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Which would be a good first set of cuffs?

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Contributor: sbon sbon 12/13/2010

I'm looking into experimenting with BDSM and want to know what would make a good first set of wrist cuffs.

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Which is best for someone just starting with BDSM? (13 posts)
Contributor: sbon sbon
We're beginners, so we don't want anything too scary.
12/13/2010
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Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I wouldn't choose any of those.

I would recommend these: link

They are nylon, which means they are comfortable. They have secure bindings that are velcro which means that it is secure (trust me I struggle a lot and they stay put) but are easy to remove. Plus they are non-intimidating.
12/13/2010
Contributor: sbon sbon
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Originally posted by TitsMcScandal
I wouldn't choose any of those.

I would recommend these: link

They are nylon, which means they are comfortable. They have secure bindings that are velcro which means that it is secure (trust me I struggle a lot and they stay put) ... more
Thanks for the advice! Those look great.
12/15/2010
Contributor: hive83 hive83
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Originally posted by TitsMcScandal
I wouldn't choose any of those.

I would recommend these: link

They are nylon, which means they are comfortable. They have secure bindings that are velcro which means that it is secure (trust me I struggle a lot and they stay put) ... more
Great post we were looking for are first set to. Thank you.
12/15/2010
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by TitsMcScandal
I wouldn't choose any of those.

I would recommend these: link

They are nylon, which means they are comfortable. They have secure bindings that are velcro which means that it is secure (trust me I struggle a lot and they stay put) ... more
I completely agree
12/16/2010
Contributor: Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
i would start out with something nylon that would have a quick release for the dom to get the sub out fast if something happens. i would totally pass on any of these.
12/16/2010
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I'd start with Pink Plush wrist cuffs... they're kind of cute))
01/16/2011
Contributor: EvaChangeN EvaChangeN
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Originally posted by sbon
We're beginners, so we don't want anything too scary.
I like either nylon or leather. Cuffs tend to dig in to the skin, in a bad way. I used a set once, and I ended up with small gouges near my thumb joints and bruises on my wrists from bearing weight on them during orgasm.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Bill Ditchburn Bill Ditchburn
(Leatherbeaten)
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Originally posted by EvaChangeN
I like either nylon or leather. Cuffs tend to dig in to the skin, in a bad way. I used a set once, and I ended up with small gouges near my thumb joints and bruises on my wrists from bearing weight on them during orgasm.
I wouldn't get anything too flimsy or too trashy or too cheap. GO for something comfortable and durable. "Beginners" get directed toward not-very-good gear all the time, and it's not fair!

Crap gear can give a really off putting impression of what BDSM is, or can be. If you enjoy the play, you'll likely end up getting a decent pair of restraints at some point anyway. If you don't, you'll either give up and just throw the crap gear away, or you'll think 'maybe we should try this again, but with better gear'!

Either way, the odds of you still using the cheapos a year down the road are pretty slim.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Mr. E Mr. E
I'd stay away from the metal hand cuffs and the really cheap starter sets. Bill is right, the crap gear will either turn you off or you will just end up replacing it.


With that said, if you are looking for something decent to test the waters, the Plushy Gear cuffs are the most comfortable, durable, and reasonably priced restraints that we have personally tried. The SportsSheets Sport Cuffs are another good option, though not quite as comfortable. Both of these utilize Velcro closures and are quite functional for beginner play.

If you can spend a little more, some of the lined leather cuffs are quite nice. Just because it is leather doesn't mean that it has to be scary.
02/07/2011
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
(EdenFantasys)
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Originally posted by Bill Ditchburn
I wouldn't get anything too flimsy or too trashy or too cheap. GO for something comfortable and durable. "Beginners" get directed toward not-very-good gear all the time, and it's not fair!

Crap gear can give a really off ... more
It amazes me sometimes about how beginners get some of the bad stuff. At the same time, though, there is some decent beginner stuff that just happens to be made out of felt, neoprene, or something softer for beginners. I know we stick with some softer items to sleep in to avoid cutting off circulation.

Leatherbeaten does carry a faux fur cuff, and since they're known for quality, it might be worth checking out. (Cheetah Cuffs) I'm not a fan of cheetah print, so I haven't tried this specific set out.

Thanks for participating though Bill. It's great to see an opinion from the non-consumer side of the fence.
02/07/2011
Contributor: RedGoddess RedGoddess
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Originally posted by sbon
We're beginners, so we don't want anything too scary.
I would suggest Rachel's comfy Cuffs I have also done a review about these cuffs if you are looking for more info about what I think.
I was a beginner with cuffs, and i love these ones.
02/17/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Have fun!
02/17/2011