Question about Strap-On Sex...

Contributor: queertastic queertastic
Okay. Here's the deal.

My girlfriend and I are new to the strap-on sex realm of lesbian sex. We're using a harness and have three (yes, 3) fairly firm, non-floppy cocks that we use to fuck each other with. Sometimes things work great. We can get a rhythm going and it's a lot of fun.

Other times, the cock just flops around in the harness. The cock doesn't hold sturdy (is floppy) and penetration doesn't work.

We've tried using different O-ring sizes for different cocks. That didn't seem to solve our problem. We've also tried to hold the cock in our hand while fucking at hopes of having better penetration. No luck either (plus, it took a lot of fun out of things).

The harness that we're using is the: Vibrating Corsette Harness

The two cocks that we purchased from this website are: Smooth Operator Strap-On Dildo and the Echo Strap-On Dildo

Does anyone have any position ideas, ways to build up a comfortable rhythm or any way to mitigate the 'floppy cock' problem? We've fucked a handful of times but finally just got so frustrated that we've taken a break to fucking with a stap-on...

...any advice is greatly appreciated.

Thanks! =)

- prettywittygay
10/19/2010
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Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I don't have that harness but since it is a jock type, it should work. My guess is that it is not adjusted properly. Take the time and play around with it. Also, I am on the slim side and I find harnesses harder to fit and adjust. Both dils should work. The dil works best when the base is tight vs your pubes so wear it low. Also practice thrusting alone to get the feeling.
You really shouldn't have to hold the dil beyond the initial penetration and it shouldn't slide around. Perhaps a smaller O ring is in order? As for position? I prefer my feet to be on the floor; better control and balance.
Good luck!!
10/19/2010
Contributor: queertastic queertastic
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
I don't have that harness but since it is a jock type, it should work. My guess is that it is not adjusted properly. Take the time and play around with it. Also, I am on the slim side and I find harnesses harder to fit and adjust. Both dils ... more
Thanks for the advice. I will be sure to play around with the adjustment of the harness. I've been wearing the harness higher - that's probably part of our problem! I'll also practice thrusting (in private). I'll look into a smaller O-ring.

Thanks so much again! This was a very useful response. =)
10/20/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
You want to have the harness be a bit tight. For the absolute best stability you might want to try centering the dildo base over your mons veneris/pubic bone, and make sure the waist straps are over your pelvis. Then cinch it down and it should get less floppy. The bad news is that it isn't as stimulating as lowering the dildo so it's over your clit. Another option is to try a metal ring.

I've never had a G-string type, all of ours are the jock type. G-string types can have a bit more side-to-side floppiness, and it's hard to correct that.
10/21/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
Sometimes, the reason why it's floppy is simply the material of the dildo itself, but I do agree with everyone else's suggestions.
10/21/2010