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Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Recently at a wine and cheese thing, the conversation turned to adult toys. I mentioned strap-on play and was somewhat surprised that only one other woman said she has a harness and enjoys it. Considering the number of harnesses and double dils available, I was somehow taken back and thought I said too much.

Comments are welcome...Thank you for your input.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I have a harness and enjoy strap-on play.
95
I don't have a harness, but it is something I would like to try.
55
I tried it but I and/or my partner do not enjoy it.
2
I can orgasm, as the giver, by using my strap-on.
17
My partner looks forward to me using my harness and totally enjoys it.
41
I think using a harness is "weird" and I wouldn't consider it.
4
My partner is not interested in me using a strap-on.
24
I think using a harness manifests gender identity issues.
Total votes: 238 (173 voters)
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Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
I have a Share, but I have never used it.

I actually bought it a few weeks ago, even if I was single. Both ends are quite fun for solo use, but I figure that the presence of the toy in my box can trigger some interesting conversations one day.
01/26/2010
Contributor: ThePornLibrarian ThePornLibrarian
Quote:
Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
I have a Share, but I have never used it.

I actually bought it a few weeks ago, even if I was single. Both ends are quite fun for solo use, but I figure that the presence of the toy in my box can trigger some interesting conversations one ... more
The Share is a great - good for you!
01/26/2010
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
I think harness is really fun and can bring a couple even closer together. I am "out" about liking it
01/26/2010
Contributor: oliverHyde oliverHyde
strap on play is DEFIANTLY one of my favorites. I'd cry if my harness broke.
01/26/2010
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
I love my strap-on. Even when I just had a super-cheap, kinda sharp-edged nylon webbing harness, I loved it. Now that I have the Joque? Even better. Pegging is so much fun, for both of us!

I agree, earthquakepixie. When my first cheapo harness broke, I was almost in tears. A tiny amount of water had been left behind in the snaps when I'd put it back together after cleaning, and by the next time we went to use it, it had rusted shut. Even when we got it open, it wasn't usable. The poor thing was dead.

The death of a harness, or any loyal sex toy, is a sad, solemn moment. (and an excuse to upgrade... hahah)
01/26/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
This is one of those things we will never do. I'm not sure if I'd want to, but hubby says never.
01/26/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I love using my harness. I love how I look, how I feel when I am using it (I usually orgasm) and my partners love being the receiver...no complaints.
I feel when I said this, I was looked at as being somewhat odd and this is from women who probably have multiple toys. This caught me by surprise.
Perhaps based on the limited response to this pole..this may be a common perception.
01/27/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by Victoria
I think harness is really fun and can bring a couple even closer together. I am "out" about liking it
Yes! I agree and totally support this and I love that you're "out" about it

My partner (male-identified) and I love harness stuff because we really get off on playing with gender. Plus, c'mon, if you haven't at least give prostate stimulation a try I really think you might be missing out!
04/08/2010
Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
Recently at a wine and cheese thing, the conversation turned to adult toys. I mentioned strap-on play and was somewhat surprised that only one other woman said she has a harness and enjoys it. Considering the number of harnesses and double dils ... more
It's fun, but it's gotta be a fun, open minded couple. My girl is pretty dominant so she loves having a strapon and using it. For a guy it is a way of relaxing and enjoying pleasure being done for/to him. For a woman I suppose it's about reversing the roles and power. She masturbates while she pegs me. She loves it. But it is not for all couples. Most women would not like to do this and most guys would never do this at all. If your mate doesn't want to do this, don't be disappointed. There's plenty of other activity that the both of you can enjoy. For some people the fantasy of this is actually better than the real thing.
04/19/2010
Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
I love using my harness. I love how I look, how I feel when I am using it (I usually orgasm) and my partners love being the receiver...no complaints.
I feel when I said this, I was looked at as being somewhat odd and this is from women who ... more
I could understand others seeing you as odd. Although it is gaining popularity, it isn't quite mainstream either.

