06/16/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
We're on the rocks because of trust issues and because I'm not happy with the relationship in general (sex-wise, etc.) We actually communicate very well--to be more exact, I talk and he will usually listen. When I say trust issues, I don't mean cheating. I mean I often wonder about his intentions for marrying me. And he has lied on several occasions.
06/16/2012
Contributor: KRD KRD
cheating
06/29/2012
Contributor: SoloJoe SoloJoe
LAST ONE WAS MOSTLY SEX AS IN NONE FOR 3 YRS
07/17/2012
Contributor: Faeya Faeya
Never broken up with anyone who cheated, and probably wouldn't. Honestly, if there's a desire, you can get over something like that...just gotta promise to open those communication channels better. Now, lying? I'll break up with a chronic liar...

So far, I've broken up with the "man-who-couldn't-do-a nything" (hold a job, clean the house, take care of the kids, etc.) and the "man-who-throws-shit-w hen-he's-mad". Both were scary break-ups, but I fortunately got over them really quick.
07/17/2012
Contributor: Emjay Emjay
My boyfriend and I don't always get along, but we never think of seperating due to a fight or other differences. the only thing that could seperate us is our feelings for another person. cheating is NOT tolerated!
07/24/2012
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
My ex husband cheated on me. There were other issues too and in any break up I have had I can't pinpoint one thing, it is usually a collection of things that ultimately cause a split. Cheating for sure will, but abuse of any kind and lack of respect are right up there with cheating. These merit a break up for sure. For me alot of the time it was just that we had wanted different things in life or a lack of solid communication. Those things can be worked on. It is a shame that I am seeing that according to this poll the majority of break ups are caused by cheating That makes me sad. Don't cheat, just leave if you are not happy. Or even better, if you really love the person try to work on it to avoid cheating and/or ending a relationship that has potential.
07/24/2012
Contributor: LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
My ex was a lying, cheating piece of shit, so that is why I broke up with him. He was lousy at communicating, nor did he try to put effort in making our 5 year relationship work. I'm glad he's out of the picture, though, because he just wasn't what I was looking for in a long-term partner.
07/24/2012
Contributor: redstarr681 redstarr681
Cheating, if you dont get along with that person or just not feeling that person anymore... no reason to string a person along...
07/24/2012
Contributor: Pinkshirt Pinkshirt
I think that not getting along leads to resentment and unhappiness which then can lead people to cheat.
07/24/2012