subs/slaves/masochists /bottoms: Do you get sexually turned on when pain is inflicted on you?

Contributor: TransMarc TransMarc
Depends on what is used to inflict the pain.
04/27/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
In the context of a scene, usually. Some days my tolerance is really low and everything hurts in a bad way.
05/24/2012
Contributor: SkinFlute SkinFlute
It depends on the context...
05/24/2012
Contributor: KinkyKatiya KinkyKatiya
Quote:
Originally posted by CandidKinkster
I'm curious about how many bottoms find themselves sexually aroused when pain is inflicted on them. Personally, I don't find pain play sexually arousing, but I think I'm in the minority.
I can't stress how much it turns me on, It only takes one... and I'm like a crack addict waiting for my next fix. ^.^
05/24/2012
Contributor: Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
it definitely all depends on what kind of pain and where it's inflicted. Like I like being bitten and scratched and whipped flogged blah blah and I'm in to knifeplay but the level of eroticism all depends on where the pain is placed- for instance an instant turn off is my feet even if the pain is something I find enjoyable elsewhere.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
sometimes
05/25/2012
Contributor: Life's Little Secrets Life's Little Secrets
I agree that it isn't about the pain that turns me on. Albeit, the pain does turn me on, but I enjoy my SO being in control more.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Kaleb Kaleb
Initial pain from a bite or strike usually isn't a turn on. What is is the lingering sensitivity afterwards.
05/26/2012
Contributor: BeepBop BeepBop
It depends on the kind of pain. Pin point pain is mostly annoying, but thuddy or more spread out pain is good.

It also depends on the person inflicting it.
05/27/2012
Contributor: All His All His
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
I don't get turned on by the pain itself. What turns me on is having him be in control of the situation which may or may not involve pain. If it's too much pain it's a turn off for me and I make sure to let him know otherwise it ends up ... more
Totally my viewpoint as well
05/28/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
sometimes, I'm more mentally stimulated by trying to figure out how much pain I can take, it's a challenge to me.
06/19/2012
Contributor: Envoutes Envoutes
If I'm ever to be the sub, never. I can't find pain arousing (though I've never tried it, so there's that). But my pet is a masochist, and he usually gets turned on by pain. Mostly from biting and scratching I think.
06/20/2012
Contributor: Izzaba Izzaba
at times yes I do as a sub. I have to say a little pain is good as long as it does not go to far, no black and blue "please". Tie me down and make the butt roses red, a good flogging across the upper back will put me out like a light.
06/22/2012
Contributor: chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
Quote:
Originally posted by CandidKinkster
I'm curious about how many bottoms find themselves sexually aroused when pain is inflicted on them. Personally, I don't find pain play sexually arousing, but I think I'm in the minority.
not for me
06/22/2012
Contributor: thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
It's a definite turn on for me, but only if I'm warmed up, relaxed, and feel safe. I can't take pain with no foreplay at all, it has to be woven in with some more direct sexual pleasure.
06/23/2012
Contributor: Nirelan Nirelan
I like to see the welts after
06/23/2012
Contributor: LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
I get turned on by it, especially if I'm blindfolded. I really miss it since it's been 7 years since I've last had sex...My ex only had BDSM sex with me twice before he started thinking I was a monster for being into it. It isn't like I convinced the asshole to do it, he wanted to try it out. Oh damn, I'm way off topic lol.

Yes, I find pain to be sexually stimulating USUALLY. However, I'm not to fond of caning...It's a little too much OWWIES for lil ol' me.
06/23/2012
Contributor: Greenleaf Greenleaf
I'm a switch, but I'm answering anyway - hope that's alright!

It depends entirely on how much I'm receiving, and who is dishing it out. I only have a moderate level of tolerance before it stops being a good hurt, and just hurts. The only person I trust enough to enjoy myself with that way is my partner.

And since it's been brought up - love, love marks left behind. I like the little twinges I get hours (or days!) later, and have a tendency to poke at non-bdsm related bruises and scrapes as well.
06/23/2012
Contributor: Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
Scratching and hair pulling just get to me
06/23/2012
Contributor: TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
Some types of pain are a turn-on. Some types of pain are a release. It really depends on the type of pain and level of pain that it is.

Example: Hair pulling, scratching, biting, knife play, breath play = turn on

Quirt, dragon's tail, single tail, flogging, punching = release

Occasionally there's some cross over. It depends on my mood and the situation.
06/24/2012
Contributor: Mitzuki Mitzuki
I really need to be in the mood for a lot of pain, but I absolutely love the marks they give me. I wear those marks with pride.
06/24/2012
Contributor: AshMegYo AshMegYo
ehhh, rarely..I like being bit and spanked but nothing too extreme.
06/24/2012
Contributor: Chami Chami
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
I don't get turned on by the pain itself. What turns me on is having him be in control of the situation which may or may not involve pain. If it's too much pain it's a turn off for me and I make sure to let him know otherwise it ends up ... more
I agree with this I love my man to be in control pain or no pain its just such a turn on
06/25/2012
Contributor: CadmiumKitty CadmiumKitty
it depends
06/27/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
I'm a total pain slut but I find that if I'm not properly prepped or if I'm too sensitive from other sensations sometimes pain can be a little overwhelming. GREAT. But overwhelming. Sometimes I need to call breaks but GENERALLY I love it. A surprise spanking or pinch/bite to the neck can turn me on pretty much instantly.
06/28/2012
Contributor: Boyqueen Boyqueen
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
I don't get turned on by the pain itself. What turns me on is having him be in control of the situation which may or may not involve pain. If it's too much pain it's a turn off for me and I make sure to let him know otherwise it ends up ... more
Similar for me.
07/05/2012
Contributor: Boyqueen Boyqueen
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
I don't get turned on by the pain itself. What turns me on is having him be in control of the situation which may or may not involve pain. If it's too much pain it's a turn off for me and I make sure to let him know otherwise it ends up ... more
Similar for me.
07/05/2012
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
Most of the time I like some pain
08/04/2012
Contributor: itismedi itismedi
Quote:
Originally posted by CandidKinkster
I'm curious about how many bottoms find themselves sexually aroused when pain is inflicted on them. Personally, I don't find pain play sexually arousing, but I think I'm in the minority.
Always! I cannot say 100% that it is all pain and not a little being dominated...so hot! LOL
08/13/2012
Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
i don't get turned on by stubbing my toe or having my eyebrows waxed or getting shots at the doctor's. i do get turned on by the blossom of pain after a cane stroke or the snap of tails on a flogger or the thud of a paddle. i think cutting, burning and/or needles might be types of pain i could learn to be aroused by, though i haven't been brave enough to try yet. i attended a seminar where a woman with incredible pain processing skills said that pain, without the fear or shame that normally accompanies it, is merely intense sensation. When viewed this way, my reaction to pain in the proper context makes sense, even though other types of pain don't evoke arousal for me. And i do love being marked and i love the soreness and tenderness that linger the day after a good beating. Sitting on bruises and welts from a caning or paddling or having them rubbing against my clothing will keep me in a perpetual state of arousal for as long as they can still be felt, several days sometimes.
08/14/2012