What was your first time?

Contributor: Amelia Stone Amelia Stone
See I'm shy when it comes to voicing my ideas and then a lot of times I don't even know I want to try something until someone mentions it. So my question to you all is this. What was your first time in BDSM like and how did you bring it up to your partner? Or did your partner bring it up to you?
02/07/2012
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Insightful breakdown of First Time:

First Time Masturbating
When did you first masturbate, what age?

Suggestions for the first time using toys?
What is the best starter dildo for first tmer with toys?

If you were going to get someone a toy who had never had one before...
...What would you go with? What if you didn't know what they might like. For couples or by themself. Either way. P:

first time
whats the best toy to use for a beginner?

Your ideal first time threesome? A purely "What If" question!
This is purely a What If question, so please answer it that way. I'm not asking if you would or wouldn't or if you have or haven't, I'm just asking..
02/07/2012
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I brought it up. At first I told him I liked handcuffs, so he bought some fuzzy ones, and handcuffed me to the bed. Then as I discovered more things, I brought those up too. Now we have a flogger and a ball gag.
02/07/2012
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
It can be awkward, but think ahead and do your part to make things less so.

The first thing I would do is to sit down and think about what you would like out of a relationship. Before approaching him - you need to know what changes that you would want made. Know what you're asking for. Filling out a BDSM Checklist (you can google it - they are everywhere) might surprise you as to what really turns you on. That's even something you could show him and ask him to fill out too (if he's comfortable with it) so you can both see where your fetishes match up.

This shows him that you've thought a good bit about it, done your homework, an are serious about it.

It doesn't so much matter how everyone else has went about it, because not everyone else is in -your- relationship, and you want to do this right.

Good Luck, Sweets
~TSD
02/08/2012
Contributor: levellc09 levellc09
I gradually asked for rough or kinky actions during sex. A smack her some scratches there. Finally she got some handcuffs and a blindfold. We like to spank with our hands but we are getting a flogger soon.
02/08/2012