How do you usually orgasm? Do you masturbate while pegging?
04/19/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Quote:
Originally posted by shepegsME
I could understand others seeing you as odd. Although it is gaining popularity, it isn't quite mainstream either.

How do you usually orgasm? Do you masturbate while pegging?
I use a wide base dil, (Leo), the base hits my clit while I thrust. Also double dils work for me, the Tango for example. A stable harness like the Aslan Jajuar or the Spare Parts Jock. With both these harnesses I also have genital access.
04/19/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
I enjoy it when my partner is willing and excited about it. I've had a few past pegging partners who just couldn't take it, so I prefer them to be experienced.
07/18/2010
Contributor: Liz Liz
I love it. I had never tried strap on play prior to my current relationship, but my partner was experienced and loved it, so I agreed to give it a try. It's not something we do every single night, but my harness definitely gets plenty of use.
07/26/2010
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
Our harnesses are used by my transman on me. I've never had one on myself, though I am curious. But I definitely love being on the receiving end. And it's so wonderful being able to change out the cocks, with is something bio-men can't do. Unless, of course, they're comfortable enough with themselves to use a harness as well, in which case, they have my total respect!

I don't think we can do without our harnesses though. Just love them.
07/26/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
We don't do it often but when we do, I do like it. Funny, because I didn't think I would at all, and I think I actually get into it more than hubby does. lol
07/26/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
I don't have a harness, but my bf wants me to get one someday, and I totally would, too.
07/27/2010
Contributor: SydVicious SydVicious
I have a harness but have never used it. I just got it a couple weeks ago and my hubby is out of town. He will be home in a few days and I'm going to bring it up then, so we will see. If he decides that he doesn't want me to used it on him, then I'll have him use it on me. It can be used for double penetration as well.
08/20/2010
Contributor: RadRach RadRach
2 lesbians in love + strap on = FUN



<3
09/04/2010
Contributor: silversnowleopardess silversnowleopardess
Both my husband and I love strap-on play. Unfortunately, due to my recent back surgery, we haven't been able to for awhile. Once I'm all better, though...
09/06/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
We've only done it once, but I would totally do it more often if my hubby would let me. He loved it when we did do it, but it's hard to do with kids! lol
09/10/2010
Contributor: Tisbury Tisbury
My girlfriend thinks it's too weird so I can't use it.
09/10/2010
Contributor: paralax paralax
Quote:
Originally posted by Liz2
Recently at a wine and cheese thing, the conversation turned to adult toys. I mentioned strap-on play and was somewhat surprised that only one other woman said she has a harness and enjoys it. Considering the number of harnesses and double dils ... more
my partner is who asked me to strap on in the first place. i enjoy it as the giver but dont finish with it. it just turns me on. if i do it too much i get frustrated with it though. i had to find different toys to use while doing it to finish. and now im %100.
09/10/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
I own a harness and enjoy my partner strapping it on, however I'm distinctly a bottom and don't enjoy strapping it on myself
09/18/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I LOVE it. I was so honored when my partner said he was interested, and jumped in that boat immediately. We talk about it often; he says he thinks of it daily. It isn't play that can happen often, but it stays special to us both and I would probably have to carefully consider dating someone in the future if he wasn't willing to give it a go.
09/18/2010
Contributor: Tart Tart
I just recently got a harness and strap on compatible dildo to use with a couple I am friends with. The woman loves when I use the strap on with her. The male loves to watch, and I am curious if he would to try it out too. I actually really enjoy when "gender identity" becomes involved in our play. I play out a more masculine role when I wear my harness and I love it.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Lonewolf Lonewolf
My partner would love it if I used one on him. But I'm cheap. Fist is good enough for now.
10/20/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Lonewolf
My partner would love it if I used one on him. But I'm cheap. Fist is good enough for now.
As in inserting the fist or using the fist to hold a dildo?

You can get a decent O-ring harness for about $30, less if you're fine with Bare As You Dare.
10/21/2010
Contributor: Sera Sera
I have a harness, and I like it, but my husband isn't as into it as I am. He tends to get jealous of my toys.
10/27/2010