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Contributor: Meganisshort Meganisshort
My husband recently revealed to me he enjoys anal play. I knew he liked a little play in that area from trying to mess with him, but he would never let me do anything really (he thought I'd think he was "gay" or weird if he told me he liked it-which I don't at all)...Now he wants me to get a strap on or double ended dildo to use on him. I am a little hesitant because I've never been the "giver" in that way,but I am also intrigued and definitely willing to try new & exciting things....however, I have no clue where to begin with what kind to buy...he's used plugs and other toys on himself before, so we don't necessarily need anything for a "beginner"....I'm really the new one to all this. ( i kind of would like to start with something that I "get something out of" at first, so it's easier for me to get into all this at first-idk)And I ask here because he is deployed right now & coming home soon- but where he's at, he cannot access toy sites to tell me exactly which things to get...so I'm left to choose, and need some advice on what might be a good start.....thanks.

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08/21/2012
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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08/21/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by Meganisshort
My husband recently revealed to me he enjoys anal play. I knew he liked a little play in that area from trying to mess with him, but he would never let me do anything really (he thought I'd think he was "gay" or weird if he told me he ... more
The first two things you will need to do is figure out what size dildo to get. Measure the ones he has and ask which ones are the better fit for him, so you can pick out one. Decide what material too. Silicone is the best for anal, cleaning, and sharing.

The next thing is to measure your hips for a harness. There are a lot of the harnesses that aren't over 42" in the hips, so if you are above that, you need to know exactly what it is.

After that, figure out your price limit for both the dildo and harness.

If you don't have one; I recommend the Pink Candy Minx Harness and the dildo that works best for him. You might need to pick up extra O-rings for the size of your dildo.

If you are under 38" in the hips and have a budget; I recommend Fetish Fantasy harness and dildo kit.

If you are over 38" and have a budget; I would check out Inked harness and pick your dildo.
08/21/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Get the dildo (silicone, and look for one with a curve) and harness separately. Use the O-ring system because you can find more options there.

Get a double-strap harness. Aslan and Outlaw Leather both make great harnesses, but they are more expensive.

For his stimulation, turn the dildo so the curve points towards his prostate (the dildo will curve towards the inside of his belly button). For your stimulation I'd recommend trying to get a vibrator over a double. I used to be very pro-double, but while they have advantages they also have disadvantages and are expensive. One thing to consider would be something such as the Aslan Double-Up Cuff, which attaches to a "jock" harness and lets you put a dildo on your side of the harness. The Outlaw harnesses also let you do this.
08/25/2012
Contributor: The Kitty The Kitty
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Originally posted by Meganisshort
My husband recently revealed to me he enjoys anal play. I knew he liked a little play in that area from trying to mess with him, but he would never let me do anything really (he thought I'd think he was "gay" or weird if he told me he ... more
I highly recomend the Share by fun factory, also if you are not comfortable being in control put in or on your strap on and let him ride you, that way he can set the depth and speeed and you can just enjoy the ride, its a nice visual too and his cock will be right there for stroking
08/27/2012