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Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Who uses what system for safe words.

Example:-

Standard (Traffic Light System)
Green : Okay/Harder
Yellow : Slow Down/Stop
Red : End-The-Scene
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
5  (13%)
16  (41%)
1  (3%)
10  (26%)
2  (5%)
5  (13%)
Total votes: 39
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09/11/2015
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Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Very slow poll.
09/27/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
[There is no safe word in my scene] x 2

We have some very daring individuals...
09/28/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
[There is no safe word in my scene] x 2

We have some very daring individuals...
Just not that many bdsm members active now.

Maybe they are all tied up.

Or gagged
09/28/2015
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
[There is no safe word in my scene] x 2

We have some very daring individuals...
I don't believe in having safe words in my relationship honestly. Since I am very against rape play, there's no reason I need a special word to tell him to stop or slow down if I want things to change. I also believe he should keep an eye on how I'm doing, try to judge my emotional and physical reactions, and understand my needs as well as I do. I think he does well actually.
09/28/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Just not that many bdsm members active now.

Maybe they are all tied up.

Or gagged
Very clever.

You write your own material?

Oh wait... you do.

09/29/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Very clever.

You write your own material?

Oh wait... you do.

09/29/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Very funny... not.
10/11/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Just not that many bdsm members active now.

Maybe they are all tied up.

Or gagged
Just no fun without like minded individuals.
10/13/2015
Contributor: Sir Sir
We don't use safe words. We are very heavy edge players and also have a very particular dynamic.
10/31/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Very funny... not.
No, I thought that one was my best of the month. Do I need to include some gags ? Or pics of tied up subs ?
11/01/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
No, I thought that one was my best of the month. Do I need to include some gags ? Or pics of tied up subs ?
Please do... of both.
11/01/2015
Contributor: FleurDevereux FleurDevereux
We have a single safe word that we hardly ever use in normal conversation. We like to push our limits and when we need the other to absolutely stop, safe word comes into play. Only ever had to actually use it once in the last 8 years.
11/11/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by FleurDevereux
We have a single safe word that we hardly ever use in normal conversation. We like to push our limits and when we need the other to absolutely stop, safe word comes into play. Only ever had to actually use it once in the last 8 years.
Push harder? Lol. That is a really good track record. I once had a partner who had so many limits we stopped every few minutes to "discuss" what was going to happen next.
11/12/2015
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
Push harder? Lol. That is a really good track record. I once had a partner who had so many limits we stopped every few minutes to "discuss" what was going to happen next.
That would actually get frustrating/annoying and make it difficult to complete a scene.
11/13/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by Lvstoplay
That would actually get frustrating/annoying and make it difficult to complete a scene.
Too true. Very annoying.
11/13/2015
Contributor: dhig dhig
traffic light colours
11/17/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
Quote:
Originally posted by dhig
traffic light colours
Do you say "Yellow" or "Amber"?
11/18/2015
Contributor: Moominz Moominz
As a sexual Submissive & someone who LOVES BDSM I have to say the universal traffic light safe words work best. Nobody can forget what word is what, it's very obvious. Also if you are gagged or in a position you can't speak you should have a bell or squeaker to use as a safe word!!
03/17/2016
Contributor: Brandiewhy Brandiewhy
We have the standard Red, Yellow, Green. I have yet to use them, but Im thankful we have established them for both of our safety!
03/19/2016
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
I've noticed a change in my play and have moved to using unique words that don't fall into standard conversation now.
03/23/2016
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by TheToyGuy
I've noticed a change in my play and have moved to using unique words that don't fall into standard conversation now.
Ours is "Ouch !" "Hold It !"
04/27/2016
Contributor: subbieforHer subbieforHer
My Mistress and I rarely resort to using safewords, although we do have a few from the past that are random, almost non-nonsensical words, meant to clearly signal to pause and find out what's going on. Whenever I'm gagged, I am allowed to use a non-verbal "safeword" such as snapping my fingers back-to-back-to-back in order to stop.

That being said, as a slave, I do my absolute best to avoid having to resort to using these, although it does give one some peace of mind knowing that it's always there.
07/11/2016
Contributor: MissKee MissKee
In scenes and playspaces, red/yellow/green is nice to get accustomed to for standard practice. I also think hand signals / drop signals are VERY important to have along with safewords, not instead of them. During play, bottoms/subs can be overwhelmed and need to stop, but be too mentally fried to speak - even if they are not gagged or otherwise silenced. Having hand signals or drop signals gives them multiple avenues to communicate. Communication is important!

For those interested, a drop signal is when the person holds an object like a bell, or some solid object that clatters and clangs when dropped - that way if they need to signal that something is awry, they can just let go and the top/Dom will touch base with them and make sure everything is alright.
12/09/2017
Contributor: AlaskanBeauty AlaskanBeauty
Standart - red means "no", and if gaged - shake your head.
12/22/2017