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Contributor: smashthepatriarchy smashthepatriarchy
When you're gearing up for a pegging/harness using session, what do you do?

Do you wait until you're about to begin, and then put the harness on? Or do you wear the harness around for a while, previous to the foreplay, and then go? Or do you wear it all day?

Extra bonus question - does the harness turn you on, off, or are you indifferent to wearing it?
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Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
It's usually during foreplay that we decide we want to use the harness, so that's when I get it out and put it on.
03/02/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
If you have it ready (dildo attached and somewhat "preadjusted" so you don't need to fiddle with buckles much (at least for the leg straps)) it doesn't take much to step into it, and you can put it on whenever the mood seems right.
03/03/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
We only use it when we're ready to use as it gets in the way of other fun.
03/03/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
I've recently found that taking my time is more fun. (I've also worn a harness under clothes, but I can understand if that's not for everyone.)
03/04/2012
Contributor: Peg Peg
Voted other, if we are going to peg that is what we do first, so if we use a harness (we also have a Share) the harness goes on, we peg, then the harness comes off and the fun continues. May seem crass but his idea of foreplay for pegging is getting the lube out
03/04/2012
Contributor: Caus Caus
I like the harness, it doesn't really turn me on or off but it's nice.
03/13/2012
Contributor: queergaze queergaze
Quote:
Originally posted by smashthepatriarchy
When you're gearing up for a pegging/harness using session, what do you do?

Do you wait until you're about to begin, and then put the harness on? Or do you wear the harness around for a while, previous to the foreplay, and then go? Or ... more
If I had an aslan harness I'd have trouble resisting the urge to wear it all the time, without the dildo. They just look so gorgeous and badass, and part of it is the fact that I think it would help satisfy some of my genderqueer discomfort.
03/29/2012
Contributor: sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by smashthepatriarchy
When you're gearing up for a pegging/harness using session, what do you do?

Do you wait until you're about to begin, and then put the harness on? Or do you wear the harness around for a while, previous to the foreplay, and then go? Or ... more
I don't have one but if I did I would wear it only when I'm about to use it
06/09/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
Only during use, sometimes during foreplay.
06/10/2012
Contributor: Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
I really like wearing the harness, feel more sexy/ complete having something in between my legs.
Guess I'm in the other category.
I don't really care to be played with before sex, so I just strap in before arousing my partner.
But sometimes I like to watch her give the dildo a blow job......
07/16/2012
Contributor: stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
When we peg the harness is part of teh foreplay, but with the Joque the waist straps can be lose so I can slip a finger or tongue inside her
07/26/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
The harness is part of the foreplay. Normally there is some sucking on it. There is some teasing. It gets incorporated. Also pegging sometimes is just foreplay. We both dont orgasm, but it gets us frisky and then we switch to me penetrating her.
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Contributor: sexykiss sexykiss
put it on before
08/05/2012
Contributor: snarknemesis snarknemesis
One time my partner made me wear my harness out of the house for the whole day. I definitely want to try that again!
08/09/2012
Contributor: LoneOokami LoneOokami
either wear it before or put it on right before
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