My interests are getting progressively more extreme, but never dangerous so I don't worry about it. I feel confident putting all my trust in my husband and have found that the only problem is he's not as rough as I want him to be, but we're still pretty new to BDSM.
Are you into the same things you were when you first got into kinky activities? Have you found that you've started to require more and more extreme or taboo activities to "get off"?
04/25/2011
Yes and no. I do like more extreme things than when I first started but I still like the thing's I liked then mostly too. I'm not afraid of expanding my kink experiences with the more extreme and I don't think it will lead to be problematic.
04/27/2011
for the most part my kink all depends on my partner with my girlfriend now I'm much more tame than with my ex but I'm okay with that
07/10/2011
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mine have stayed the same but i find im more open about them now
Originally posted by
Domineight
Many people I know are now into things sexually they would have ones turned their nose up at. I have found myself requiring heavier activity to get that same rush. I personally have crossed something I would have considered a "hard limit"
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Many people I know are now into things sexually they would have ones turned their nose up at. I have found myself requiring heavier activity to get that same rush. I personally have crossed something I would have considered a "hard limit" but nothing that would be harmful, so I don't really find it problematic. I have had friends, however, whose interests have progressed to a point I worry they could put themselves in real danger and I wonder what everyone else's experience have been. I made posting anonymous.
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07/11/2011
I had a lot of hard limits and judgments about things when I first entered the scene that I have a different perspective on now. There is a difference between imagining something and saying "I would never do THAT" and seeing it in practice... and done well and safely... and saying sure, sounds like fun.
I do some edgy play but I don't need hardcore to get off. It's not fear or being on the edge that appeals to me. Whatever I'm doing I'm enjoying.
I do some edgy play but I don't need hardcore to get off. It's not fear or being on the edge that appeals to me. Whatever I'm doing I'm enjoying.
07/11/2011
I think my liking's have changed a lot. I used to find floggers intimidating, and now I have one that I love. I like the idea of a lot rougher BDSM now too.
Right now, I kind of want to try wax play. But I'm also pretty nervous. So I don't know when that will happen. If it ever does.
Right now, I kind of want to try wax play. But I'm also pretty nervous. So I don't know when that will happen. If it ever does.
11/12/2011
I'm not surprised at how my preferences have changed as much as I am surprised at how much I love taboo play. It's really amazing.
11/13/2011
As someone relatively new to all of this stuff, it's great to have a thread like this where I can read other people's thoughts on this topic, since it's one I sometimes find myself concerned about, as well. Thank you all for sharing, your experiences are really helping me.
11/14/2011
Used to include more stuff like some bondage and hot wax, now it's pretty much just spankings. I think that's just because I've gotten lazier and more stagnant in what I like though.
11/20/2011
Not particularly. Granted, I've not been doing this long, but my tastes haven't changed so drastically.
11/25/2011
What attracted me to BDSM was corporal punishment, and to this day that is still my central interest. As I've been exposed to new things I've developed other interests of course, but my interest isn't based on following whatever is new or taboo at the time. I either like it or I don't. Any given activity's position on the scale of mundane to edgy doesn't factor into my personal level of interest. Corporal punishment has gotten about as mundane as it can be in BDSM culture at large, and it's still my fave through and through.
11/25/2011
I voted on the second option. I don't find that I have to have more extreme things to get off. I do, however, find that I am more open minded to the extreme and willing to try practically everything, except perhaps poop.
I can deal with Golden showers giving or receiving if my partner was interested, but the poop things is just too much for me.
I'd love blood play, piercing, knives, needles, electro-stimulation, I might even try enema's at some point. I don't have to have them, I am just as happy with whips and floggers or paddles and canes.
I can deal with Golden showers giving or receiving if my partner was interested, but the poop things is just too much for me.
I'd love blood play, piercing, knives, needles, electro-stimulation, I might even try enema's at some point. I don't have to have them, I am just as happy with whips and floggers or paddles and canes.
