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Is BDSM a component of your pegging encounters (for both men and women)

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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Pegging is an activity that can go either way - you can have the BDSM or FemDom aspects of a women anally penetrating a man, or else it can be free of the BDSM influence. I'm curious how the EF community does it (so to speak).

For the purposes of this poll BDSM is both activites and/or mindset.

As always, elaboration is much desired. It's private voting, so if you're comfortable with your name being tagged with your choice then please also elaborate. If not then keep quiet.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
BDSM is never a component of our/my pegging encounters
25
We've/I've tried BDSM in pegging a couple of times but it isn't for us/me.
BDSM is occasionally a component of my/our pegging encounters
18
BDSM is often a component of my/our pegging encounters
5
BDSM is always a component of my/our pegging encounters
10
A BDSM mindset is often a component of my pegging encounters but probably not/not my partners mindset
1
A BDSM mindset is not a component of my pegging encounters but probably is/ is a component of my partners mindset
Other
8
Total votes: 67 (62 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Bump to bring it up.

For us it pretty much isn't. Every once and a while I think it might be fun to be lightly tied or something, but my wife isn't into that. Heavy BDSM or FemDom no way.
10/05/2010
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
I'm with ScottA on this one. We experiment sometimes, but the heavy stuff just doesn't work for us.
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Contributor: clp clp
Primarily D/s. As of yet, we have not tried pegging without the element, but I wouldn't say that it couldn't happen. I think it is a huge turn-on for both of us, though, and helps him get into the moment.
Such a good, obedient boy I have.
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Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
For us, is often isn't necessarily a BDSM experience, though it is more for me than it is for him. This is mainly because he gets to be his usual submissive self, and just go head and enjoy whatever I decide to do. However, I must force myself out of my own submissive role into a more dominant role, (switch), which automatically makes it almost a role-play for me even if it isn't for him. I don't mind it a bit, especially when I get to put his collar on him, he looks so happy... But it is more of a BDSM experience for me than it is for him.

Happy pegging, all!
11/23/2010
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Pegging is an activity that can go either way - you can have the BDSM or FemDom aspects of a women anally penetrating a man, or else it can be free of the BDSM influence. I'm curious how the EF community does it (so to speak).

For the ... more
I guess this kind of depends on your definition of BDSM. He's not big into pain or anything, so there's not much there aside from light spanking and hair pulling, and I've never restrained him. However, he does like me bending him over the bed and using him like a naughty little girl. So I guess...yes? Maybe?
12/05/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
No BDSM in our house, just not our thing. We did try a blind fold once but that is the closest we have ever been to anything related.
12/26/2010
Contributor: idunshire idunshire
I feel like it's always a bit of a subtle mind-shift, but nothing as prominent as when we're not pegging. This is mostly, probably due to use being a bit new to it?
01/21/2011
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
We stay on the BD/s side of things. Both of us avoid the S&M side of it for personal reasons, but there is a very erotic aesthetic component to pegging for me. For her, I think she just enjoys it for itself.
01/25/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Hallmar82
We stay on the BD/s side of things. Both of us avoid the S&M side of it for personal reasons, but there is a very erotic aesthetic component to pegging for me. For her, I think she just enjoys it for itself.
It's unfortunate that so often BD/s is tied in with S/M, because as you point out they don't always go together.
01/31/2011
Contributor: oldkinky oldkinky
My wife and I love pegging for wild pleasure. She cums several times while I cum once. She gets so hot talking about her dick.
08/07/2011
Contributor: Big Dman Big Dman
Me and my ex just did it for fun. She never cared about dominating me, she wanted to get me off.
08/07/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
Not really
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Contributor: toysforall toysforall
not really much for us
08/17/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Hmmmmm, I never really thought of it that way before but might be fun.
08/17/2011
Contributor: Beaners Beaners
I'd like to update my answer. After one really interesting night, my boyfriend and I discovered that he likes when I "make love" to him way more than being my naughty little girl. It's still something that we default to from time to time though.
08/19/2011
Contributor: Bottom Boy Bottom Boy
My girlfriend and I are not so much into the tying-up and ball-gagging aspect of a D/s encounter, but I always get a good hard bottom-warming with a paddle, hairbrush, strap, whip, or cane (or a combination of these) before we have strap-on sex. She loves the rosy color in my butt-cheeks, and I love the feel of her hips grinding against my sore behind.
08/22/2011
Contributor: skunked skunked
Occasionally, yes.
08/22/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
BDSM is often involved, but not always. BDSM is, however, strictly play for us. So if we play around with, for example, using feminization as "punishment" and using pegging as a way of re-inforcing this feminization, it's ENTIRELY fantasy. In reality, neither of us think femme-ness for any sex or gender identity is shameful or a punishment. In reality, neither of us think that pegging or penetration has anything to do with being femme or female. But, for play? It is a fun fantasy for us. I guess I say this because I like to emphasize that even when BDSM is involved, we still look at pegging as a very normal activity and don't truly believe in the stereotypes and roles we play with.
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Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
We don't do it very often. Our BDSM tendencies are rather fluid and can come into or out of our play at any given time.
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Contributor: stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
For us it depends on our moods. It is probably close to 50/50
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12/03/2011
Contributor: Alex Time Alex Time
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Pegging is an activity that can go either way - you can have the BDSM or FemDom aspects of a women anally penetrating a man, or else it can be free of the BDSM influence. I'm curious how the EF community does it (so to speak).

For the ... more
I would like to give it a try!
05/08/2013
Contributor: oldkinky oldkinky
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Pegging is an activity that can go either way - you can have the BDSM or FemDom aspects of a women anally penetrating a man, or else it can be free of the BDSM influence. I'm curious how the EF community does it (so to speak).

For the ... more
Our pegging is strictly erotic and romantic-no pain etc. We both get so hot and have wild orgasms.
05/08/2013