Something to keep in mind. Any other ideas?

This is pretty basic. I would use a cock ring after sucking him up, fondle and tickle his balls, lick them and put one in my mouth. Then tease his head with my tongue over and over and not put it in my mouth til he begs me to.

When I finally give him dt,I'll pump the heck out of his butt with a toy. Next I will grasped his balls gently and warm him not to cum. Then I'll sit on him. Next I will turn him over and give him some light spanking.If he complains about the spanking I will very gently tap his balls. That always puts him in submission. By now he is putty in my hands !

By now obviously it will be his turn. He will beg me allow him to tie me up, but I will not let him. I'll allow him to give me oral and then put his cock inside me.

All men are butt shy or scared of it. Once mine discovered the pleasure and increase in size, he always wants it.

After a session like this I'll get him to take me to dinner anywhere I want.

Yeah it does. I'd love to play with his nipples, for some reason I find it a turn on, but I'm usually lucky if I get to brush against them once or twice while we're doing things. Thanks for the input!

What's the point in using a cock ring during oral? Just wondering as so far we've primarily used cock rings to change the sensation during sex, primarily the vibrating kind.

For some reason he gets harder. Also don't want him to relax at all. We use the firm plastic ones for this.

Ah ok. Thanks for clarifying.

No, we've been too busy to actually plan anything out. Also he's only willing to let me try tying him up when he's relaxed, and his work has had him stressed out the last few weeks. He did tie me up about a week ago, which was awesome, though he could've drawn things out a little more.

I actually just tied my girl up and played with her recently. I tied her leg in a futomomo and tied her wrists together. I smacked around her breasts, her bottom, all while she had a vibrator pulsing inside of her.

If he doesn't want you playing with his nipples or behind, you could always tease him with your own body. I'm not sure whether you're a woman or a man, however, but forced penetration is fun and can be a tease to some people.

Agreed.

oils - cinnamon, clove, licorice
sweeping of flogging with my hair
using various kitchen/bathroom implements all over for sensation

Oh my god!

Well. Here I go. First of all here I am at 60 and separated and finally found a woman my own age who is into doing things like tying and being tied. We have had one session so far. First, a word on supplies. A visit to the hardware store and the pet store got us going. Quite a few cheap caribeeners. Dog collars of different sizes make excellent "cuffs"for ankles, wrists, and just above or below the knee. They are easy to connect to other things and they are comfortable. Rope and very light chain material from the hardware store and a short riding crop (whip to some people). Also, two empty wine bottles with lables removed and cleaned off. Also someone bought me this cool gift-- a metal bar that you put in the freezer and then you put it into a bottle of wine and the wine is poured out througy this metal bar/tube. One wine bottle is filled with water and frozen. The other at the time of the session is filled with very warm water.
Here are a couple of ideas. Roll the warm wine bottle all over the persons body or particular areas. Then copy the same motions with the cool bar (I call it the Freezer Teezer. You can use the sides of it or the end. I slowly made my way to the area where her legs meet. I teezed her there for a while and she went really quite crazy writhing around like mad. So I began touching her more personal areas and she was so receptive that we ended up with a tiny bit of insertion. It was amazing-- she loved it. But I would be very careful and just a bit there. Also, about ten feet of very light chain looped around several times and then tied so it has a sort of handle of rope or a caribeener works great for dragging around the skin all over the body. Cooling it would work great too. The whole warm / cold contrast thing works really well. Then the small vibrator wand came out at the last point and whoah what an orgasm she had. This was the most fun I have had in years. I have more plans and more ideas. If you don't want to tie your partner to the bed you can simply use caribeeners to clip the wrists to the knees or ankles. A great deal of fun is to be had. I plan to keep being inventive; it must be about teazing and taunting. Now, we talk about this stuff and I actually want a bit of pain and I want her to give me enough with the horse crop so that it stings, but I would never do that to her.... On her it is just theatrics and play.