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I completely disagree with this. While I absolutely agree that anything done without consent is abusive, I don't think that necessarily just because someone says "yes, do it," it should be done. I mean, if someone gives consent to be
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I completely disagree with this. While I absolutely agree that anything done without consent is abusive, I don't think that necessarily just because someone says "yes, do it," it should be done. I mean, if someone gives consent to be butchered like a pig and eaten, does that really not cross the line for you?
Having studied paraphilia from a psychological standpoint, there are cases when someone is mentally ill and the consent that they give should not be taken at face value. If someone is telling their Dom (or, quite frankly, anyone) to put their health or life at serious risk or to leave permanent damage, it should seriously be considered whether this person is of sound enough mind to give consent in the first place. That being said, there may also be cases where consent is given without a person fully understanding exactly what it means. I'm interested to know if you think that people of all ages should be able to give consent as well - after all, an 8 year old could just as easily give consent as an 18 year old.
On top of that, consent achieved through coercion or under false pretense should also not be considered consent. Lying to someone or manipulating them into doing something that they otherwise wouldn't, especially when you are in a role of power in their life, is absolutely abuse in my books. In the same way that failing to disclose that you have AIDS to a partner with whom you engage in intercourse is murder, tricking someone into giving their consent can just as easily be rape or assault. On top of which, consent can be withdrawn at any time, and though you don't explicitly say anything about that, I just want to include it because I think that it's an important thing to consider.
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Coercion isn't consent, and I didn't say that it was.
Yes, those things are acceptable if people consent to them. It isn't my business what others enjoy or take pleasure in. Some people are into extreme play, and while it may not be your cup of tea, it is theirs. To you it may seem like a problem of mental health - to them, they're being fulfilled.
And I do believe that people under the age of majority are able to give consent. That doesn't mean that people who are of age of majority should act on their consent due to laws surrounding that.
Your judgment of other people's lifestyles is disturbing.