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Which gender is your target audience? OR if you have a blog or post your erotic stories elsewhere, who do you think are your general audience?

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Contributor: Woman China Woman China
I was reading PassionateLover's story and in his intro, he wrote; "While most of these stories are written by women for women, I believe men could also find inspiration by reading these short-stories with their partner. The possibilities in reading these racy stories could just be the catalyst in fulfilling their utmost erotic fantasy."

And of course that got me to thinking.

So now, I'd like everyone to do some thinking, and let me know what you are thinking.

Split up into two questions:

Target Audience- who do you write for
General Audience- which gender reads your work the most
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Target Audience: Women
3
Target Audience: Men
Target Audience: Both
8
Target Audience: I write for me (or for one special person from time to time)
8
General Audience: Women
4
General Audience: Men
1
General Audience: Both
2
General Audience: I really am just happy people read my work
4
I've something other to say on this topic
4
Total votes: 34 (15 voters)
Poll is closed
02/07/2012
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Contributor: Woman China Woman China
I am a woman, and I write erotic stories.

I write them because I enjoy writing and truly enjoy turning people on. That turns me on. When I write stories, I don't write them with men or women in mind. I write them firstly with the hope that I will get to work something out in my head and that I will get turned on writing the sex scenes.

I just really like writing sex scenes. Have you noticed??? LOL!!!

And for my audience, most of my general audience seems to be men. I'd go so far as to guess that about 80% of my readers are men, and about 80ish% of my commenters publicly and privately are men.

I write for me with me in mind and from time to time, one special person.

My general audience is usually men. The private emails I get from men, are basically always saying the same things, "how can I get my wife/girl friend to do THAT?", "what can I do to spice up my relationship", "can you send me more pictures of you", "my name is BLAH, can you write me a story and use my name?", "when you are in _____, here is my number, PLEASE call me" and the worst ones? "I've booked my ticket to China, where are you I need to meet you"... and those are just the ones I've received through the night. The messages I get from women, are much different; "how do I get my boyfriend/husband to enjoy using toys during sex?", "I'm new to toys, can you help me pick my first toy?"
02/07/2012
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
Quote:
Originally posted by Woman China
I am a woman, and I write erotic stories.

I write them because I enjoy writing and truly enjoy turning people on. That turns me on. When I write stories, I don't write them with men or women in mind. I write them firstly with the hope ... more
I have some ideas about this. Great topic for discussion. I will share my answers to your poll when I have time to think about it and get a good answer together. Maybe tomorrow, probably Thursday or Friday. (You can maybe read it with your Saturday coffee)
02/08/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
Quote:
Originally posted by Cedarlooman
I have some ideas about this. Great topic for discussion. I will share my answers to your poll when I have time to think about it and get a good answer together. Maybe tomorrow, probably Thursday or Friday. (You can maybe read it with your Saturday ... more
Ahhh... you know me well darling!!!!

I love discussion threads. I'd like to see more of them here especially about erotica writing as that is something we all have in common!!!
02/08/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I write stories for my wife - and to entertain myself while I'm traveling. They are a little selfish - because they are usually about things that I'd like to do - that she has be reluctant to participate in. After 22+ years I'd say that the overall impact has been positive. Many of my suggestions have come to fruition - still some to conquer though!
02/08/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
I have a blog and my target audience is kind of women, I guess. But also, not really. In fact, really not really. It's hard to explain. I'll post about vibrators and stuff a lot but I've also got a lot of naked women on my blog. So I guess my blog is for lesbians (like myself) and open-minded men? Most of my followers are women (and I assume most of them are gay).
02/08/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Woman China
I was reading PassionateLover's story and in his intro, he wrote; "While most of these stories are written by women for women, I believe men could also find inspiration by reading these short-stories with their partner. The possibilities in ... more
I try to write for the broadest audience but sometimes I just write for myself or for my guys. I have done fetish writing quite a lot and I like having the bare bones of a story presented to me and then being asked to make something of it.
02/08/2012
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I don't try to create stories/erotica. I usually just write it when I have a fantasy that I want to flesh out. I add elements that aren't part of the initial fantasy, but overall, I write it for myself. If I like it, I'll publish it.

