Pegging No Longer A Fantasy (We've Graduated!)

Contributor: darklegion00 darklegion00
SO! Late last year, we began discussing anal in general with regards to me. I had played around with myself back there a couple times before over the years, and had a general idea of what felt good and what didn't. Between our discussions in 2011 and the beginning of summer this year, we accomplished quite a bit. We started small and worked our way up. My P-spot was quickly discovered in the process, and the results were highly satisfying. Eventually we moved from fingers to small toys, and from small toys to larger ones. A couple inflatables were really exciting, and with use we found that the pressure on the P-spot was very satisfying. By the beginning of summer, we took it as far as trying (and succeeding) with her hand/fist. Luckily with petite body comes petite hands.

During the summer, having progressed through various stages, we safely concluded that it would be worthwhile trying pegging. Doing our homework, we purchased our own custom mini-kit to get things started:

SpareParts Joque Harness
Fetish Fantasy Elite
Ballsy Super Cock
Jopen Vanity Vr1

The thought process with the Jopen Vanity Vr1 is that if the Ballsy Super Cock was used, she could have the Jopen inside her simultaneously, and by going "through the motions" with pegging, she would simultaneously be stimulating herself internally.

Last night, we graduated from just a fantasy to a reality, and it was nothing short of amazing. I've read a lot of people's comments about the female should harness up and get a feel for things before the "big night" but we went the opposite direction. Working together, we got the Ballsy strapped up and I help tighten up the strap of the harness. For a good ten minutes, it was cute to watch her running around with her new found friend...whipping it around, grabbing it and shaking it, giggling saying things like, "I don't know how you guys deal with your balls between your legs!" It was a good ice breaker to joke around for a bit before moving into the bed.

Once in the bed, things got more serious. It started with her and I just laying next to each other, while she lubed up and just "practiced" stroking the dildo. After a bit of thought on how we should handle the first time, and in what position, we opted for a simple "me on the back, her on knees between my legs." Though I had warmed up a little beforehand (and had tested the Ballsy by myself days prior), I was still shocked when she first slipped in. Taking it slow at first to adjust and correct position, the rest seem to come very naturally. She had been worried about motions and techniques, but after a few strokes, she had the rhythm of a pro. I too was a bit nervous at first, but I quickly became comfortable and submitted to her control on top. When things sped up to a strong pace, every thrust of hers worked in balls deep while she focus nibbling from my chest up to my ears. In the final moments, she leaned up enough for me to grab a hold of myself, having one of the most intense orgasms I've ever experienced. Needless to say, she was turned on immensely by what had just took place. Since we went "traditional" with the strap on and lack of female stimulation as well, and since my erection hadn't disappeared at all, I quickly helped her slip off the harness, threw her on her back and returned the favor with the same stamina she just gave me.

I apologize for the length bit, but I just wanted to share that the first time was a great one, and it definitely won't be the last.

If you're reading this and have considered it, I highly recommend you try it. I think the most helpful aspect to making the experience successful was the length of time exploring limits and COMMUNICATION! Without it, last night would've been less than perfect.
09/17/2012
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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09/17/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Congratulations!

So give us some more details!

What about the Fetish Fantasy Elite - have you used it? Did it work?

What about the VR1 - did she have it in while pegging you? Did it work for her?

Was she able to orgasm pegging you?

My story is not so successful - although my wife is completely fine using toys for me anally - after one attempt with the Share - she paned the experience and hasn't wanted to try again. But - maybe your experience will help convince her!
09/18/2012
Contributor: darklegion00 darklegion00
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Congratulations!

So give us some more details!

What about the Fetish Fantasy Elite - have you used it? Did it work?

What about the VR1 - did she have it in while pegging you? Did it work for her?

Was she able to ... more
She did actually try on the Elite, but for the first time, we did not use it with penetration. The VR1 wasn't used the first time. The next time we use the Ballsy, she'll definitely have it inside her.

I didn't mention it before, but after our first time, I definitely have a new found appreciation for women and penetration. A couple times while she made regular adjustment in body posture, I could definitely feel the motions translated to the strap on and consequent feelings inside me. It just added to the experience as a whole.
09/18/2012
Contributor: Peg Peg
Congrats !!!
09/20/2012
Contributor: hornyNkinky hornyNkinky
We jumped onto the feeldo from the start. She and I are both able to get off every time, and man is it great!
09/25/2012
Contributor: darklegion00 darklegion00
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Originally posted by hornyNkinky
We jumped onto the feeldo from the start. She and I are both able to get off every time, and man is it great!
We've heard good things about the Feeldoe in general, so it's definitely on our "Future Purchases" list.
09/25/2012
Contributor: Mitzuki Mitzuki
Congrats!!
09/27/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
Congrats!
09/27/2012
Contributor: Kat and Aaron(aaron) Kat and Aaron(aaron)
Glad to hear of your success. We started small with a bend over kit and worked our way up. Still have a toys on our wish list, feeldoe being one of them.
09/27/2012
Contributor: meitman meitman
Congrats, that's awesome! I can't wait until I can share a similar story!
09/27/2012
Contributor: Mhay64 Mhay64
Congrats!!
09/28/2012
Contributor: PassionCpl PassionCpl
Congrats and welcome to the 'Club'! We first tried about 7 years ago and it didn't go well. Then we discovered EF this time last year, picked up a Bend Over Intermediate Kit and things went well from there. Now we've progressed to a SpareParts Joque and a Vixskin Goodfella - which we're enjoying more than our Feeldoe Slim - and things are about as perfect as they could be. The Jopen Vanity looks like it might be worth trying too though.

