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From Pegging to the "real" thing....

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Contributor: Ganconagh Ganconagh
Ok, a couple of years ago, my girlfriend introduced anal play into our sex play by slipping a finger in me during oral sex. It has evolved to include plugs, dildos, vibrators, beads, strapons and a fucking machine. She loves what we now call "her game," and gets so very turned on doing it. And, honestly, I love it as well. However, for me it isn't so much as arousing as it is relaxing (weird, no?).

Anyway, she now has a fantasy of watching me taking the "real thing." She mentions it often, and admits it would turn her on beyond compare. I am actually rather neutral towards the idea.

So, I was wondering if anyone else has been down this road, and if so, how you handled it. Or, what your thoughts are in general.
07/26/2012
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Constructive discussions on Pegging:

Does anyone else fantasize about pegging?
(pegging's where you wear a strap on and use it on your guy.)

Do men like pegging?
I want to see people's experiences with pegging please :3

Has anyone tried pegging?
I'm interested, but nervous.

What are your favorite positions for pegging (for the girls)?
We've had other position polls, but now couples who like pegging get a chance to speak up. This is going to be divided into two posts, one for the...

Can you cum when pegging someone else?
Just curious as to how many folks here who engage in pegging can also cum from the act itself.
07/26/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Do what you want to do, but be safe about it. Craigslist is not your friend, in this case. You'll want to establish a sort of friendship that has very specific, hard boundaries (decided by you and the players). Other than that, have fun with it.
07/26/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Not for me - but make sure to play safely - good luck.
07/26/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I personally wouldn't do it or advise it. Bringing in other partners can ruin a relationship, so is it worth the risk? Only you know.
07/27/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
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Originally posted by ScottA
I personally wouldn't do it or advise it. Bringing in other partners can ruin a relationship, so is it worth the risk? Only you know.
So can having kids, or moving...


To the OP: Obviously this is something only you can decide. I haven't had this specific situation, but if there's something sexual that a partner wants me to do that I'm not normally into, I need to make sure that I'm in a good place emotionally, that I can find a way to make it hot for me, or else it's icky, and icky ---> regret ---> more icky.
07/27/2012
Contributor: iluvPHSfh9 iluvPHSfh9
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Originally posted by Ganconagh
Ok, a couple of years ago, my girlfriend introduced anal play into our sex play by slipping a finger in me during oral sex. It has evolved to include plugs, dildos, vibrators, beads, strapons and a fucking machine. She loves what we now call ... more
I don't know if I would want to risk the relationship, personally I think it is a little odd that she would like you to be with someone else. Opening that can of worms could get sticky.
07/27/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I agree that introducing someone else into the bedroom might not be the best idea for your relationship. How about a compromise, trying a realistic dildo? It might not be AS exciting, but definitely safer in the long run.
07/28/2012
Contributor: Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
I say go for it, but put a LOT of thought into it first. Don't make it someone random, yet don't make it a friend that you are so close to that you would hate to lose the friendship, if things get awkward. Establish hard and soft limits, practice safe sex, and DON'T be afraid to say you just can't do it, even if it's last minute, or during. It's better to disappoint her fantasy than to resent her because you feel like she made you do it and you didn't want to. I've had plenty of threesomes. Lots were good, a few sucked, and I lost a few friends over some too. But I've also made some as well. As long as your relationship is strong enough, it shouldn't cause any problems!
07/28/2012
Contributor: squire squire
TO each their own. I would guess it might depend on the state and nature of your relationship. I wouldn't go for it personally, as I am a greedy lover and wouldn't want to introduce another person into my relationship. I like having all the attention and giving all the attention to a single person. Plus it would hurt our stability, but then again or relationship isn't set up where that is a part of our play.

As said above, have fun if you're both down for it but play safe and chose a friend you can vet rather than rely on the personals. If you're going to push your boundaries a bit having a familiar face and a safe place can make all the difference!
07/28/2012
Contributor: DashO'Roark DashO'Roark
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Not for me - but make sure to play safely - good luck.
My thoughts exactly..
08/06/2012