12/05/2011
More extreme, and I LOVE it
12/21/2011
More extreme, but I am still new to the BDSM scene, so that's fine by me
12/22/2011
In general I feel we've moved to the more extreme.
12/28/2011
I think it's more-so been that the more I'm introduced to other things, that more things I'd like to try. Not necessarily that they're more extreme, but it's the realization that kink isn't limited to a handful of things. That it's really anything you need to be.
07/09/2012
My interests have increased, but I'm still happy with vanilla sex. Part of it is just having the experience to feel confident doing the kinkier acts without risk
07/17/2012
My interests have definitely expanded since I first started playing. I'm pretty sure the thought of breath play or consensual non-consent would have frightened me away a few years ago, but now I happily (and safely) enjoy them. Does that frighten me? No, precisely because I haven't stopped enjoying the less edgy types of play. I don't feel like I need more and more to get off as time goes on; instead, I feel like I'm simply able to enjoy a greater variety of activities, each of which is fun in its own right and none of which threaten to "replace" any of the others.
07/17/2012
I don't feel more extreme. I feel more varied, and a little less easily squicked.
07/17/2012
In some ways, I've gotten more extreme, but in many, I've mellowed out.
07/17/2012
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They have def progressed over time and im totally ok with that
Originally posted by
Domineight
Many people I know are now into things sexually they would have ones turned their nose up at. I have found myself requiring heavier activity to get that same rush. I personally have crossed something I would have considered a "hard limit"
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Many people I know are now into things sexually they would have ones turned their nose up at. I have found myself requiring heavier activity to get that same rush. I personally have crossed something I would have considered a "hard limit" but nothing that would be harmful, so I don't really find it problematic. I have had friends, however, whose interests have progressed to a point I worry they could put themselves in real danger and I wonder what everyone else's experience have been. I made posting anonymous.
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07/23/2012
i'm still enjoy all of the things i initially did. They are still exciting and still push my buttons. i do find though, that as i explore the kink community and see new things i get curious about trying some of them. i definitely see my limits becoming more flexible and some of my previously hard limits being readjusted. i don't see myself becoming dangerous at all and i don't have any shame associated with my kink. i see myself becoming more open minded and my fears being broken down which i see as completely positive.
07/23/2012
I have plenty of interests, and it seems like over time I just keep adding more to the pile There's still plenty that I am actively not interested in, but I don't see my growing interests as a problem. Just different ways to have fun!
07/23/2012
My interests haven't changed so much as I've become more comfortable pursuing them in myself and in my current relationship.
07/23/2012
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its more extreem now then when i first started
Originally posted by
Domineight
Many people I know are now into things sexually they would have ones turned their nose up at. I have found myself requiring heavier activity to get that same rush. I personally have crossed something I would have considered a "hard limit"
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Many people I know are now into things sexually they would have ones turned their nose up at. I have found myself requiring heavier activity to get that same rush. I personally have crossed something I would have considered a "hard limit" but nothing that would be harmful, so I don't really find it problematic. I have had friends, however, whose interests have progressed to a point I worry they could put themselves in real danger and I wonder what everyone else's experience have been. I made posting anonymous.
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07/23/2012
Definitely growing!
07/24/2012
For myself, I'd say that my comfort zones have generally expanded since I started doing kink, but it's not a matter of needing more extreme things to get the same rush. I'm always interested in trying new things, and my tastes have changed over time, but I still enjoy most of the things I started out wanting to do.
07/24/2012
Things become more aggressive with my partner but we are both still physically capable of having normal old boring vanilla sex.
07/24/2012
my all time favorite tweet link
07/26/2012
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so completely true for me as well. i've gone years without much kink at all. but with other people it's just the natural dynamic
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Dragon
I think that so much is mental and the relationship with the person that it could go a long way with one person, but then I'd completely back down to almost vanilla with someone else...
I like the thread!
I like the thread!
07/26/2012