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Sex Fact: Five Types of Dominant Women

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Contributor: Kayla Kayla
In “The Mistress Manual”, the author describes five different types of Dominant women. Each type of woman has their own style of domination. They are:
Nursemaid – Tends to tease and chastise her diapered partner
Governess – Tends to spank and discipline her partner who is a “student”.
Queen – Demands service and punishes her “sissy” partner
Amazon – Dominate and mocks her sex slave
Goddess – Demands worship of her female beauty

To find more sex facts like this, check out The Mistress Manual, sold on EdenFantasys, which is the book where this sex fact came from.

What style are you (or your partner)? Do you think there are other domination styles along with these?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Nursemaid
13
Governess
27
Queen
24
Amazon
27
Goddess
59
Other
68
Total votes: 218 (158 voters)
Poll is closed
10/03/2011
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Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I didn't like any of those archetypes actually.
10/03/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I am a Goddess whether I am in or out of the bedroom!
10/03/2011
Contributor: Angelica Angelica
A little mix of all of the above, depending. I am a switch though so I am not always in dom mode :]
10/03/2011
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
Voted governess for the wife!
10/03/2011
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
Dunno, I'm not really sure there's a need to categorize dominance like that. What's more, I'm not sure it's helpful. All of those sound like me, or at least speak to some of me. These kinds of dominance do not exist in their own separate worlds. One could bring any number of blended demeanors to bear on any number of scenes.
10/04/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I think I'd tend to be the Goddess - if I find a female sub. I can't dominate over a guy.... just not my thing.
10/04/2011
Contributor: lilly555 lilly555
goddess always and governess occassionally
10/04/2011
Contributor: LinToxic LinToxic
Goddess definitely. teehee
10/04/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by carenautilus
Dunno, I'm not really sure there's a need to categorize dominance like that. What's more, I'm not sure it's helpful. All of those sound like me, or at least speak to some of me. These kinds of dominance do not exist in their own ... more
I agree, I don't see the categorization as helpful, and there are certainly more types than those five if it must be labeled. I'm a kind and generous Master to my beloved pet... Sometimes. And sometimes I'm a Dom to my sub, but I don't feel like I fit any of those archetypes. (But then, I'm not really much of a woman either.)
10/04/2011
Contributor: big b big b
all the above
10/04/2011
Contributor: Kkay Kkay
I'm a sub, but I feel like each of these speaks more to a specific kink, and that it's possible to be dominant without falling into one of these categories. It could be useful for someone who is looking for a way to classify their interests to find similar people, but I usually don't like statements that these ARE the categories that exist. Sex, sexuality, and the expressions thereof are complicated. And then you get BDSM that is entirely unsexual, and, yeah.
10/04/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I'm not always a dominant person, and if I am, each of these types are present in their own way, but mostly I'd be a goddess.
10/04/2011
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
When I'm dominant, I'm a goddess. But I'm usually a sub or equal.
10/04/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
I'm a mixture of a few things, and then a sprinkling of some other "characters" not mentioned. Of the list, I'm primarily Nursemaid, following by Queen. There is definitely an element of Goddess for female partners, combined with a strong Nursemaid aspect. Very cool post!
10/05/2011
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
Only 5 types of Dommes, really? I don't fit into any of those. I'm a service sadist, damnit! I want my own special label.

Flippant comments aside, I do think only having 5 types of dominant women is really limiting.
10/05/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I am a Goddess for sure , but am a sub. who likes to try to Top on occasion.
10/05/2011
Contributor: Miss Morphine Miss Morphine
I don't know that I fit any of these really.
10/06/2011
Contributor: Eucaly Eucaly
I'm sure there are other styles than these, simply because nothing ever really fits into neat little categories.
10/06/2011
Contributor: Emma Emma
I tend to tease. Teasing is a girls best trait
10/07/2011
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
My Master doesn't fit into any of these. I chose 'other' for her.
10/07/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
In “The Mistress Manual”, the author describes five different types of Dominant women. Each type of woman has their own style of domination. They are:
Nursemaid – Tends to tease and chastise her diapered partner
Governess – Tends to spank and ... more
No question..I'm a Goddess. It was always our little joke too....as our daughter would always roll her eyes and say "...God, Mom....", to which my answer was always "CORRECT"!!!
10/07/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Emma
I tend to tease. Teasing is a girls best trait
I love to TEASE too....but my hubby sure ain't no "diaper wearing baby"!!!! (as the choice above implies).
10/07/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Pixel
Only 5 types of Dommes, really? I don't fit into any of those. I'm a service sadist, damnit! I want my own special label.

Flippant comments aside, I do think only having 5 types of dominant women is really limiting.
A "service sadist"? I learn new things here every day.
10/07/2011
Contributor: Rawhide Rawhide
"Sex Facts"???? There are way more than 5 ways to be a dominant female. These are way to simplistic to be taken seriously.
10/07/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
A little Goddess, a little Queen and a lot of Amazon- if we're going by the archetypes anyway.
10/07/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
In “The Mistress Manual”, the author describes five different types of Dominant women. Each type of woman has their own style of domination. They are:
Nursemaid – Tends to tease and chastise her diapered partner
Governess – Tends to spank and ... more
I tend to be Amazon...which is amusing to me since I am only foot tall if I streeeeetch as tall as I can!
10/07/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My girl is a Goddess - but maybe not in the way described here. It's just because I'd do anything she asked me to do - but she never uses that power in a dominating way.
10/08/2011
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
Demands to be worshiped, sounds about right
10/10/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
I choice Goddess, but I am all except the nursemaid. Hey, I have to change enough diapered ass with two babies.
10/10/2011