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Contributor: Ansley Ansley


Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic.



"Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the three in your mind? Is there an orgasm count needed, a certain toy, or maybe a certain position is required? Do you have trouble distinguishing between the three?
08/20/2012
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Originally posted by Ansley
Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic."Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the ... more
I think it depends on a lot. The situation, the mood etc
08/21/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
(Review Program Mentor)
I think the moods and energy really do it for us.
08/21/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
There's no good, better, best in my mind. IF I'm able to achieve orgasm then I'm ecstatic. Some are stronger than others, but I think it depends on my mood, what arousal gel I'm using, and the toy. No less than 5 Vrooms when it comes to toys.
08/21/2012
Contributor: MissCupcake MissCupcake
For me, it's what happened before we got to the bedroom. If we felt connected prior to physical foreplay, it feels extra special. Mostly because at least a couple orgasms are a given, so if I went by that, every time would be mind-blowing. Also, I love when it starts as an all-over body massage and turns into . . . well, you get the idea.
08/21/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
There's no good, better, best in my mind. IF I'm able to achieve orgasm then I'm ecstatic. Some are stronger than others, but I think it depends on my mood, what arousal gel I'm using, and the toy. No less than 5 Vrooms when it comes to toys.
I know you've mentioned in previous posts that you've had trouble achieving orgasms; care to share which toys and which gels you use so others might try them?
08/21/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by MissCupcake
For me, it's what happened before we got to the bedroom. If we felt connected prior to physical foreplay, it feels extra special. Mostly because at least a couple orgasms are a given, so if I went by that, every time would be mind-blowing. Also, ... more
I am so the same way. If I feel even the tiniest bit disconnected from my husband, I start this slow-ride of panic mode where I'm like okay, how do I bring it back down to square one, how can I buff the edges so we're nice and calm and we like each other again (often impacted by work related stress). Most of the time I succeed, but there are those nights where we just can't seem to come back together and those are the nights we go to bed and cuddle instead of rocking each other's worlds or we'll have what I call lazy sex.

The nights where we are super into each other, it's the most amazing thing ever.
08/21/2012
Contributor: Shelly Bradbury Swoveland Shelly Bradbury Swoveland
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic."Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the ... more
My mood is a main factor and how my partner approaches.
08/21/2012
Contributor: MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
what makes it or breaks it for me is whether or not i get my partner off.

im a giver.
08/21/2012
Contributor: amyhope81 amyhope81
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic."Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the ... more
well good is in most cases, better for me would be a g spot orgasm, and best being with the man i love and being totally lost in eachother with both gspot orgasm as well as clitoral, and being absolutely spent after a long love making session
08/21/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
Some days it just gets me exciting that my husband instigates sex instead of me. I really enjoy getting new toys and when using them for the first time, I have a powerful orgasm. This was the case with my new G-Ki is hit everything just right.
08/21/2012
Contributor: Peace357 Peace357
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic."Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the ... more
Some things work better for me than others for getting off, but if we're both having fun I don't usually worry too much about the orgasm, for a while at least. ;-)
08/21/2012
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
I am so the same way. If I feel even the tiniest bit disconnected from my husband, I start this slow-ride of panic mode where I'm like okay, how do I bring it back down to square one, how can I buff the edges so we're nice and calm and we ... more
This is pretty much it for me as well. Stress is a pain and can make it hard to have awesome sex but when we're doing good and we can really be into each other is when it's the best.
08/21/2012
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
I think the difference is determined by attitude, energy level and creativity. I would say the length of our love making is also a factor, but that's not always the case. I would say that anything that is considered out of the box pushes my experience into the best category, especially if my wife shocks me.
08/21/2012
Contributor: Stooshy Stooshy
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic."Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the ... more
It all depends really, usually it's the skill in bed, sometimes size contributes, on occasion it can be a position.
08/21/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It's all varied. Mood certainly plays a huge part in it.
08/21/2012
Contributor: mlmac mlmac
If both my partner and I can both get off together, I consider it the best. Better and good as mentioned before, all depends on the mood.
08/21/2012
Contributor: Xxun Xxun
"Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the three in your mind? I guess it's a combination of the mood and for how long.


Is there an orgasm count needed, a certain toy, or maybe a certain position is required? I always have to stimulate my clit to orgasm, no certain toy or position is needed as long as I maintain that one golden rule.


Do you have trouble distinguishing between the three? Not really, I *know* when an orgasm is a good one and when it's THE BEST ONE EVER.
08/21/2012
Contributor: Do emu Do emu
Mood, arousal level, intensity, how long it lasts, and general comfort. Lots of factors!
08/21/2012
Contributor: Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
I do 'good' by myself and have fun.
'Better' is when I get my partner involved.
'Best' is when we both enjoyed our intimate time together.
08/21/2012
Contributor: Brenda Witherspoon-Bedard Brenda Witherspoon-Bedard
I think it often depends on my mood
08/21/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
As far as count goes, any orgasm is considered great in my book. If I had to find a way to differentiate between the three I suppose 'good' would be any use of my Egg Ecstacy (great toy, but if I use it the way I "need" to it becomes too much for my husband to take), and 'better' would be any use of my Inspire, (again, it's a fabulously strong toy, but vibes can only get me so far).

'Best'? Once more, it'd have to be using the Inspire, but partnered with a seriously sexy make-out session with the hubby. It seems like I can really relax and just enjoy it more if my brain isn't focused on "WOW that's strong!"
08/21/2012
Contributor: potstickers potstickers
Sometimes good is best, depending on the circumstances.
08/21/2012
Contributor: SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
If we're talking sex, both partners need to get off for it to be great, in my opinion. Good sex can happen without an orgasm, though.
08/21/2012
Contributor: Yummybite Yummybite
I could not tell. Yeah, it really depends on the situation, the mood, and whom you are with.
08/22/2012
Contributor: kantaz kantaz
I think good is pretty much something you can get by yourself, better is with a parter, but best has got to be when you both know exactly what each other like, and keep experimenting
08/22/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
all this talk about partners, lovers, sex...I'm getting horny!!!
08/22/2012
Contributor: puppylove puppylove
Its all about mind set and mood for me, also best tends to happen with my partner and good is by myself
08/22/2012
Contributor: carebear712 carebear712
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Originally posted by Ansley
Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic."Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the ... more
For the best sex we both are spent afterwards having multiple orgasms and really both got into it. It's pretty much always at least good even though sometimes I don't orgasm, orgasmimg does make it better though, that's for sure too!
08/22/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by carebear712
For the best sex we both are spent afterwards having multiple orgasms and really both got into it. It's pretty much always at least good even though sometimes I don't orgasm, orgasmimg does make it better though, that's for sure too!
As I love to say, orgasms make the heart grow fonder!
08/22/2012