Oh and we just got the Sasha Harness today and can't wait to try that one too. This is fun!
09/28/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by PassionCpl
Congrats and welcome to the 'Club'! We first tried about 7 years ago and it didn't go well. Then we discovered EF this time last year, picked up a Bend Over Intermediate Kit and things went well from there. Now we've progressed to a ... more
Thanks for the info - I read your reviews and they are helpful. My wife has been reluctant to do this - but its still on the table.

I'm really interested to read your review on the Sasha harness - it looks fabulous, but at $150 - I need to learn more about it. Especially getting correct sizing.
09/28/2012
Contributor: darklegion00 darklegion00
We'll, we had our second session last night. We decided to try the Fetish Fantasy Elite this time. All was well for the first few strokes, but unfortunately, things did not work well for long. We used the Spare Parts Joque Harness with the Elite, which we believe contribute to the uneasiness of the dildo inside her, because the Joque aims to place the dildo in a more nature position that is a bit higher than her opening will allow comfortably.

So she quickly decided to abort with the Elite and switch back to the Ballsy Super Cock. While doing so, she made a surprising comment about liking the Ballsy more due to it's size, and how it makes her feel more dominant. With that comment adding more fuel added to the fire, compared to the first time, there was much more energy involved on both my part and hers. It didn't take long to get going at an intense pace that could be easily compared to this video on Sensual Pegging's Tumblr.

We've decided to try the Elite again in the near future without the harness to see how it performs. Based on other comments, we're definitely still curious about the Feeldo.

-C&M
10/01/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by darklegion00
We'll, we had our second session last night. We decided to try the Fetish Fantasy Elite this time. All was well for the first few strokes, but unfortunately, things did not work well for long. We used the Spare Parts Joque Harness with the ... more
Thanks for the update and links. I've ordered the Fun Factory Magnum - similar in size to the Ballsy - but less realistic - something my wife seems to prefer. She's quite willing to do this all manually - but I'm working on getting a harness - the Joque is definitely on the list - but I'm also considering the strapless - underwear style RodeoH and Sasha.

FYI - we've had trouble with dildos like Ballsy. At first they are ok - but after a while they give my wife and I a bad burning reaction, so we're strictly silicone, glass or steel now. There are lost of cool VixSkin and O2 products similar - and even larger than Ballsy.

My goal someday is to have her peg me with The Outlaw link - that will take some serious preparation!

Looking forward to hearing your next update!
10/01/2012
Contributor: darklegion00 darklegion00
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Thanks for the update and links. I've ordered the Fun Factory Magnum - similar in size to the Ballsy - but less realistic - something my wife seems to prefer. She's quite willing to do this all manually - but I'm working on getting a ... more
Thanks for the heads up regarding the physical reaction. We'll definitely keep close attention to our future experiences with it. *fingers crossed* Luckily, we haven't had any negative reactions to any toy so far.

I've definitely been looking into the Outlaw. I know I could handle it with a bit of a warm up, but having just recently dived into pegging, we're pacing ourselves before expanding the "collection."
10/01/2012
Contributor: RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
Congrats
10/01/2012
Contributor: Mikemanz Mikemanz
nice
10/02/2012
Contributor: playsalot playsalot
sounds like fun
10/03/2012
Contributor: AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
Congratulations!

Wow - compared to the two of you my husband and I are flying by the seat of our pants! lol

I just posted in another thread that we ended up using our recently purchased Joque harness much sooner than even I expected. Any hesitance my husband felt and still feels is all in his head (he agrees) as he has no trouble relaxing for comfortable penetration.

Our first time was this past weekend and he really enjoyed himself. I didn't use a bullet in the Joque's inner pouch because I thought it would be more irritating than arousing since I wanted and needed to concentrate on him (it was my first time pegging).

He's had very little anal play experience overall so it's actually very surprising that we've engaged in pegging. I hadn't even tried on the harness before using it the other night (took it straight out of the box!) yet it only took a minute to adjust the straps and mount the dildo - you'd think I'd used a harness before. He was ready to move to the next step as soon as I was "dressed" so we got busy right away.

We kept the session short and sweet - everything went very smoothly - before moving on to finish with enthusiastic PIV sex. I thought I might feel weird or awkward or silly in a harness and dildo but I didn't feel self-conscious. Could be the simple fact that I didn't have any time to think about it before we started, though.

We'll see what happens next time. Yes, he's already told me there will definitely be a next time.
10/03/2012