Best dildo/kit for a beginner?

Contributor: sarahl sarahl
My boyfriend and I want to start pegging and I want to find a smaller dildo to start with and a good (but cheap) harness. Any suggestions?
03/18/2012
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03/18/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Get them a la carte.
First thing is to make sure he's interested in anal play. Try things out with fingers or other toys.

Then choose a dildo that you both like. Silicone is best here, since you can both use it after cleaning and sanitization.

If you're not sure about it you can do some handheld play and see if he likes the sensations.

Then look at harnesses. Get a double-strap "jock" type, and expect to spend a bit for it. A cheap harness won't fit well and will lead to frustration and/or discomfort - get something from Aslan, Sportsheets, SpareParts or Outlaw. You can get decent ones for $30-$40.
03/18/2012
Contributor: sarahl sarahl
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Get them a la carte.
First thing is to make sure he's interested in anal play. Try things out with fingers or other toys.

Then choose a dildo that you both like. Silicone is best here, since you can both use it after cleaning and ... more
Thanks, that was really helpful.
03/19/2012
Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Get them a la carte.
First thing is to make sure he's interested in anal play. Try things out with fingers or other toys.

Then choose a dildo that you both like. Silicone is best here, since you can both use it after cleaning and ... more
This is great advice. I haven't seen a single kit that combines a really nice comfortable high quality harness with a dildo I'd ever actually want to to use. Cheap harnesses chafe and rub and don't fit right and will very likely turn you off of the whole idea. And a high quality silicone dildo is a must. Buying the dildo first to see if he likes it when using it in hand is a good idea before you spend the money on the harness since that will be the expensive part. If he really doesn't like it, a silicone dildo is, as Scott points out, something you can share so maybe you can get some mileage out of it. Get a harness that has an o-ring you can change out since this will allow you to use it with many dildos. Most good harnesses have this feature.
03/24/2012