Since I write for myself, I tend to write a lot of queer, genderfluid stuff. Much of it entails a woman and another female-bodied person. Sometimes they're cis-gendered and playing with gender, or they're genderqueer. What's especially interesting about this is that most of the people I know in the LGBT community are not genderqueer or genderfluid at all. I, mostly, am friends with cis-gendered lesbians and gay men.

As for my blog and the stuff I write there about sexuality, relationships, etc.: I hope that I am writing for the mass audience of all genders; however, I feel like I'm probably reaching mostly women.
02/08/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I don't try to create stories/erotica. I usually just write it when I have a fantasy that I want to flesh out. I add elements that aren't part of the initial fantasy, but overall, I write it for myself. If I like it, I'll publish ... more
Ok. This might sound really bad... but I do not understand a lot of the terms used in BBW's post!!!!

What is "cis-gender" and "genderqueer" and "genderfluid"?

Help!!!
02/08/2012
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Woman China
Ok. This might sound really bad... but I do not understand a lot of the terms used in BBW's post!!!!

What is "cis-gender" and "genderqueer" and "genderfluid"?

Help!!!
From Urban Dictionary, because it's easier to copy/paste:

genderfluid--This is related to being transgender. It is when people sometimes feel as if they're male and sometimes as if they're female. This does not have to be related to sexuality or physical gender in any way, and is not a result of indecision.

Genderqueer is most commonly used to describe a person who feels that his/her gender identity does not fit into the socially constructed "norms" associated with his/her biological sex.

cisgender--Not transgender, that is, having a gender identity or gender role that society considers appropriate for the sex one was assigned at birth. The prefix cis- is pronounced like "sis".
02/08/2012
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Woman China
Ok. This might sound really bad... but I do not understand a lot of the terms used in BBW's post!!!!

What is "cis-gender" and "genderqueer" and "genderfluid"?

Help!!!
and there's nothing wrong with not knowing the terms. At least you asked
02/08/2012
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
Quote:
Originally posted by Woman China
I am a woman, and I write erotic stories.

I write them because I enjoy writing and truly enjoy turning people on. That turns me on. When I write stories, I don't write them with men or women in mind. I write them firstly with the hope ... more
Do you think it is really because more men are reading your work, or that the men are more forward with their responses and more ready to volunteer a comment?

I started out writing my stories for one person, because they were the one who encouraged me to give it a try. Since then I usually write to get out an idea I have and I really do like the fact that people seem to enjoy my writing and, yes, get turned on by it. Most of my stories are written without a specific person in mind, although I still write hoping that my original audience would enjoy the story.

I would guess that I have mixed readership, although I would say my writing is more along the lines of the stuff read by women. I usually have long, detailed buildups before the sex starts. The comments I get from men are usually along the lines of "that was nice, but I got a little bored and had to skip ahead to the good stuff", where the women's comments tend to be more complimentary towards the slow buildup to where some have been downright lewd. One comment I got on my shaving story was "Oh damn, that was hot, you can shave me anytime!" and "Is the professor looking at taking on any students for some private tutoring?".

So, yeah, I enjoy getting feedback. Although it is difficult to get. I know I get a couple comments on here, but I have stories on Literotica that have been viewed 20-30 thousand times and only have 2 or 3 comments and 50 or so votes for ranking.
02/16/2012
Contributor: LoneOokami LoneOokami
My general audience is female and thats who I write for
06/02/2013
Contributor: SickOnSin SickOnSin
Quote:
Originally posted by Woman China
I was reading PassionateLover's story and in his intro, he wrote; "While most of these stories are written by women for women, I believe men could also find inspiration by reading these short-stories with their partner. The possibilities in ... more
When I write I write it in the female's pov, but my stories can be read by anyone. I have a smashwords account and the reviews are about 50/50 men and woman, but if I send the story to someone to read I generally send it to men. So I'd say my work is read by more men then woman. However both sexes have enjoyed my writing.
06/17/2013