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Contributor: Badass Badass
Would you rather be the one tied up, or the one doing the tying?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
underHim , glassdoll , LusciousLollypop , (k)InkyIvy , TheSinDoll , MaryExy , vampyroteuthidae , Ciao. , Vanille , padmeamidala , Princess-Kayla ♥ , fredacarl , charletnarouh , SmutGeek , Miss Morphine , Loriandhubby , SMichelle , pinkpottergirl , Various , eroticmutt , Falsepast , Yumi , anonymouse58 , bison , gloomybear , All His , mpfm , VelvetDragon , SadoMas , AnnMorette , Kitten has left the site , phozersexy , Peggi , Squeaky , KinkyKatiya , ViVix , squire , LunaLuthor , LadyDarknezz , Zandrock , Calypso05 , AmberBayta , Mwar , Sinfully , Phosphorous Tick , boobaloo , Missmarc , Geogeo , xxjoel , xcapricax , sexykiss , Midnightsun327 , no teezing here , 4ever18 , Lavone , Amity88 , wicked48 , SophieWG
58  (50%)
Mistress Jezebel , Kayla , CoffeeCup , tiggle biddies , Lovelies , gsfanatic , Femme Mystique , USJT130119200518 , BloodHound , xOhxSoxScandalousx , Badass , Terri69 , Rey , Phantom2291 , iovys , MistressAnika
16  (14%)
Ms. Spice , Amelia Stone , voenne , SparklyGlitter , SexyRayne , Pixel , tpfks , queergaze , Airen Wolf , Stagger13 , Kindred , freda , hall5885 , chort , LavenderSkies , Collogue , Teddixox , corsetsaurus rex , Heatherbipoly , TransMarc , panda555 , Faeya , Danielle1220 , elli , tigertiger , Ganconagh , Tessa Taboo , stlouisxxx , Mr. E , thisisadeletedaccount , TiffyPixie , RomanticGoth , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , geekkink , Scrawberry78 , TheirPet , novanilla , Ex-prude , hiddenmix006 , Soundside46 , DenRu85 , MissMichella420 , Whateverslides
43  (37%)
Total votes: 117
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02/13/2012
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Contributor: underHim underHim
Fully submissive in every aspect to my husband
02/13/2012
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I'm a switch. But I don't like being tied and I don't like tying others up. That's not really my kink, and really, there's so much more to the lifestyle than being tied up.
02/13/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
I want to do stuff to other people but have stuff done to me when I'm learning/with people I trust.

So, uh, switch.
02/13/2012
Contributor: Amelia Stone Amelia Stone
I personally love both.
02/13/2012
Contributor: Amelia Stone Amelia Stone
I personally love both.
02/13/2012
Contributor: voenne voenne
It depends on my mood! Being dominant helps blow off steam, and being submissive is also a nice break from trying to control everything in daily life. I like both.
02/13/2012
Contributor: SparklyGlitter SparklyGlitter
It all depends on the night
02/13/2012
Contributor: glassdoll glassdoll
I'm submissive through and through. I tried being a switch for a while but it just wasn't working out. I like kneeling too much.
02/13/2012
Contributor: LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
Totally submissive in every aspect. I love it too much. I could never be a top/dominant. I laugh too much. I like pleasing others too much. Especially my Master. xoxo
02/13/2012
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I swear I just answered a question just like this...

I'm a submissive. I enjoy being tied. I also want to learn how to tie and rig. I would love to know how to be a really good rigger.
02/13/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I like them both. One day I may want to be sub and one day I may want to be dom.
02/13/2012
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
While rope is fun, who ties whom up has nothing to do with submissiveness or dominance. BDSM has so much more to it than just bondage...
02/13/2012
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
I tend to like being tied up more, but I like them both, just kind of depends on where my headspace is at on that particular day.
02/14/2012
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
I am 24/7 lifestyle submissive kitty girl to my girlfriend. She does however allow me to 'take charge' sometimes, but she is STILL my Master.
02/14/2012
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Would you rather be the one tied up, or the one doing the tying?
I want to be tied up
02/14/2012
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I'm a sub.
02/14/2012
Contributor: fredacarl fredacarl
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Would you rather be the one tied up, or the one doing the tying?
I wanna be tied up
02/15/2012
Contributor: SmutGeek SmutGeek
Well I'm a sub but I'm starting to learn to be more Dominant...still don't have a desire to tie people up lol I don't have the patience for that.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Mistress Jezebel Mistress Jezebel
I'm Dominant, my sub is the one who likes to be tied up.
02/17/2012
Contributor: AMTTT AMTTT
Always sub, I like when he takes control
02/17/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Would you rather be the one tied up, or the one doing the tying?
I am capable of playing the switch...but I tend to top from the bottom so I need a very firm uncompromising hand if I am subbing.
I love being tied up and also love tying up my partners.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Pixel
While rope is fun, who ties whom up has nothing to do with submissiveness or dominance. BDSM has so much more to it than just bondage...
Agreed! I am totally dominant and find it a major challange to let go of control but I absolutely love shibari or being cocooned and just left. I love being tied down and tied up. It's all about what the sensations of the experience are and where they leave you.
02/17/2012
Contributor: freda freda
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Would you rather be the one tied up, or the one doing the tying?
not for me
02/20/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Would you rather be the one tied up, or the one doing the tying?
Both!
03/04/2012
Contributor: Collogue Collogue
BOTH
03/04/2012
Contributor: pinkpottergirl pinkpottergirl
I am a total sub, with men and women, But mainly in the bedroom not in my life
03/04/2012
Contributor: Various Various
I love being tied up, but I don't like the control of having someone tied up.
03/12/2012
Contributor: tiggle biddies tiggle biddies
Quote:
Originally posted by Badass
Would you rather be the one tied up, or the one doing the tying?
i have no interest in being the submissive one! id rather tie up my man and violate him a bit
03/14/2012
Contributor: Lovelies Lovelies
I'm just not a submissive person. I want what I want, and I am all for tying, restraining, violating, and getting what it is I desire.
03/15/2012