My wife in the past has been turned on by spanking. She is the submissive type in bed, very dominant in real life. I am rather submissive myself, but am dominant as well due to my role as father and for my job.

Don't know much about spanking or BDSM, how can I get to know what she likes? Do I ask her? She is too shy about roleplaying, as I wanted to roleplay threesomes with a dildo as the third, but she seems to not be able to do it, instead likes to escape into her mind.

Any suggestions as to how I can go about this? Think I can work in the extra cock? I guess I could just "go for it" and get a crop, etc. and try to dominate her but don't want this to be a cheesey experience for her either.... less

Yeah, I wouldn't spank in front of a child. Kids, even at this age are really impressionable. Sex even sometimes looks violent to them. Spanking may send the wrong signals to your baby about how you and your wife communicate.

My Man and I do not use spanking with kids as a form of discipline, but still, I wouldn't want them to see a LOT of the stuff we do in bed. OK, I wouldn't want them to see any of it.

I know it's hard when you have a small baby. Our kids slept with us for a long time, but we always had a crib in an other room for when we had sex. Just a thing with me, I guess. Once they were old enough to peek through the crib bars in the room, the crib went into an other room! Baby could still come into our bed for feeding and cuddling and sleeping, but we always would gently move them into the "big girl" or "big boy" crib in an other room, if we were going to get it on.

Mileage and all that. less