This one is for the Ladies who Peg and those who want to. What is it about pegging that drives you to do it or want to give it a shot. Is it the power exchange, is it just fun to switch it up, perhaps it is visually appealing, maybe a little bit of penis envy? Whatever it is, please let this guy know down below! And please, be gentile, it's my first time! You might have to hold me afterwards... ! less

Gunsmoke, has your wife mentioned why she is reluctant. The question I posed earlier is more about the psychological aspect of the act and less about the physical side of things.

I'm interested in knowing why some women are really into it and others aren't.

In my situation, I've asked twice and been turned down twice. I'm not going to beg for it to happen. Especially if I don't know if I will like it, although I highly suspect that I might.

I'm of the opinion that I'll try just about anything twice. less

How about a monetary bribe or some jewelry ?
Go to the bank and get some crisp Benjamin's. Leave it on the bed or nightstand and wait for her to ask what is this for ?

After she see's how much you enjoy it and moan so loud, she might willing to oblige you the 2nd time. Plus she might enjoy the reversed position of giving and power to please.

Might also help if you get her a pantie harness. A nice pretty one. And get a matching dildo. First timers may not want to wear that strappy harness that needs adjustment. They sell pantie harness for nearly every size.

A non phallic dildo will help also. Some women don't like the look of a big head or balls hanging down. Just think if she wanted you to wear some falsies, etc.

Good Luck. Remember if first not succeed, try and try again. Rome was not built in a day.

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Nope, no bribes or persuasion. I want this to be something she wants to do. I feel that one shouldn't have to be tricked or bribed into doing anything sexual. I feel the other party should want to do it. It's hotter that way. I know you are just kidding OH&W but in all seriousness, I've been turned down. I can live with it. I'm not going to beg anyone for anything (well almost anything...).

I'm also not trying to shrink my partner. I'm really just curious.

Also, perhaps I'm just use to seeing a "big head and balls hanging down" when I look down but I don't mind it. If she wanted me to wear falsies, I'd be down, just as long as I wasn't asked to do this in public on any day other than Halloween. Hell, I might look hotter in a pencil skirt than she does, from the waist down that is. Up top is all manly and that doesn't look too good matched in a skirt .

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Psychologically there are several factors that factor into her reluctance:

1. Even though we've been married for 25 years - there is a cultural bias that suggests that a man who wants anal play has gay desires/fantasies. She had these concerns but was reluctant to admit it.

2. I've spoiled her a bit. She's use to laying back and letting me take care of her. For her giving a HJ or BJ is 'active participation'. Pegging requires a lot more assertiveness than that. We still struggle with this. Even days when we 'agree' to an evening of pegging, she'll often find a way to sidetrack things to give me an orgasm in some other way. Since I'm over 60, going for a second orgasm takes too long.

3. Until recently all anal play was resisted. Once she accepted - even embraced anal sex, she was better able to understand the potential erotic potential for me.

I'm like you - not begging. But at the same time if I don't insist and take affirmative action (like placing the prepared harness on the bed), its not happening.

Because my wife tends to be submissive (in addition to being a little lazy), having me 'demand' that she do it - helps her feel that I'm still in charge.

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